In Bed With Alexa: Have Better Sex

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with comedian, podcaster, and host of The Manwhore Podcast, Billy Procida, to talk about humor in dating and relationships and why so many men feel the need to be the funniest person you’ve ever met.
From prank culture to competitive humor between partners, Billy and Alexa unpack the difference between being funny, being fun, and trying way too hard. They discuss why some people struggle to accept being the “joke receiver,” why men can feel threatened by funny women, and why humor can help smooth conflict.

In this episode we cover:
Why humor matters in relationships
The difference between being funny vs being fun
Why trying to be funny often backfires
Men feeling pressure to be the funniest person in the room
Why some men get uncomfortable when women are funnier
Humor competition in dating
The role of banter and shared humor styles
Why prank humor often crosses the line
Accepting that you might not be the funny one
Humor as a tool to diffuse conflict
Different types of humor compatibility
Why forcing jokes is unattractive
Humor as part of flirting and connection
Why being playful may matter more than being funny
The pressure comedians face in dating
Dating when humor is part of your identity

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with writer, sex educator, and polyamorous creator Gabrielle Alexa Noel to talk about the fantasy everyone has — and the one that goes wrong the most: threesomes.
From “unicorn hunting” to couple privilege, from jealousy to communication, this episode breaks down what actually makes a threesome hot and what makes it awkward, performative, or emotionally messy.
Gabby and Alexa unpack why “the third is the star of the show,” why gifting a threesome is a red flag, why kissing rules are often a dealbreaker, and why straight couples may have an easier time swapping than finding a unicorn.

In this episode, we cover:
The biggest communication mistakes couples make
Why “creating safety” changes everything
Kissing rules some couples have
“Couple privilege and why it matters
Why the third needs to feel special
How to DM a third correctly (and what NOT to say)
Signs a couple isn’t actually ready
Emotional labor being offloaded onto the third
Why you should take the third on a date
Why swapping couples may be easier than unicorn hunting
Jealousy and insecurity during group sex
What to do when someone feels left out
Aftercare expectations and debriefs
Why porn positions aren’t realistic
STI prep, condom changes, and fluid bonding
Toys in threesomes
Single men’s best strategy for getting a threesome
Why romance still matters even in casual group sex

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with abortion activist and founder of the Abortion Positivity Project, Sophie Nir, for a fact-based conversation about abortion positivity, stigma, bodily autonomy, forced pregnancy, abortion bans, medication abortion, procedural abortion, and more.
This episode breaks down what abortion positivity actually means: removing stigma and shame from the conversation entirely. Sophie explains why abortion bans do not reduce abortions, why 1% of abortions happening after 20 weeks is weaponized misinformation, and why “bodily autonomy does not expire at any point in pregnancy.”
She also covers how to support a friend through an abortion, how to navigate abortion inside relationships, what reproductive coercion is, how medication abortion works (mifepristone + misoprostol), why abortion is overwhelmingly popular despite political narratives, and why forced pregnancy is the real moral issue.
In this episode, we cover:
Why shame around abortion is taught, not inherent
The difference between being “pro choice” and abortion positive
How political language stigmatizes abortion
Why abortion access is in the worst position in 52 years
The myth that abortion bans reduce abortion rates
Abortion statistics
Forced pregnancy as government control
Medication abortion vs procedural abortion
How mifepristone and misoprostol work
Accessing abortion in restrictive states / countries
How to support a friend having an abortion
Letting go of internalized abortion shame
Talking about abortion openly with friends
Reproductive coercion in relationships
Partner influence vs bodily autonomy
Why consenting to sex is not consenting to pregnancy

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with Aimee, sex coach, host of Come Talk With Aimee, to unpack red flags in hookup culture, casual sex boundaries, love bombing, ghosting, emotional unavailability, situationships, sexual compatibility, and how to protect your peace while still having fun.
This episode dives into the blurred lines between “hot” and “toxic,” how to define red flags in early dating, and why casual doesn’t have to mean careless. Alexa and Aimee break down how to navigate casual sex in a way that feels empowering instead of chaotic.

In this episode, we cover:
How to define a red flag (and why they aren’t always universal)
The difference between mystery and emotional unavailability
Why hot-and-cold behavior is a major warning sign
Love bombing and how to spot it early
Why ghosting happens (and when it’s acceptable)
Fear of rejection and craving validation
How to state your needs without playing games
Casual sex vs. friends with benefits vs. fuck buddies
Setting boundaries before sex happens
How to avoid situationships and why we’re both against them
Why “casual” doesn’t mean careless
How to reschedule a date properly from both sides
Signs someone may be selfish in bed
Unsolicited nudes and consent in sexting
Condom jokes & sexual health red flags
Boundary pushing and subtle manipulation tactics
Negging disguised as “banter”
Why talking badly about all your exes is a red flag
Pussy worship vs. oral as a chore
Abundance mindset vs. scarcity mindset in dating
Why you shouldn’t do casual if it creates chaos for you
Protecting your peace while still enjoying sex

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with sexologist, intimacy coach for men, and former sex worker Coral Osborne for a conversation about conflict, repair, emotional safety, and how to fight in ways that actually strengthen relationships instead of destroying them.

This episode breaks down why conflict is inevitable, why resolution is not the same as repair, and how most people unintentionally make things worse by avoiding discomfort, suppressing feelings, issuing ultimatums, or apologizing without real empathy. Coral shares tools drawn from attachment theory, coaching, lived experience, and relationship psychology to help couples navigate fights with curiosity, accountability, and emotional intelligence.

Topics covered include:
The difference between conflict resolution and emotional repair
Why 69% of conflict in relationships is recurring
Secure vs anxious vs avoidant attachment styles
Why conflict is necessary for real intimacy
Sulking, silent treatment, and “read my mind” behavior
Fight, flight, freeze responses in relationships
How avoidance fuels resentment and rupture
The importance of reassurance during conflict
Why “do you want to be right or happy?” matters
Active listening and emotional attunement
How to bring issues up without score-keeping
Why feelings don’t have to “make sense” to be valid
Rejection and abandonment as core emotional wounds
What a real apology actually includes
Why ultimatums damage trust and safety
Repair rituals and post-conflict reconnection
Why makeup sex doesn’t work for everyone
Gamifying conflict and repair to reduce defensiveness
When recurring fights are about values vs preferences
Emotional safety as the foundation for erotic surrender
Curiosity as the key to intimacy, sex, and connection

Thank you to the best waterproof sex blanket in the market,  Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests dry and cozy ◡̈