Sherapy Sessions: The How’s Of Healing Hidden Family Trauma

What is the difference between a mental health condition and an entrenched pattern of relating to other people? Can medication help someone regulate their symptoms without changing the behaviors that continue to harm those around them?
In this episode, I’m joined by James Morgan of Anchored Psychiatric to explore the historical distinction between Axis I clinical disorders and Axis II personality disorders, often referred to more informally as character disorders. Although the DSM no longer uses this multiaxial system, the distinction can still help us understand why some conditions respond to medication while deeply rooted personality patterns require insight, motivation, accountability, and sustained psychological work.
We discuss how medication may reduce anxiety, depression, mood instability, impulsivity, or other symptoms enough for someone to participate more meaningfully in therapy. But medication cannot manufacture empathy, honesty, accountability, or a genuine desire to change. When a person remains convinced that everyone else is the problem, treatment has profound limitations.
James also explains what can happen when a child develops in an environment filled with chronic criticism, humiliation, emotional neglect, rejection, unpredictability, or fear. Behaviors that once helped a child survive may eventually become rigid and destructive patterns that affect adult relationships.
We also look at the biological impact of chronic emotional and psychological abuse. Prolonged exposure to threat can shape the brain, nervous system, stress response, and the way a survivor detects danger. What is sometimes dismissed as “being too sensitive” may actually be a nervous system that has become exceptionally skilled at noticing subtle shifts in tone, mood, facial expression, and behavior.

In this episode, we explore:
What clinicians historically meant by Axis I and Axis II disorders
Why the DSM moved away from the multiaxial diagnostic system
The difference between psychiatric symptoms and entrenched personality patterns
What medication can treat and what it cannot change
How medication may make meaningful therapy more accessible
Why families often cling to the hope that the “right medication” will change someone’s character
The role of insight, motivation, accountability, and mindset in treatment
Whether meaningful change is possible when someone believes everyone else is the problem
How chronic criticism, humiliation, rejection, neglect, and fear affect a developing child
How intelligent childhood survival strategies can become destructive adult patterns
What chronic emotional abuse does to the brain, stress response, and nervous system
Why trauma survivors may become highly attuned to subtle signs of danger
The connection between trauma-related hypervigilance and what survivors experience as intuition
Why understanding someone’s history does not require excusing the harm they cause

This conversation offers important clarity for survivors who have spent years wondering whether a diagnosis, medication, or traumatic history could finally make an abusive or emotionally unsafe person behave differently.
A person’s history may help explain their behavior. It does not erase its impact, remove their responsibility, or obligate anyone else to remain available for continued harm.

ABOUT THE GUEST:
James Morgan, DNP, AGACNP-BC, PMHNP-BC, is a doctorally prepared and dual board-certified nurse practitioner specializing in psychiatric mental health and adult-geriatric acute care. He is the owner of Anchored Psychiatric Nursing Services, where he provides psychiatric evaluations, medication management, psychoeducation, and individualized, evidence-based treatment.
With more than 15 years of healthcare experience, James has worked in outpatient psychiatry, acute care, emergency medicine, urgent care, surgical services, correctional health, sports medicine, and education. His approach brings together Western medicine and holistic care, with an emphasis on understanding the underlying causes of emotional and psychiatric symptoms rather than viewing medication as a quick or complete solution. James is also an educator, author, patient advocate, and trusted collaborative provider within the mental health community.

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Episode Sponsor:
Betterhelp
Going to therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. My sponsor BetterHelp makes therapy simple, with 10% off your first month to help you get started:
https://betterhelp.com/drsherrie
BetterHelp, founded in 2013, is the world’s largest online therapy platform, offering accessible, affordable, and personalized mental health care.
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MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
📌 [Clinic] Anchored Psychiatric Nursing Services - https://anchoredpsychiatric.com/
📌 [Book] The Little Soul and the Sun: A Children's Parable - https://www.amazon.com/Little-Soul-Neale-Donald-Walsch/dp/1571740872/

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NEW BOOK!
You Are Home: Heal from Family Trauma, Establish Boundaries, and Find a Place of Peace and Safety
Order Now: https://amzn.to/4npkCPX
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MY TEDx TALK:
📌 TEDx Talk Not All Parents Are Good by Dr. Sherrie Campbell - https://youtu.be/deyHwDkG7oc
BOOKS BY DR. SHERRIE:
⚉ Adult Survivors of Emotionally Abusive Parents: How to Heal, Cultivate Emotional Resilience, and Build the Life and Love You Deserve - https://amzn.to/3UhURWI
⚉ Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut. - https://amzn.to/3L3sMuA
⚉ But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - https://amzn.to/3tuNQEn
⚉ Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself - https://amzn.to/3JBql1R
⚉ Success Equations: A Path to Living an Emotionally Wealthy Life - https://amzn.to/3uobd1u
⚉ Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person - https://amzn.to/36mlXp5

