RERUN - Creating Equal Partners Through Division of Labor with Eve Rodksy
In this episode (originally aired on 6/5/24), I sit down with Eve Rodsky, creator, founder, and author of Fair Play: a life-management and household organization system. Eve and I discuss her feminist upbringing and how her experiences in the corporate world were inhospitable to motherhood, how she created the Fair Play system and why a “blueberry text” from her husband was the catalyst, and why it’s essential to change from the reactive to the systematic when implementing change. Eve talks about the burden of invisible work that women so often take upon themselves in the home, she explains how the Fair Play cards work, and we discuss listener feedback on the most difficult parts of the mental load. Finally, we talk about why it’s so hard to have these conversations with our partners, what defines a “unicorn space” versus other types of fun, and why it is essential for our happiness and longevity to create “I can’t fucking believe I just did that” moments in our lives.Key Takeaway / Points:Why I recommend Eve’s method to anyone who will listenOn “Fair Play,” Eve’s life-management and household organization methodEve’s upbringing in a post-70s feminist waveEve’s experience as a young mother in the corporate worldWhy America isn’t designed to support mothersOn the goal of being consistently interested in your own lifeWhy “hobbies” are not serving usThe “blueberry text” that led to Eve creating the Fair Play systemOn changing from the reactive to the systematicOn invisible work and “The Shit I Do” spreadsheetA deep dive into how the Fair Play cards workListener feedback on the most difficult parts of the mental loadWhy it’s so difficult to have these conversationsWhy society views women’s time as infiniteOn the sanctity of “unicorn space”On creating “I can’t fucking believe I just did that” moments for yourselfStream the Fair Play documentary on Hulu HERERead Fair Play HEREBuy the Fair Play card deck HEREWatch this episode on YouTube HEREFollow Eve:Instagram: @fairplaylifeWebsite: www.fairplaylife.comFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversations_with_camSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversations_with_camYoutube: Cameron Rogers
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RERUN - What I Wish I Knew In My Twenties
In this solo episode (originally aired on 8/30/23), I share the top things I learned and wish I knew in my twenties, from letting go of comparison and instead celebrating that we all are on different timelines; to learning how to be kinder to yourself in every way; to putting the energy out into the world that you’d like to receive. Finally, I share some lessons that FF Fam Members have submitted, like following your intuition and investing in your relationship with yourself.Key Takeaway / Points:Top lessons learned in my twenties, including:Cultivating purpose and perspectiveEverything is temporaryComparison is uselessTrying things is invaluableNo one else knows what they’re doing eitherAdmit it when you don’t know somethingLearn how to be kinder to yourselfPut the energy out into the world that you’d like to receiveLessons shared from FF Fam MembersBuy Quiet Your Mind Kids HEREFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversations_with_camSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversations_with_camYoutube: Cameron Rogers
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RERUN - Supporting Your Partner’s Mental Health and Parenting with Intention with My Husband, Joe
In this episode (originally aired on 1/22/25), my husband, Joe, joins me to talk about parenting, marriage, and how our relationship has evolved over the years from dating in high school to being parents of two. Joe shares his perspective on having a partner who struggles with mental health, how he best supports me, and reflects on whether he feels guilt or FOMO as a father when he gets time to himself. We discuss our division of labor and how we delineate tasks, how we deal with the mental overload of parenting, and how we moved through our “roommate phase” during postpartum. We also talk about advice for parents with kids having a “preferential parent” phase, the principles we try to live by as a family, working through disagreements while actively parenting, and much more.Key Takeaway / Points:Our relationship journey, from dating in high school to our experience in collegeJoe’s perspective on having a partner who struggles with their mental healthAdvice for those with partners struggling with ADHD and/or emotional overwhelmOn whether he feels guilt as a father when he gets time to himselfOn feeling FOMO with our kids and witnessing special momentsOn our division of labor and how we delineate tasksOn describing the mental load of parenting to someone who doesn’t understandOn moving through the roommate phaseWhat Joe learned from my postpartum journeyOn his favorite parts about being a parent and the most challengingOn Joe’s experience with the transition from one to two kidsAdvice for parents experiencing a preferential parent phaseOn the principles we try to live by as a familyOn working through resentment and arguments while actively parentingOn Joe’s unique relationship with my momHow Joe feels about my jobWhat we’re most proud of each other forFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversations_with_camSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversations_with_camYoutube: Cameron Rogers
