Dating Intentionally

Have you read or heard of the book Attached? I'm chatting with Dr. Amir Levine, psychiatrist, neuroscientist, and author of Secure and co-author of Attached, a book that has indefinitely changed my life. In this episode, we break down exactly how to attract and spot a securely attached person in early dating, and how to build more security in your life (whether you're in a relationship or not). At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma from a listener who flew across the country for a guy who then changed his mind.
You'll learn...
All about Dr. Levine's CARP and SIMI frameworks
Why CARP should be your new non-negotiable dating standard
How to do a "CARP intervention" early without it feeling like a big emotional conversation
Why a secure relationship is supposed to feel boring
The strategy for distancing yourself from someone who isn't meeting your standards
Why most of us already have secure people in our lives and keep ignoring them
How your attachment style can be totally different with different people (yes, even your pet)

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
Secure by Dr. Amir Levine
Dr. Levine's website: amirlevinemd.com
Attachment Quiz
Dr. Levine's Masterclass: The Science Of Connection

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In this episode, I'm walking you through everything you need to nail a first date, from confirming the time and getting in the right mindset to navigating the conversation, handling the check, and knowing whether to go in for the kiss. This episode originally aired in January 2024/ At the end, I tackle a new dating dilemma about a woman who's dating a guy who didn't acknowledge her birthday.
You'll learn...
Six mindset tips for a first date
My fave low-pressure first date questions
What to do when your date isn't pulling their weight
Who pays for the first date?
Why you should NEVER plan date two on date one

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE
90+ questions to ask your date!
My dating "rules" episode
Anti-Ghost text templates
Relationship Needs Masterclass - June 22 & 29

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I’m Talia, host of Dating Intentionally, and I’m kicking off a six-week “Love Island Lessons” series alongside Love Island USA Season 8 (spoilers for episodes 1–4) to pull real-life dating takeaways from the villa. Tune in to hear me break down five key lessons about early dating we learned this week in the villa: why trying to be chosen keeps you stuck, how jumping to conclusions pushes people away and tips for navigating a dating culture where multi-dating is the norm. I'm sharing my biggest gripe about first interactions on the show, which can teach us how to have better first dates.
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I'm chatting with my best friend Rachel Saslaw, founder of Storytell NYC. She talks about how she spent six years actively dating before landing a committed relationship with an amazing match in an unexpected way. We're discussing everything from why she refused to subscribe to the "men suck" mentality to using dating as a training ground for self-discovery to the "flirting with life" energy that shifted everything. At the end, we tackle a dating dilemma about a guy who went quiet right before a planned first date, then resurfaced at the last minute with a long explanation.
YOU'LL LEARN...
Why hating men won't help you date men (same goes for men dating women!)
How to set a "minimum viable goal" for dating when your calendar is packed
Why the most aligned version of you is the one who attracts the right person
How to give a new person a blank slate after you've been burned
The case for grieving your single years and not racing past them
Why low-barrier first dates (the coffee walk) beat the high-stakes dinner

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The book we'll never shut up about, The Artist's Way
StoryTell - a live storytelling event in NYC

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