#254 - "Sorry" Isn't Enough: How to Repair Trust in Your Relationship
Trust: It's the glue of secure attachment that holds a relationship together. If it's broken, everything changes. How do you repair trust once it's been damaged?
The fantasy is that we can say "sorry" and the trust switch will flip back on... But it's not that easy. In fact, for trust to be restored, it requires a very specific process that both partners need to engage in.
This is such a common and important part of the work for many couples seeking to repair their bond, so I'm putting this re-issued episode back in front of you.
You'll learn why "Sorry" isn't good enough, and you'll also learn the worst mistake you can make if you're trying to repair the trust in your marriage.
I'll also teach you the five action-steps you must take to mend trust for real, and how to use them to restore the security to your marriage.
I sincerely hope these ideas help you heal the trust in your relationship.
xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
GrowingSelf.com
PS: Changes are on the way here at Love, Happiness, and Success. For starters, you'll get more episodes... but you'll also start hearing promos on the show from time to time. Let's stay connected through this transition. Compliments? Complaints? Questions? Let's Talk.
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#462 - Feeling Sexually Rejected By Your Partner? Here’s What to Do…
“Why doesn’t my partner want me?” — If that question has ever kept you up at night, this one’s for you.
Lately, I’ve been hearing from so many of you that this topic — what to do when your partner rejects you sexually — is really on your hearts and minds. And I get it. It’s such a vulnerable, tender pain point that touches on self-worth, connection, and love.
Whether it’s happened once or it’s become a painful pattern, feeling sexually rejected can stir up everything from shame and anxiety to resentment and loneliness. That’s why I wanted to bring back this powerful episode — because the guidance here is so helpful, and it’s something I want you to have access to when you need it most.
In this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success Podcast, I’m joined by my brilliant colleague and sex therapist Dori to talk openly (and compassionately!) about what’s really going on behind those “not tonight” moments — and what you can do to heal the hurt, reconnect with your partner, and bring intimacy back into your relationship in a way that feels good for both of you.
We’ll walk you through the emotional impact of rejection, common myths about sex and desire, how to communicate with love and honesty, and actionable strategies to reconnect both emotionally and physically. You’ll leave this episode with insight and tools to navigate sexual rejection with grace, strength, and clarity.
Timestamps: 01:13 – Why Rejection Feels So Personal 02:29 – Understanding the Emotional Fallout 05:57 – Gender, Expectations, and Sexual Scripts 13:16 – The Body Image Trap 18:09 – When It’s Not Really Rejection 21:33 – Why Planning for Intimacy Matters 24:21 – Nonsexual Touch: A Game-Changer 24:53 – Talking About Sex Without Shame 25:18 – What “Responsive Desire” Means 25:45 – Designing a Sex-Positive Life Together 30:12 – Hug Me, Don’t Just Want Me 32:24 – Loving Boundaries & Body Autonomy 35:40 – The Avoidance Spiral 38:25 – Intimacy Beyond Intercourse 44:54 – When It’s Time to Get Help
If you're feeling disconnected, uncertain, or hurt in your relationship — especially around intimacy, I totally get it. It’s hard to talk about these things, and even harder to know what’s really going on beneath the surface.
I created a free research-backed tool to help you get some clarity: How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It’s a thoughtful, science-backed assessment designed to give you clarity on your strengths, your growth areas, and what to focus on for a more connected, satisfying partnership. I hope you check it out!
Let’s stay connected! You can find me here on Instagram and YouTube for more free resources and updates on new episodes of Love, Happiness & Success. Together, we’re creating healthier, happier relationships — one conversation at a time.
Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com
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From The Heart: A Personal Update About How We're Growing, Together
I have something personal to share.
This podcast — this weekly connection with you — is one of my favorite parts of my work. It's not even fair to call it work. If I won the lottery and never had to work for money again, I'd still be here with you, every week. (Recording from my penthouse in Copenhagen, but still). And... I have not won the lottery, sadly. And producing a well-done podcast is expensive. And after 10 years of offering this freely (and with joy!), I’ve realized that growing it further and making it better means accepting help, and trying new things. Yep, I need to practice what I preach to you!
Here's the deal: I’m partnering with a media company that’s doing things differently, giving creators like me opportunities to earn money from their podcasts while also ensuring this is a really nice experience for you. This move will help support the podcast while still making it free for you, always. (So if you were wondering if this was going to a paywall/Patreon situation the answer is NEVER.) What it does mean is that you will start to hear promotions on the show. No sleazy ads. Nothing gross or tone deaf. Just me, reading sponsorship messages for products and services I genuinely like and trust. Behind the scenes, I want you to know I'll be saying NOPE to promo requests for anything and everything that is not congruent with our shared values.