CONNECT WITH JAMES:
📌 Website: https://anchoredpsychiatric.com/
📌 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/anchoredpsych/
📌 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anchoredpsych/
📌 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-morgan-dnp-a7b597366/
📌 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jamesmorganinspires

CONNECT WITH DR. SHERRIE:
⚉ Website: https://drsherriecampbell.com/
⚉ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD

Check out the Sherapy Master Class: The Toxic Family Sherapy Course designed to help people master toxic family members and turn their life around to one of freedom, peace, and empowerment. Click here https://bit.ly/SherapyMasterclass
Get early access to news, insights, and tips straight from your inbox. Subscribe to Dr. Sherrie’s email list, go to https://drsherriecampbell.com/

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This podcast is intended for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for individualized medical, psychiatric, or psychological care.

There comes a moment when loving harder, explaining better, or trying one more time simply isn’t enough. A moment when you realize that healing may not look like reconciliation — it may look like reclaiming yourself.
Welcome to Sherapy Sessions: The How’s of Healing Family Trauma — a powerful evolution of the show that has supported thousands of listeners navigating painful family dynamics. While the heart of this work remains the same, the focus is expanding. This isn’t just about cutting ties. It’s about understanding the “hows of healing” — the practical, emotional, and psychological steps that help you rebuild your life from the inside out.
If you’ve ever felt invisible in your family…
Blamed for speaking the truth…
Exhausted from chasing repair with people who refuse to grow…
This space was created for you.

In each episode, Dr. Sherrie Campbell — Licensed Psychologist, survivor, and fierce advocate for emotional freedom — shares honest conversations about setting boundaries without guilt, releasing the fantasy of who you hoped your family would be, and building a life that finally feels safe, grounded, and authentically yours.
This is not a show about labels.
It’s a show about liberation.
It’s about healing hidden family trauma, understanding why certain relationships cannot function in healthy ways, and learning how to stop sacrificing yourself in the name of “family.”

Whether you’ve gone no-contact, are considering it, or are simply trying to make sense of painful dynamics, Sherapy Sessions offers insight, validation, and real tools for lasting change.
You are not too sensitive.
You are not too demanding.
You are not wrong for wanting peace.
Subscribe now and join the next session — because healing doesn’t begin when they change. It begins when you do.

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NEW BOOK!
You Are Home: Heal from Family Trauma, Establish Boundaries, and Find a Place of Peace and Safety
Order Now: https://amzn.to/4npkCPX
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MY TEDx TALK:
📌 TEDx Talk Not All Parents Are Good by Dr. Sherrie Campbell - https://youtu.be/deyHwDkG7oc

BOOKS BY DR. SHERRIE:
⚉ Adult Survivors of Emotionally Abusive Parents: How to Heal, Cultivate Emotional Resilience, and Build the Life and Love You Deserve - https://amzn.to/3UhURWI
⚉ Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut. - https://amzn.to/3L3sMuA
⚉ But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - https://amzn.to/3tuNQEn
⚉ Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself - https://amzn.to/3JBql1R
⚉ Success Equations: A Path to Living an Emotionally Wealthy Life - https://amzn.to/3uobd1u
⚉ Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person - https://amzn.to/36mlXp5

CONNECT WITH DR. SHERRIE:
⚉ Website: https://drsherriecampbell.com/
⚉ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD

Check out the Sherapy Master Class: The Toxic Family Sherapy Course designed to help people master toxic family members and turn their life around to one of freedom, peace, and empowerment. Click here https://bit.ly/SherapyMasterclass
Get early access to news, insights, and tips straight from your inbox. Subscribe to Dr. Sherrie’s email list, go to https://drsherriecampbell.com/

🌱 Episode Overview
Many parents were taught that love means constant involvement, fixing, and sacrifice. But what happens when care turns into control and closeness becomes pressure?
In this episode, Dr. Sherrie sits down with Randi Crawford, a certified life coach who helps parents, teens, and young adults build healthier relationships rooted in autonomy, trust, and real connection. Together, they explore how stepping back doesn’t mean abandoning your child, it means allowing them to grow.
This conversation is especially supportive for parents who grew up in toxic or emotionally enmeshed families and are determined not to repeat those patterns with their own children.

