The Sabrina Zohar Show

Dating with an open heart sounds beautiful until your nervous system has other plans. In this solo In The Trenches audience Q&A episode, Sabrina answers your most raw questions about how to let someone in without losing yourself, how to date after grief, and what it actually looks like to stay present when fear or anxiety is running the show.

From navigating new love after loss to the hard truth about anxious attachment and self-accountability, this episode covers the real work of building a healthy relationship: nervous system regulation, emotional ownership, and learning the difference between communicating and controlling.

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If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!

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Chapters

00:00 Dating Without Losing Yourself

03:06 Dating After Grief and Loss

05:02 How to Make Space for Grief While Dating

07:51 When and How to Share Your Grief

09:42 Dating with Courage After Hard Times

11:28 What Is Sapiosexuality in Dating

19:30 Nervous System and Emotional Intimacy

24:30 Anxious Attachment and Gaslighting

27:06 Codependency and Emotional Regulation

29:42 Anxious Attachment and Accountability

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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Ever caught yourself saying "when it's good, it's so good"? In this first episode of the 4-part Hard Truth Series, Sabrina breaks down why you keep falling in love with who someone could be instead of who they actually are — and why potential is just a placeholder for the grief you're avoiding. She dives into the neuroscience of the "prospective brain," the impact bias that keeps you chasing a fantasy, and the 13-year longitudinal study that explains why you lower your standards for the wrong people but can't appreciate the ones who actually show up.

Sabrina gets vulnerable about her own patternsand gives you the exact reframe to stop confusing anxiety with connection. Plus, this week's tool: the Potential vs. Reality Audit, a two-column exercise to see whether you're in a relationship or a fantasy. If you've ever wondered why the available person feels boring or why you keep choosing people who need to become someone else for it to work, this one's for you.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself HERE!

Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE!

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This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina

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Chapters

00:00 Hard Truth Series Part 1

01:50 Gratitude & Setting Boundaries

04:59 What "I See Potential" Really Means

08:00 The Pattern Is the Real Them

11:08 Real Potential vs Fantasy Potential

15:54 Neuroscience of Dating a Fantasy

20:36 3 Questions Keeping You Stuck

25:51 Are You a Partner or a Fixer

28:21 What If They Change For Someone Else

33:47 Tool: Potential vs Reality Audit

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Who pays on the first date? When should you talk about money in a relationship? How do you split finances with your partner — and what happens when you don't? Sabrina sits down with Jean and Cherie, the Tiger Sisters, to tackle every uncomfortable money question in dating and relationships — from first-date expectations and financial red flags to prenups, combining finances, and protecting yourself before marriage. If you've ever avoided "the money talk" with someone you're dating, this episode is your wake-up call.

The Tiger Sisters bring their Wall Street, Silicon Valley, and business school backgrounds to break down the business side of love — why financial independence matters (especially for women), how to set boundaries around money without killing the romance, and why who you choose to marry is the single most important decision you'll ever make. Whether you're single, dating, or already in a relationship, this conversation will change how you think about love, money, and building a life with the right partner.

Close the Loop: Mastering 2026 Dating

Live Practice + Q&A with Sabrina Zohar

I'm hosting a free live session on March 4, and this is the last one I'm planning for a long time. If dating keeps ending the same way and you can't figure out why, this is for you.

📅 March 4 🕘 4PM LA / 7PM NYC

SAVE MY SPOT!

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Chapters

00:00 Money & Dating: What No One Says

06:01 Should You Date a Coworker?

12:11 Date Like You're Hiring a CEO

15:24 Why Going Slow in Dating Works

20:53 Dating While Being a Successful Woman

26:20 Who Pays on the First Date?

36:08 Financial Independence for Women

42:30 When to Talk About Money & Debt

49:09 Moving In Together & Finances

54:23 Do You Need a Prenup?

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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If someone keeps texting but never makes plans, says “we’ll see,” or gives just enough to keep you hooked, this episode is for you. We break down breadcrumbing and bare minimum dating, including mixed signals, strategic ambiguity, and future faking—and why inconsistency keeps your brain stuck chasing clarity instead of connection. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between someone who’s genuinely busy versus emotionally unavailable, and why ambiguity fuels anxiety and attachment loops.

We also shift the focus back to you: why accepting breadcrumbs can feel familiar, how nervous system wiring and cognitive bias keep you stuck, and what actually helps you walk away without self-abandonment. This episode gives you clear language, practical scripts, and grounded tools to choose consistency over confusion in dating and relationships.

Big announcement: For the first time ever, I'm hosting a live workshop and you're invited.

If dating feels exhausting and you can't figure out why it keeps ending the same way, this is for you. You'll be the first to learn my new 3-step framework for understanding what's keeping you stuck and how to change it. Plus you get my implementation workbook.

REGISTER HERE!

Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE!

Please support our sponsors!

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Get organized, refreshed, and back on track this new year for WAY less. Head to Wayfair.com right now to shop all things home.

This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina

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Chapters

00:00 Breadcrumbing vs Being Busy

03:50 What Bare Minimum Dating Is

07:20 Why Mixed Signals Create Attachment

11:20 Strategic Ambiguity in Dating

15:10 Future Faking Red Flags

19:00 Why Consistency Feels Boring

22:55 How Ambiguity Fuels Anxiety

26:50 When Waiting Is Self Abandonment

30:35 What To Say to a Breadcrumber

34:20 How to Stop the Breadcrumb Cycle

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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In this episode, Sabrina breaks down self-abandonment in dating and relationships, why losing yourself often gets mislabeled as love, and how chronic people-pleasing, codependency, and anxious attachment actually form. Using psychology, neuroscience, and attachment theory, she explains differentiation of self, emotional fusion, and how the nervous system drives self-betrayal, protest behavior, and fear of abandonment in romantic relationships.

You’ll learn how to choose yourself without blowing up your relationship, stop outsourcing emotional regulation, set boundaries without guilt, and reconnect to your intuition versus anxiety. This episode is essential for anyone struggling with relationship anxiety, overgiving, losing their voice in dating, or repeating unhealthy relationship patterns.

Big announcement: For the first time ever, I'm hosting a live workshop and you're invited.

If dating feels exhausting and you can't figure out why it keeps ending the same way, this is for you. You'll be the first to learn my new 3-step framework for understanding what's keeping you stuck and how to change it. Plus you get my implementation workbook.

REGISTER HERE!

Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE!

Please support our sponsors!

Head to Greenchef.com/50sabrina and use code 50sabrina to get fifty percent off your first month, then twenty percent off for two months with free shipping.

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Chapters

00:00 – Are You Losing Yourself in Love?

03:05 – When “Compromise” Is Self-Betrayal

06:00 – Why You Fuse in Relationships

08:55 – Codependency Isn’t the Real Issue

11:55 – Anxiety vs Intuition in Dating

14:55 – Why Your Nervous System Panics

18:10 – How Self-Abandonment Shows Up

21:50 – Boundaries Without Losing Love

24:50 – How to Choose Yourself Safely

28:05 – The Fusion Check (Real-Time Tool)

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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