Finding Joy: Breaking the Cycle of Anger in Parenting
In this final episode of 2025, I’m sharing something deeply personal - my relationship with anger, where it came from, and how I’ve worked to change it. This is one of the most vulnerable solo episodes I’ve ever recorded, because anger is a feeling so many of us carry quietly, especially in parenthood.
This episode is for the parent who feels ashamed after snapping. For the one who feels tense all the time. For the one who is scared they might repeat what they grew up with. Your anger does not make you a bad parent. It makes you human. And change is possible.
I discuss:
✔️ How anger showed up in my early life and why it became my default response
✔️ The moment with our puppy that forced me to see my patterns clearly
✔️ How stress, trauma, and burnout can pull old reactions back to the surface
✔️ What I learned through coaching, therapy, and eventually EMDR
✔️ How this work changed my nervous system, my parenting, and my day-to-day mindset
✔️ The brain science behind anger and why your body reacts before your thoughts do
✔️ What often sits underneath explosive reactions
✔️ How your window of tolerance affects everything
✔️ The real tools I use when I feel overwhelmed
✔️ How I teach my kids that feelings are allowed, but hurtful behavior is not
00:00 Scary parents are scared parents01:10 Why anger shows up in parenting02:49 When anger becomes a problem, not a protector03:09 The moment I knew I had to change05:44 Trauma, motherhood, and why anger came back06:59 How therapy helped me find peace08:48 Fear, the nervous system, and the science of anger10:59 Breaking the cycle while raising kids12:14 Tools to handle anger in the moment14:13 Teaching kids that feelings are ok, harmful behavior is not17:03 Repair, progress, and modeling growth19:48 When to seek support and why it matters21:41 You are not broken, change is possible
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The Follow-Up: Motherhood Insomnia
If you’ve ever spent the whole day dreaming about going to bed, only to climb under the covers and lie wide awake, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. I’m joined by sleep psychologist Dr. Shelby Harris to talk about the tired-but-wired cycle so many mothers fall into and why it’s more common than you think.
We unpack the real reasons your brain won’t shut off at night, from revenge bedtime procrastination to the mental load that follows moms everywhere. Dr. Harris explains how habits, overstimulation, and our constant push to “catch up” all get in the way of rest, even when we’re desperate for it. And most importantly, she shares the science-backed strategies that actually work for an overwhelmed parent who needs sleep but can’t find the off switch.
Whether you’re dealing with the occasional rough night or months of broken sleep, this conversation brings clarity, relief, and doable steps that don’t add more pressure to your already full plate.
In This Episode, We Cover:
✔️ Why moms feel exhausted all day yet can’t fall asleep at night
✔️ The psychology behind “tired but wired”
✔️ Revenge bedtime procrastination and why it hits mothers so hard
✔️ How over-stimulation and unfinished to-dos keep your brain awake
✔️ Simple sleep hygiene habits that truly help
✔️ What to do when your phone is sabotaging your nights
✔️ Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I): who it helps and why
✔️ When to consider medication and what that process looks like
✔️ How our own sleep habits shape our kids’ sleep long term
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Modern Parenting: What We’re Getting Right & What We Might Be Overthinking
In this episode, I sit down with retired pediatrician and grandmother Dr. Bubbie, whose 40 years in pediatrics give her a rare, steady perspective on the highs and lows of raising kids today. We talk about what modern parents are doing well, why so many of us feel anxious even when we’re doing a good job, and how social media has quietly changed the way we parent.
Dr. Bubbie shares what she has learned from decades of caring for families and what surprised her when she stepped into the online world after retiring. We get into the pressures parents feel to get everything right, the fear of making mistakes, and how comparison steals the calm that most families are craving. We also talk honestly about grandparents, boundaries, discipline, and the tension between wanting to follow all the new information out there while trying to honor our own instincts.
We also cover: ✔️ What today’s parents truly excel at ✔️ How finances, childcare, and social media shape stress ✔️ Why intuition gets quieter when we’re overloaded ✔️ What past generations did well that’s worth bringing back ✔️ How to think about milestones without panicking ✔️ The rise of gentle parenting, what it gets right, and where it goes sideways ✔️ Why some kids seem “behind” online when they’re actually right on track ✔️ Vaccine misinformation, raw milk trends, and the danger of online “experts” ✔️ How pediatricians actually make decisions, and why the team approach matters
To connect with Dr. Bubbie follow her on Instagram @askbubbie and check out all her resources at linktree.com/askbubbie
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The Follow-Up: Strong-Willed Toddler Strategies
Power struggles feel like part of the toddler job description, but they don’t have to run the whole house. In this episode, I break down what’s really happening in those intense moments and how small shifts in tone, control, and connection can turn things around. This isn’t about “winning” a battle. It’s about helping your child feel capable while keeping your own sanity intact.
