The Dr. Leaf Show

Most people assume they’re afraid of failure. But for many, the deeper fear is actually success—the visibility, responsibility, and identity shift that comes with getting what you’ve been working toward.

In this episode, I break down the real neuroscience behind success-avoidance, why your mind resists moving forward, and the five steps you can use to update your internal story and take intentional action. These insights come from over 40 years of studying how the mind drives behavior and how identity shifts create real change.

You’ll learn:

    •    Why fear of success is more common than people think

    •    How your mind uses old identity predictions to protect you

    •    What triggers hesitation, overthinking, and self-sabotage

    •    How to uncover the thought driving your resistance

    •    How to update the meaning your mind assigns to success

    •    The small actions that reshape your identity and unlock momentum

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Most people think they’re living with anxiety.Neuroscience shows many are actually responding to a misread internal signal—and that misunderstanding is what intensifies the experience.

In this episode, you’ll learn how your mind sends signals through your body, why uncertainty often gets labeled as anxiety, and the 5-step Neurocycle® process to reinterpret those signals and change your response with precision.

Inside this episode:


Why anxiety often isn’t the original problem


How misinterpretation amplifies physical sensations


The 5 steps to identify the signal, find the trigger, uncover the thought, update the meaning, and take intentional action


How this process rewires the brain through neuroplasticity

If you’ve tried calming techniques, mindset shifts, or “pushing through” and nothing stuck—this explains why.

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If you’re in your 30s+ and your friend group has gotten smaller, quieter, and harder to maintain—this episode explains why it happens and how to rebuild real adult friendships without forcing awkward “we should catch up” conversations.

A lot of friendship loss after 30 isn’t a blow-up. It’s the slow stuff: delayed replies, plans that keep getting pushed, long gaps that start to feel normal. And it’s not just you—adult loneliness is widespread, and research shows close friendships often decline after the late 20s.

In this podcast, we break down the psychology of adult friendship, what shifts in your mind as responsibilities stack up, and the 5 practical changes that help you rebuild a steady inner circle:


how to do a social energy audit (so you stop guessing who drains you vs supports you)


how to use emotional transparency without oversharing


how to build friendship rhythms that survive busy schedules


how to stop performing and start connecting with purpose


how to do mutual repair when distance shows up

If you’ve been searching for:

“friendships fade after 30,” “losing friends in your 30s,” “adult loneliness,” “how to make friends after 30,” “how to reconnect with old friends,” “how to maintain friendships as an adult,” or “how to rebuild your inner circle,” this is for you.

Share this with someone who’s been hard to reach lately.

Because sometimes the friendship isn’t “over”—it just needs a better structure for adult life.

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If you’ve spent years caring what people think, here’s the truth: you’re not “weak,” despite what others might tell you. This isn’t another motivational video that shames you into a false sense of hyper-confidence.

Instead, we explore how your mind is running a survival pattern no one taught you to interrupt. Social judgment activates the same neural networks as physical pain, and your brain predicts rejection long before anything happens. 

The reason we’re talking about this is that up to 60% of major decisions are influenced by perceived social judgment. That is not a good statistic.

In this episode, we break down the 7-step process that finally helps you:


Stop performing for imaginary audiences


Separate your identity from other people’s reactions


Build self-trust with evidence (not hype)


Reframe rejection so it stops feeling personal


Challenge the internal narrator that keeps you small


Hold your ground in real-time moments

If you’re exhausted from people-pleasing, shrinking, overthinking, or shaping your life around imagined opinions, this episode will hit exactly where it needs to.

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Ozempic and other GLP-1 medications aren’t just changing bodies. They’re changing brains too.

In this episode, I unpack what’s really happening beneath the surface when you take medications like Ozempic, Wegovy, or Mounjaro. Not from a place of hype or fear-mongering, but from curiosity, neuroscience, and compassion.

We talk about how GLP-1s influence hunger, motivation, emotional balance, and even your sense of self, and why so many people are surprised by the mental and emotional shifts that come along with physical weight loss.

You’ll learn:


How GLP-1s interact with dopamine and reward pathways in the brain


Why some people experience emotional blunting, reduced motivation, or changes in desire


What actually happens when you stop taking them, and why hunger returning isn’t failure, weakness, or a lack of discipline


The neuroscience behind craving, self-control, and identity


What hunger really does for emotional regulation and psychological resilience

And just as important, this isn’t an episode telling you what you should do.

Whether a GLP-1 medication is right for you is a deeply personal decision, one that only you and your doctor can make together based on your body, your health history, and your life. There is no moral hierarchy here. Using a GLP-1 is not cheating, not taking shortcuts, and not something that requires justification or shame.

This conversation is about understanding what these medications do to the brain so you can make informed, self-respecting choices, whatever those choices end up being.

If this message resonates with you, like, comment, subscribe, and share to help more people understand how the brain and body really connect.

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