Patterns of Power with Craig Perra (habits, mindfulness, high-performance, self-leadership)

• People Pleasing Is Lying: The Truth About Energetic Abuse, Boundaries & Your Voice w/ Melanie Singer

  Most people look successful but feel dead inside.They’ve lost their spark, their purpose, and their voice — and they’re stuck people pleasing, hiding the truth, and calling it “love.”In this episode of Sex Afflictions and Porn Addictions, I sit down with Melanie Spring — brand muse, international keynote speaker, and creator of Speak With Confidence — to talk about what authenticity really means, why lying is abuse (yes, even “little” lies), and how people pleasing is actually manipulation that keeps everyone stuck.If you’re a man struggling with sex or porn addiction — or a partner exhausted from carrying the weight of his secrets — this conversation is for you.We talk about:• What a brand muse actually does and why finding your voice is soul work• How we lose our creative spark and identity as adults• Why so many “successful” people are secretly miserable• The impact of addiction on partners: energetic abuse, gaslighting, lost intuition• Why lying is abuse even when he “doesn’t mean to hurt you”• Boundaries as love and why love must be boundaried• How Melanie set a hard boundary with her husband — and held it• Why women need conscious community, not gossip circles• How childhood betrayal loops repeat until we finally close them• Why people pleasing is lying and manipulation• What radical honesty and radical responsibility look like• Personal style as an expression of your authentic selfIf you’re tired of pretending and ready to stand fully in your truth, this episode will hit you in the best way.We don’t promote other programs very often — but this one aligns perfectly with what we teach at The Mindful Habit.Melanie Spring is incredible at helping people find and express their authentic voice, and I know some of you have been wanting to step into bigger stages, deeper truth, and more confident communication. If that’s you, you’ll get real value from this.Here are the details:Melanie’s SPEAK With Confidence program is on Black Friday sale right now — up to $1500 off through Tuesday at 8pm ET.Use code PERRA for an extra 10% off + it gives me 10% of what you pay.Program info: melaniespring.com/swcSwipe copy for emails, texts, or social posts if you want to share it too: melaniespring.com/swc/affiliatesCode: PERRAIf you’ve been feeling called to speak more powerfully in 2025, this might be the perfect next step.Connect with Melanie Spring🔸 Website & retreats: https://www.melaniespring.com🔸 Learn more about her Speak With Confidence program and upcoming women’s retreats on her site.

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• The Christian Case for IFS: Healing Porn, Compulsivity & Betrayal Trauma with Compassion

  Most men are taught to hate the part of them that struggles.What if that part isn’t your enemy at all… but your protector?Buy The Book Altogether You: https://amzn.to/4rvtnexIn this groundbreaking conversation, Coach Craig sits down with trauma therapist and bestselling author Jenna Riemersma, whose book Altogether You bridges Internal Family Systems (IFS) with Christian faith in a way that is nothing short of revolutionary.Together, they expose why the traditional addiction model keeps men trapped in shame and powerlessness—and how IFS offers a radically different path to healing, integrity, and self-leadership.You’ll hear:    •    Why identifying as an “addict” feels empowering at first—but eventually becomes a cage.    •    Why the part of you that acts out isn’t sinful, broken, or demonic… it’s protective.    •    How Christian theology and modern psychology actually reinforce each other when it comes to understanding your parts.    •    Why partners get stuck in reactive boundary cycles—and how to break them.    •    Why relationship, compassion, and self-leadership heal what shame and control never will.Craig and Jenna unpack the Core Self from two directions—psychology and Christianity—and reveal a way of operationalizing faith that most churches completely miss.If you or your spouse is struggling with pornography, unwanted sexual behavior, or betrayal trauma, this episode will fundamentally shift how you see the struggle, yourself, and each other.This is the conversation every Christian man—and every church—needs to hear.Resources and Links MentionedBuy The Book Altogether You: https://amzn.to/4rvtnexJenna’s website https://movetoward.comAltogether You On Demand Workshop https://movetoward.comUse code AY15 for 15% offFree IFS guided meditations and resources Available at https://movetoward.comBook referenced in the episode Altogether You by Jenna Riemersma