🧠 What We Cover
✨ Why over-functioning often comes from fear, not love
✨ How anxiety disguises itself as “good parenting”
✨ What healthy autonomy looks like in real families
✨ Letting teens stumble safely without pulling away
✨ Differentiation without emotional disconnection
✨ Breaking generational cycles of guilt and control
✨ The difference between influence and emotional pressure
✨ How boundaries create closeness instead of distance
✨ What happens when parents stop chasing, fixing, and rescuing
✨ Rebuilding trust when a child starts pulling away

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💬 Key Takeaways
💡 You can be deeply connected without being emotionally entangled
💡 Stepping back is not abandonment, it’s respect
💡 Boundaries calm relationships, they don’t threaten them
💡 Letting go of control often creates more closeness, not less
💡 Your child’s discomfort is not a parenting failure
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🤍 This Episode Is For You If…
🌿 You’re a parent who worries you’re doing too much or not enough
🌿 You grew up in a toxic family system and want to parent differently
🌿 You fear that letting go means losing the relationship
🌿 You want closeness without control or guilt
🌿 You’re learning how to trust both yourself and your child

Randi Crawford is a certified life coach who has worked with hundreds of parents, teenagers, and young adults to help them navigate the emotional and often stressful realities of life in the 21st century. Known for her straight-shooting and unapologetic parenting videos on social media, Randi resonates deeply with moms who feel unseen or stuck in their transition from full-time parenting to part-time guiding.
Prior to her coaching career, Randi co-founded Women First HealthCare, a pioneering company that reached over 10 million women with health solutions. She is now developing a unique parenting playbook, focusing on raising teens with confidence while minimizing over-parenting.
Randi's approach bridges the gap between generations, helping parents loosen control without losing connection, while empowering young adults to build confidence, resilience, and self-awareness. She addresses issues like communication breakdowns, boundary-setting, anxiety, and academic stress, guiding families through tough transitions with clarity and calm.
Regularly quoted in the media, including Parents.com, Newsweek, NY Post, and FOX News Digital, Randi shares her relatable and straight-talking advice as a guest on numerous podcasts. Her honest perspective creates a safe space for real conversations that foster growth for everyone involved, making her a vital presence in the modern parenting journey.

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Episode Sponsor:
Betterhelp
Going to therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. My sponsor BetterHelp makes therapy simple, with 10% off your first month to help you get started:
https://betterhelp.com/drsherrie
BetterHelp, founded in 2013, is the world’s largest online therapy platform, offering accessible, affordable, and personalized mental health care.
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MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
📌 [Podcast] The Difference Between the Silent Treatment and No Contact (Bonus Episode 6) - https://apple.co/4mfFrOS
📌 [Podcast] What is the difference between abandonment and no contact? - https://apple.co/3NMRhmZ

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NEW BOOK!
You Are Home: Heal from Family Trauma, Establish Boundaries, and Find a Place of Peace and Safety
Available For Pre-Order: https://amzn.to/4npkCPX
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MY TEDx TALK:
📌 TEDx Talk Not All Parents Are Good by Dr. Sherrie Campbell - https://youtu.be/deyHwDkG7oc
BOOKS BY DR. SHERRIE:
⚉ Adult Survivors of Emotionally Abusive Parents: How to Heal, Cultivate Emotional Resilience, and Build the Life and Love You Deserve - https://amzn.to/3UhURWI
⚉ Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut. - https://amzn.to/3L3sMuA
⚉ But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - https://amzn.to/3tuNQEn
⚉ Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself - https://amzn.to/3JBql1R
⚉ Success Equations: A Path to Living an Emotionally Wealthy Life - https://amzn.to/3uobd1u
⚉ Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person - https://amzn.to/36mlXp5

CONNECT WITH RANDI:
📌 Website: https://www.randicrawfordcoaching.com/
📌 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@randicrawfordcoaching
📌 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/randicrawfordcoaching
📌 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/randi-crawford-34a4204a/
CONNECT WITH DR. SHERRIE:
⚉ Website: https://drsherriecampbell.com/
⚉ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD

Check out the Sherapy Master Class: The Toxic Family Sherapy Course designed to help people master toxic family members and turn their life around to one of freedom, peace, and empowerment. Click here https://bit.ly/SherapyMasterclass
Get early access to news, insights, and tips straight from your inbox. Subscribe to Dr. Sherrie’s email list, go to https://drsherriecampbell.com/

