In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Aimee, sex coach, host of Come Talk With Aimee, to unpack red flags in hookup culture, casual sex boundaries, love bombing, ghosting, emotional unavailability, situationships, sexual compatibility, and how to protect your peace while still having fun.
This episode dives into the blurred lines between “hot” and “toxic,” how to define red flags in early dating, and why casual doesn’t have to mean careless. Alexa and Aimee break down how to navigate casual sex in a way that feels empowering instead of chaotic.

In this episode, we cover:
How to define a red flag (and why they aren’t always universal)
The difference between mystery and emotional unavailability
Why hot-and-cold behavior is a major warning sign
Love bombing and how to spot it early
Why ghosting happens (and when it’s acceptable)
Fear of rejection and craving validation
How to state your needs without playing games
Casual sex vs. friends with benefits vs. fuck buddies
Setting boundaries before sex happens
How to avoid situationships and why we’re both against them
Why “casual” doesn’t mean careless
How to reschedule a date properly from both sides
Signs someone may be selfish in bed
Unsolicited nudes and consent in sexting
Condom jokes & sexual health red flags
Boundary pushing and subtle manipulation tactics
Negging disguised as “banter”
Why talking badly about all your exes is a red flag
Pussy worship vs. oral as a chore
Abundance mindset vs. scarcity mindset in dating
Why you shouldn’t do casual if it creates chaos for you
Protecting your peace while still enjoying sex

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sexologist, intimacy coach for men, and former sex worker Coral Osborne for a conversation about conflict, repair, emotional safety, and how to fight in ways that actually strengthen relationships instead of destroying them.

This episode breaks down why conflict is inevitable, why resolution is not the same as repair, and how most people unintentionally make things worse by avoiding discomfort, suppressing feelings, issuing ultimatums, or apologizing without real empathy. Coral shares tools drawn from attachment theory, coaching, lived experience, and relationship psychology to help couples navigate fights with curiosity, accountability, and emotional intelligence.

Topics covered include:
The difference between conflict resolution and emotional repair
Why 69% of conflict in relationships is recurring
Secure vs anxious vs avoidant attachment styles
Why conflict is necessary for real intimacy
Sulking, silent treatment, and “read my mind” behavior
Fight, flight, freeze responses in relationships
How avoidance fuels resentment and rupture
The importance of reassurance during conflict
Why “do you want to be right or happy?” matters
Active listening and emotional attunement
How to bring issues up without score-keeping
Why feelings don’t have to “make sense” to be valid
Rejection and abandonment as core emotional wounds
What a real apology actually includes
Why ultimatums damage trust and safety
Repair rituals and post-conflict reconnection
Why makeup sex doesn’t work for everyone
Gamifying conflict and repair to reduce defensiveness
When recurring fights are about values vs preferences
Emotional safety as the foundation for erotic surrender
Curiosity as the key to intimacy, sex, and connection

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets back in bed with Aaron Thompson (aka Small Hands) to unpack how an awkward, short kid with a conservative upbringing became one of the most desired men in adult entertainment, and why confidence has far more to do with self-awareness, humility, and emotional intelligence than looks, height, or stats on a dating app.
They go deep on real intimacy versus performative sex, porn myths versus real-life pleasure, and how men can become better lovers by listening, learning, and caring more about their partner’s experience than their own ego.

Topics covered include:
The “Short King” mindset and why height doesn’t matter
Masculinity, confidence, and owning what you can’t change
Penis size myths and sexual insecurity
Why personality beats looks in real attraction
Dating apps, stats culture, and first impressions
Porn vs real sex (and why porn is not sex education)
Communication, consent, and “checking in” during sex
Reading body language, sounds, and partner feedback
Helping partners orgasm without killing the vibe
Using vibrators, magic wands, and toys with confidence
Sexual worship, power dynamics, and mutual pleasure
Learning from women and having real female friendships
Dating as a porn star and navigating fans vs real intimacy
Performative sex vs lazy, intimate, off-camera connection
OnlyFans, AI digital duplicates, and fantasy fulfillment
Erectile health, Viagra and injectable performance drugs
Aaron’s natural erection health routine

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with writer, performer, director, and sex worker Lucy Hart for an honest conversation about reinvention, desire, identity, and learning how to start over without losing yourself. Lucy shares what it has been like to transition later in life, rebuild after financial loss, find community through kink and creativity, and forgive herself through every stage of change.

In this episode, they discuss:
Reinventing yourself multiple times throughout life
Transitioning later in life and trusting your timing
Building chosen family and supportive community
Talking about sex before getting into bed
Ending sex based on satisfaction, not performance
Communication, oral sex, toys, kink, and curiosity
Sexual responsibility, testing, PrEP, and harm reduction
The importance of kissing and chemistry
Exploring kink slowly and without pressure
Power dynamics and shifting roles
Losing financial stability and rebuilding from scratch
Divorce, grief, and letting go of relationships that no longer fit
Forgiveness as a daily practice
Letting go of resentment and self-blame
Redefining success and happiness
Making peace with impermanence
Trusting yourself to rebuild again if needed

Thank you Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests cozy ◡̈

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified holistic sex educator and Beyond the Beez founder Elizabeth Ashford for a deeply practical, funny, and no-BS conversation about talking during sex—and why silence, shame, and faking orgasms are some of the biggest barriers to good sex. From dirty talk and giving direction to toys, lube, boundaries, aftercare, and post-sex debriefs, this episode is a masterclass in how communication transforms intimacy, pleasure, and connection.

In this episode, Alexa and Elizabeth discuss:
Why silence during sex creates insecurity and confusion
Dirty talk vs simply communicating during sex
Using your voice for pleasure, direction, and curiosity
Why most people struggle to talk during sex
Cultural shame, lack of sex education, and sexual confidence
Finding your sexual voice and understanding your desires
Why dirty talk looks different for everyone
Trauma, shame, BDSM experience, and comfort levels with dirty talk
Blending dirty talk with practical direction
Giving feedback without killing the mood
Starting with positive reinforcement before giving direction
How safety makes sexual communication easier
How faking orgasms reinforces bad sex habits
Why honesty leads to better long-term sex
The orgasm gap and why penetration alone isn’t enough
Why partners need to genuinely care about your pleasure
Oral sex as a baseline expectation, not a bonus
“Non-eaters” as a dealbreaker
Curiosity as the foundation of good sex
Sex worth having vs sex worth avoiding
Starter phrases for people new to dirty talk
Keeping dirty talk simple and natural
Compliments during sex and feeling desired
Post-sex communication and debriefing
Aftercare beyond cuddling
Talking about what worked and what didn’t
Porn, audio erotica, and learning language for desire
Erotic menus and yes/maybe/no frameworks
Borrowing phrases instead of reinventing dirty talk

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