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• Why Your Relationship Is Falling Apart (And How to Fix It) with Melissa Nanavati, Relationship Coach

  You can’t build a powerful life on a foundation of chaos at home. And most men don’t struggle because they don’t love their partner — they struggle because no one ever taught them how to talk about hard things without it blowing up.Download The BRAVE Framework here: https://www.melissananavati.com/BRAVEscriptsIn this powerful episode, you will learn:🔥 Why love is not enough without structure🔥 How to talk about hard topics without triggering defensiveness🔥 Why creating safety must happen before chemistry🔥 How physical touch regulates the nervous system during conflict🔥 Why “I’m sorry” means nothing without action🔥 And how to co-create solutions that actually stickIf you’ve broken trust, kept secrets, or feel disconnected from your partner, this episode will give you a system to repair, rebuild, and lead your relationship with courage.Download The BRAVE Framework here: https://www.melissananavati.com/BRAVEscriptsMelissa Nanavati is a speaker, author, and Relationship Architect who helps high performers rebuild trust, reignite chemistry, and create systems for love that last. She blends neuroscience, biology, and lived experience to teach the art of relational courage.Despite early success as a Fortune 100 consultant and bestselling textbook author, Melissa spent years struggling with an anxiety disorder, battling alcohol abuse, and enduring over 100 first dates in her search for a partner. When she finally met her husband, their relationship was forged under extraordinary pressure, including raising $1.1 million for his world-record expedition and spending 4 months apart while running two businesses.Through that journey, Melissa developed frameworks and tools to help high achievers build peaceful, powerful relationships. She is a trusted relationship coach for executives, founders, and driven individuals seeking actionable, science-backed tools to navigate love. Melissa reveals her BRAVE Framework, a neuroscience-backed, action-driven structure that transforms the way couples communicate. This isn’t fluffy advice — it’s tactical, practical, and built for real life.Download The BRAVE Framework here: https://www.melissananavati.com/BRAVEscriptsShe offers powerful one-on-one coaching, so reach out and apply here:Apply for Coaching: https://www.melissananavati.com/coachingLearn more at: www.MelissaNanavati.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/MelissaNanavatiYouTube: www.youtube.com/@PeakPerformanceLoveLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/MelissaNanavatiRemember: Your relationship won’t fix itself. Courage will.

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• How Modern Society Broke Men ... with The Undaunted Man Team Geoff Laughton and Mark Johnson

  They told you masculinity was toxic.They were wrong.In this episode, Craig Perra sits down with Geoff Laughton and Mark Johnson, founders of The Undaunted Man, for one of the most raw and powerful conversations you’ll hear this year.They expose how modern men have been shamed for being masculine, how this has left millions lost, numb, and disconnected, and what it takes to reclaim strength without losing heart.You’ll learn:-Why so many men secretly feel broken-The difference between healthy masculine and unhealthy control-Why community and brotherhood matter more than ever-How to be fearless and live with purpose againIf you’ve ever felt disconnected from your power, this conversation will wake you up. 👉 Learn more at www.theundauntedman.comRemember: No one’s coming to save you. Feed the right wolf inside you.Visit: https://mindfulhabithelp.com/group-coaching

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• Christian Porn Addiction Programs Are Making It WORSE (Here’s Why)

  In this episode, Coach Craig Perra tackles one of the most controversial and important topics in the church today: why so many faith-based porn recovery programs fail—and how they may actually make things worse (unintentionally of course).Drawing on over a decade of coaching pastors, Christian leaders, and men of faith, Craig exposes the hidden disconnect between sin-based approaches and neuroscience. He explores why shame-based recovery fuels relapse, why “perfect sobriety” is an illusion, and how Internal Family Systems (IFS) offers a Christ-aligned, science-backed path toward healing.🔥 Topics Covered:Why so many pastors secretly struggle with pornHow “don’t lust” and “don’t touch” rules backfireThe dangerous all-or-nothing myth of “perfect sobriety”The truth about our biology, trauma, and unmet needsA faith-aligned alternative: leading your “addict part” with grace, not shame🧠 If you’ve ever felt like your faith and your biology are at war, this episode might change how you see addiction forever.👉 Learn more or get help at www.mindfulhabithelp.com 

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