We talk through the everyday situations that spark the most battles, why strong-willed kids push back as hard as they do, and how to meet them with calm authority instead of getting pulled into the chaos. You’ll learn how to give healthy control without giving up your boundaries, how to use your child’s growing cognitive skills, and how to de-escalate when emotions spill over on both sides.
If you’re tired of standoffs at mealtime, bedtime, the bathroom, or anywhere in between, this episode will help you feel more steady, more clear, and less stuck in the tug-of-war.
In This Episode, We Cover:
✔️ Why it takes two to have a power struggle
✔️ When to give control and when to step in
✔️ How to offer choices without losing structure
✔️ Simple scripts that shift the tone instantly
✔️ Using cognitive development to your advantage
✔️ Redirecting repetitive demands without escalating
✔️ How to recover when things go sideways
✔️ Playfulness as a tool for reducing tension
Want more? Listen to the full, original episode.
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STEM, Speaking Up, and Redefining Motherhood: Emily Calandrelli (The Space Gal) on Breaking Barriers and Raising Science-Loving Kids
What does it look like to raise kids who believe they belong in science, who feel confident speaking up, and who see women as leaders in fields that have long pushed them out?
I first came across Emily Calandrelli’s work years ago on social media, and her mix of joy, honesty, and curiosity pulled me in immediately. Her voice reminded me that advocacy doesn’t have to be loud to be powerful and that our kids are always watching how we chase our own dreams. She is now one of my favorite examples of what it means to model confidence and curiosity for the next generation.
On today’s episode, Emily and I talk about finding her way in a male-dominated STEM world, what she learned from losing her Netflix show, and how creating her own YouTube series changed everything. She also shares the story behind her viral TSA moment, how it sparked federal legislation, and what it meant to finally launch into space after dreaming about it for two decades.
We discuss:
✔️ How representation in STEM shapes kids’ beliefs about what’s possible ✔️ Why speaking up matters, even when it’s uncomfortable
✔️ The pressure mothers face when they pursue big goals
✔️ What her spaceflight taught her about wonder and perspective
✔️ How parents can spark scientific thinking and curiosity at home
To connect with Emily Calandrelli follow her on Instagram @thespacegal and check out all her resources at https://www.thespacegal.com/
00:00 Intro
00:51 Welcome + How Emily Sparked TSA Policy Change
01:50 Raising Confident Science-Loving Kids
03:22 Emily’s Path From MIT to TV
05:03 Breaking Into Science Media as a Woman
06:25 Losing a Netflix Show and Starting Over
09:30 Building Emily’s Science Lab on YouTube
11:22 Redefining Success Beyond Algorithms
14:44 Motherhood, Identity, and Letting Go of Guilt
18:36 The Spaceflight Story She Worked 20 Years For
22:31 How She Funded Her Own Ticket to Space
24:11 What Seeing Earth From Space Feels Like
25:00 The Gendered Backlash After Her Spaceflight
31:01 The TSA Incident That Went Viral
32:31 Turning Viral Attention Into Real Legislation
38:12 STEM Representation for Kids Today
43:13 How Parents Can Model Curiosity at Home
46:47 Why Meeting Girls in STEM Fuels Her Work
49:21 Closing Thoughts + Where to Find Emily
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The PedsDocTalk Podcast is your go-to parenting resource, hosted by Dr. Mona Amin, a trusted pediatrician, parenting expert, and mom of two. As a top 30 Parenting Podcast in the U.S., this show delivers expert-backed guidance on child development, health, illness, behavior, feeding, and sleep—giving parents the confidence to navigate every stage from baby to teen.
Each episode dives into real-life parenting challenges, featuring conversations with specialists in pediatrics, child psychology, nutrition, and parental well-being. From potty training and sleep training to tackling tantrums, picky eating, discipline, screen time, postpartum recovery, and developmental milestones, Dr. Mona provides practical, science-backed advice that actually works.
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