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RERUN - You Can’t Be a Perfect Parent: Mother/Child Attachment Styles and More with Dr. Jaclyn Nofech-Mozes
In this episode (originally aired on 5/8/24), I sit down with clinical psychologist, Dr. Jaclyn Nofech-Mozes, to discuss all things parent-child attachment, why we all have the tools to attain secure attachment, and why we can’t be perfect parents. Jaclyn explains the four attachment styles, the primary components of secure attachment, and what “rupture and repair” means. She also shares why it’s essential to know your “shark music” as a parent, whether sleep training, breastfeeding, and daycare/nannies affect attachment, and how child attachment changes with age. Finally, she discusses fostering secure attachment with your child as the non-birthing parent, the impact of maternal mental health on attachment, and how we can initiate repair if there has been a rupture.Key Takeaway / Points:Dr. Nofech-Mozes’ background as a clinical psychologistWhat is parent-infant attachment?On the four attachment stylesWhy we don’t need to be the perfect parentThe primary components of secure attachmentOn “rupture and repair”On recognizing your “shark music”Whether sleep training, breast feeding, and daycare/nannies affect attachmentHow child attachment changes with ageHow you can develop a secure attachment with your child if you had an insecure attachment with a parent growing upOn fostering attachment with the non-birthing partnerWhy some mothers feel that “instant bond” and others don’tOn the impact of maternal mental health on attachmentAdvice for how to initiate repairWatch this episode on YouTube HEREDr. Jaclyn Nofech-Mozes practice: OrKid PyschologyFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogersSubstack: Fill Your CupWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogersYoutube: Cameron Rogers
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330: Letting Go of Control & Wedding Planning Q&A with my Cousin Carly
In this episode, I talk about what feels out of my control right now and how I’m navigating letting go. I share details on exciting work things ahead like bringing some new changes to the show, taking a hiatus for the first time, and building out the new podcast studio in Jersey. I also talk about the overwhelming thought of having a third kid right now. Later in the episode, I bring on my cousin Carly to talk about her recent wedding and challenges of the planning process. We dive into dealing with comparisons, the process of picking a wedding dress, highlights of the wedding day, and why it's crucial to focus on the reason you're getting married in the first place.Key Takeaway / Points:Making to-do lists and letting go of the things I can’t controlUpcoming changes to the show and building out my new podcast studioTaking a hiatus from dropping new episodes for the first timeThoughts on planning ahead for a third kidThe invisible string connection between Carly and her husbandOn the importance of focusing on what truly matters in wedding planningManaging family and friend dynamics during wedding planningHow to handle things going wrong on the wedding dayThe overwhelming process of choosing a wedding dressCarly’s favorite part of the wedding dayFollow me:Instagram: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversationswithcamWebsite: cameronoaksrogers.comTikTok: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversations_with_camYouTube: Cameron RogersSponsors:Coterie: Visit www.coterie.com and use code CAMERON20 for 20% off your first orderQuince: Go to Quince.com/cameron for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five-day returns.Graza: It's our famous annual sitewide sale time to stock up on olive oil for the year. Discounts are automatically applied at checkout, no code needed graza.coPaired: Head to https://www.paired.com/CAMERON and download the #1 app for couples to start maintaining your lasting love todaySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Conversations with Cam, hosted by Cameron Rogers, is a podcast dedicated to having honest conversations, prioritizing your well-being, and reminding you that, no matter what you’re feeling, you’re not alone. Whether you’re knee-deep in diapers or just trying to keep your sanity intact, this show is for you. Expect laughs, maybe a few tears, and hopefully some breakthroughs along the way. For more motherhood and mental health talk, with a side of cursing, follow Cameron on social at @cameronoaksrogers
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