The Unplanned Podcast with Matt & Abby

Mark Manson joins Matt & Abby for a thoughtful, honest conversation about modern self-help, personal responsibility, and what actually leads to a meaningful life. They talk marriage as a “long conversation,” the dangers of toxic positivity, dating apps, friendship, death, and how Mark’s thinking has evolved since writing The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.

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Chapters:

00:00 - Mark Manson

03:12 - Disappointment Panda

06:45 - Titling The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

13:00 - sponsor: CashApp

14:37 - Religious influence

19:15 - Dangers of self help

21:59 - How my views have changed

23:50 - Personal responsibility

26:34 - sponsor: audible

27:44 - Children and purpose

34:41 - Importance of community

39:45 - sponsor: square

41:40 - Three factors of friendship

46:33 - Quality of Life

53:15 - sponsor: Nutrafol

56:25 - Death

1:00:16 - Marriage: the Long Conversation

1:03:19 - The trap of dating apps

1:07:53 - Keeping score in marriage

1:13:18 - Launching a new self help app
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Matt & Abby have an honest, thoughtful conversation about divorce, what the data actually says, and the seasons of marriage that tend to be the hardest. They talk through common reasons marriages struggle, indicators that often get ignored, and why they still believe in marriage, before closing with an Agree to Disagree segment and questions from listeners.

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Chapters:
00:00 - A messy conversation about divorce
01:39 - Getting married before 25
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14:18 - Most difficult periods of marriage
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28:52 - Largest indicators of divorce
30:34 - Most common reasons for divorce
33:28 - Jobs and divorce rates
40:40 - Benefits of marriage
42:58 - sponsor: Shopify
44:40 - Agree to Disagree
57:44 - Q&A
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Tony Robbins and his wife Sage Robbins sit down with Matt & Abby for an honest conversation about marriage, love, and longevity. They open up about miscarriage, surrogacy, raising kids later in life, and what it really takes to stay connected through different seasons of a relationship.

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Chapters:
00:00 - Tony Robbins
01:27 - Secret to long marriage
02:41 - Struggles with miscarriages
05:20 - Parenting then vs. Parenting now
11:07 - I'm Not Your Guru
16:58 - The love my parents modelled
24:10 - Your relationship as seasons
34:35 - Fertility journey
41:47 - Surrogacy
52:37 - Soul Recognition
54:38 - Raising our daughter as a product of love
59:34 - Working with your spouse
1:09:45 - Everyone's deepest fear
1:14:49 - Responsibility is freedom
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The Abbys talk parenting through grief, the Kelsea Ballerini song that makes them cry, and what it brings up about family and regret. They share why they’re grateful they started their families young, discuss the pros and cons of young marriage, and explain how modeling pride in your work helps raise confident kids.

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Chapters:

02:19 - The Hope & The Hard

08:18 - WOW, That's Crazy!

12:55 - Kelsea Ballerini Deep Dive

26:05 - Starting a family in our early 20's

34:44 - The cons of getting married young

52:05 - Ask Abbys
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Lydia Plath Wyse and her husband Zac join Matt & Abby for an honest conversation about growing up on Welcome to Plathville, falling in love, and getting married on reality TV. Lydia shares what shaped her upbringing, how faith and family influenced her relationship, and the personal loss that deeply impacted her family. They also talk newlywed life, community, and what it’s really like living parts of your story in the public eye.

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Chapters:
00:00 - Lydia Plath
01:52 - Falling in love on Welcome to Plathville
04:40 - Growing up Plath
09:59 - Our family's religious beliefs
13:53 - Zac's upbringing
16:51 - Rumors that almost ruined our wedding
22:16 - Getting married on reality TV
22:50 - Sponsor: Ekster
24:20 - Why we got married so quickly
30:03 - Planning to grow our family
34:13 - The importance of community
35:29 - Our biggest fight before we got married
38:50 - What reality TV pays
40:34 - Newlywed life
45:19 - Sponsor: Rocket Money
47:17 - The blessing and curse of the public eye
53:46 - How my parent's divorce affected our marriage
57:05 - The loss of my baby brother
1:10:53 - Sponsor: Huel
1:12:25 - The family band that started it all
1:19:32 - How do you tailor your content for your audience?
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