Today’s episode brings you a powerful and deeply needed conversation with David Weeks — a survivor of complex trauma and sex trafficking who has turned his lived experience into advocacy, education, and hope for others walking their healing path. 💛
David survived all ten Adverse Childhood Experiences before the age of fourteen. His early life was shaped by profound family dysfunction, chronic trauma, and emotional abandonment — the kind that leaves a child questioning their worth and humanity. Yet David’s story isn’t defined by what happened to him. It’s defined by the strength he’s built and the voice he’s reclaimed. 🔥

In this conversation, David opens up about:
🔸 Growing up in a family environment where safety and care weren’t available 🏚️
🔸 How trauma shapes a child’s identity long before they have words for it 🧠
🔸 Navigating family silence, denial, and the grief of the family you needed but didn’t have 💔
🔸 The stigma male survivors face — and why breaking that silence matters 🧡
🔸 The early signs that healing was possible and the steps he took toward reclaiming himself 🌱
🔸 How he’s redefined family, boundaries, and belonging as an adult 🌿
🔸 Why advocacy became part of his purpose and how he protects his well-being while doing this work ⚖️

David’s voice brings visibility to male survivors who are often overlooked or dismissed. His presence in this space is vital, and his insight is a reminder that trauma doesn’t get the final word — the survivor does. 🙏
If you’ve ever faced childhood trauma, complicated family dynamics, or the loneliness that comes with being chronically unseen, this episode will speak to your core. 💫

David Weeks is a complex trauma survivor who’s story speaks to the resilience and strength of the human spirit. David was raised by a narcissistic mother and anti-social step father and describes his family to that of a cult. They would inflict torment and abuse for over two decades and by the time David was just 14 years old, he would have experienced all 10 Adverse child experiences. At age 13 he started looking for love, something that he never experienced, and the 39 year old who lived just down the street would exploit and sexually assault him. That first rape would turn into many many more as he was trafficked. David is now a coach helping other survivors heal and shares his story to break the silence and stigma that so many face. Currently he is writing his memoir “surviving childhood” which he plans to share soon.

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Episode Sponsor:
Betterhelp
Going to therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. My sponsor BetterHelp makes therapy simple, with 10% off your first month to help you get started:
https://betterhelp.com/drsherrie
BetterHelp, founded in 2013, is the world’s largest online therapy platform, offering accessible, affordable, and personalized mental health care.
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MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
📌 [Book] The Sears Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two - https://www.amazon.com/Sears-Baby-Book-Everything-About/dp/0316387967
📌 [Video] Breaking the Silence of Male Trauma Survivors - https://www.ted.com/talks/debra_warner_breaking_the_silence_of_male_trauma_survivors

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NEW BOOK!
You Are Home: Heal from Family Trauma, Establish Boundaries, and Find a Place of Peace and Safety
Available For Pre-Order: https://amzn.to/4npkCPX
*****

MY TEDx TALK:
📌 TEDx Talk Not All Parents Are Good by Dr. Sherrie Campbell - https://youtu.be/deyHwDkG7oc

BOOKS BY DR. SHERRIE:
⚉ Adult Survivors of Emotionally Abusive Parents: How to Heal, Cultivate Emotional Resilience, and Build the Life and Love You Deserve - https://amzn.to/3UhURWI
⚉ Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut. - https://amzn.to/3L3sMuA
⚉ But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - https://amzn.to/3tuNQEn
⚉ Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself - https://amzn.to/3JBql1R
⚉ Success Equations: A Path to Living an Emotionally Wealthy Life - https://amzn.to/3uobd1u
⚉ Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person - https://amzn.to/36mlXp5

CONNECT WITH DAVID:
📌 Website: https://www.weekstraumarecovery.com/
📌 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@healing.with.david
📌 Email: david.trauma.recovery@gmail.com
📌 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djweeks_

CONNECT WITH DR. SHERRIE:
⚉ Website: https://drsherriecampbell.com/
⚉ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD

Check out the Sherapy Master Class: The Toxic Family Sherapy Course designed to help people master toxic family members and turn their life around to one of freedom, peace, and empowerment. Click here https://bit.ly/SherapyMasterclass
Get early access to news, insights, and tips straight from your inbox. Subscribe to Dr. Sherrie’s email list, go to https://drsherriecampbell.com/

Parallel parenting isn’t about being distant or disengaged, it’s about protecting emotional safety when co-parenting isn’t possible.
In this episode, we explore how high-conflict dynamics, unresolved trauma, and control patterns can spill into parenting after separation, and how parallel parenting can interrupt generational cycles instead of passing them down.
This conversation focuses on coping through the process, staying regulated under pressure, and intentionally raising children who don’t inherit the chaos you worked so hard to escape.
🔍 What We Cover
🧩 What parallel parenting really is — and why it’s often misunderstood
🔥 How generational trauma shows up in post-separation parenting
🛑 Why “trying harder” with a toxic co-parent often backfires
🧠 Protecting your nervous system so your child’s can heal
🧱 Boundaries that create safety without escalating conflict
📱 Tools that reduce emotional exposure and power struggles
🧒 Talking to kids without oversharing, blaming, or minimizing
🌱 How healing quietly teaches your child a different way

💬 For Parents Who Are
💗 Feeling drained by high-conflict co-parenting
💗 Trying to stay calm while being provoked or undermined
💗 Afraid their children will internalize dysfunction
💗 Committed to ending cycles, even when it’s lonely
This episode is for you.

✨ Final Thought ✨
You don’t break generational trauma by winning arguments.
You break it by becoming the safe place your child can return to — again and again.

Jennie Guay is the Founder of JG Divorce & Break Up Coaching and Advisory and a certified and accredited divorce coach who supports individuals and families through some of life’s most emotionally complex transitions. Grounded in both professional training and lived experience, Jennie brings a compassionate, trauma-informed approach to divorce, breakups, and blended family dynamics.
She is the creator and host of the Why Are We Whispering? Podcast, a bold platform dedicated to addressing the traumas, trials, and deeply uncomfortable experiences most people endure but feel too embarrassed or shamed to speak about. The podcast was created to give a voice to those who feel silenced and to bring awareness to the darker side of the human experience through honest, unfiltered conversations.
As a stepmother, Jennie has firsthand experience navigating blended families, the dysfunction of the family court system, and the impact of high-conflict personalities and personality disorders; experiences that became the driving force behind her advocacy work and coaching practice. She is also the author of the children’s book Howie Blend: Playdate Adventures with Family and Friends, created to provide representation, inclusion, and normalization for blended and diverse families. At the core of her work is a deep commitment to advocacy, awareness, and empowering those who feel unseen or unheard.

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Episode Sponsor:
Betterhelp
Going to therapy is a sign of strength, not weakness. My sponsor BetterHelp makes therapy simple, with 10% off your first month to help you get started:
https://betterhelp.com/drsherrie
BetterHelp, founded in 2013, is the world’s largest online therapy platform, offering accessible, affordable, and personalized mental health care.
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MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:
📌 [Book] Howie Blend: Playdate Adventures with Family and Friends by Jennie Guay - https://www.amazon.com/Howie-Blend-Playdate-Adventures-Friends/dp/1919623108
📌 [Podcast] Why Are We Whispering? With Jennie Guay - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/why-are-we-whispering-with-jennie-guay/id1709659183

*****
NEW BOOK!
You Are Home: Heal from Family Trauma, Establish Boundaries, and Find a Place of Peace and Safety
Available For Pre-Order: https://amzn.to/4npkCPX
*****

MY TEDx TALK:
📌 TEDx Talk Not All Parents Are Good by Dr. Sherrie Campbell - https://youtu.be/deyHwDkG7oc

BOOKS BY DR. SHERRIE:
⚉ Adult Survivors of Emotionally Abusive Parents: How to Heal, Cultivate Emotional Resilience, and Build the Life and Love You Deserve - https://amzn.to/3UhURWI
⚉ Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut. - https://amzn.to/3L3sMuA
⚉ But It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath - https://amzn.to/3tuNQEn
⚉ Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself - https://amzn.to/3JBql1R
⚉ Success Equations: A Path to Living an Emotionally Wealthy Life - https://amzn.to/3uobd1u
⚉ Loving Yourself: The Mastery of Being Your Own Person - https://amzn.to/36mlXp5

CONNECT WITH JENNIE:
📌 Website: https://www.jgdivorcecoaching.com/
📌 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennie-guay-77720219/
📌 Email: jennieguay@jgdivorcecoaching.com
📌 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whywhisperpodcast

CONNECT WITH DR. SHERRIE:
⚉ Website: https://drsherriecampbell.com/
⚉ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SherrieCampbellPhD

Check out the Sherapy Master Class: The Toxic Family Sherapy Course designed to help people master toxic family members and turn their life around to one of freedom, peace, and empowerment. Click here https://bit.ly/SherapyMasterclass
Get early access to news, insights, and tips straight from your inbox. Subscribe to Dr. Sherrie’s email list, go to https://drsherriecampbell.com/