I'm doing this as a way to serve you better — to bring in new voices, create richer content, and stay sustainable.
But this is new for me. I'm a little nervous about it. I hope it will be good for both of us, but as with all new things, you never really know what's going to happen until you do it.
That's why we need to stay connected as we head into this new era together.
Seriously. I'm going into this knowing that this isn’t just my podcast. It’s ours.
Like any relationship, we need to communicate! Starting immediately (like, right now 👇) you will have access to me from every episode, to let me know how this is going for you, and what I can do to be an even better growth partner for you.
Look for the “Let’s Talk” link in the show notes of every episode. Please use it — to share thoughts, give feedback, share ideas, ask questions, or just say hi.
Thank you for being part of this journey. Here’s to the next beautiful chapter.
Your partner in growth,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
PS: What do you think about all this? Let's talk!
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#462 - Work, Kids, Repeat? How to Avoid Getting Burned Out... From Your Life
Have you ever had one of those mornings where you're prepping for an important work meeting, juggling a million to-dos and chores, and trying to get the kids out the door with lunches packed and shoes on the right feet? Yeah… same. We often associate burnout with our jobs, but the reality is that we can get burned out on LIFE. Hey. It's a lot. Just being a reasonably functional adult can feel like one big game of Whac-a-Mole leaving us further drained each day, with no end in sight.
In this episode, I’m sitting down with Sarah Armstrong — author of The Art of the Juggling Act — to talk about what’s really going on with life related burnout, and how you can create realistic, sustainable strategies to manage it all without losing your mind, your health, or your joy. We’re diving deep into personal stories, hard-won wisdom, and super-practical ideas to help you break the cycle of exhaustion and start thriving — not just surviving.
So grab that cup of lukewarm coffee you forgot you made, and let’s dig in. Timestamps: 00:00 – Understanding Life Burnout 01:13 – Introducing Sarah Armstrong and Her Mission 02:01 – Personal Struggles and Validation 02:54 – The Juggling Act of Parenting and Career 11:21 – Setting Boundaries and Protecting Time 22:43 – The Importance of Self-Care and Recharging 27:29 – Exploring the Meta Message 27:52 – Balancing Ambition and Ability 28:35 – Personal Choices and Career Decisions 31:57 – Volunteering and School Involvement 37:32 – Defining Real Mom
If you’re nodding your head, wiping a tear, or mentally reviewing your massive to-do list right now—here’s what I want you to know: You don’t have to figure this all out on your own.
My Clarity and Confidence Coaching is designed to help amazing humans like you create sustainable change. If you’re feeling burned out, exhausted, and stretched to your limit, this is your sign to get support. Our next cohort is starting very soon and space is limited. You’ll work with a therapist trained in evidence-based coaching psychology who gets the struggle of where you are and who can help you make real changes that stick.
👉 Reserve your spot now at GrowingSelf.com/clarity. We’d love to help you get to thriving again.
And if this episode spoke to your heart, let’s keep the conversation going. Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube. I share a ton of resources, in-depth interviews with experts, and evidence-based strategies to help you create a life you love—even in the chaos.
Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com
P.S. Know someone who’s stuck in the burnout blender? Send them this article. Share the wisdom. Be the friend who says, “Hey, you need to read this.” They’ll thank you later.
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#461 - Do Therapists Give Advice? Why They Hold Back and How to Actually Get Direction
Have you ever been in the middle of a therapy session and found yourself silently (or loudly 😂) begging for advice from your therapist? You lay it all out — the overthinking, the relationship questions, the confusion… and they smile gently and say, “Hmm... what do you think you should do?” 😵💫
This is an all too common occurrence that can result in confusing, frustrating, and disappointing experiences with therapy. So on this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, we’re going to talk about why your therapist won’t give you advice, what therapists can help you with, and what kind of support will give you the guidance you’re looking for.
Traditional therapy isn’t designed to tell you what to do or how to do it, and if you’re someone who wants clarity, structure, and movement forward… it might be time for a different kind of support. If you’re in therapy and wondering why you still feel stuck, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.
Timestamps 00:00 – Why therapists don’t give advice (and why that’s intentional) 05:21 – Understanding different types of therapy 15:19 – What coaches do differently (and why it works) 21:52 – How to know what kind of support you need 24:05 – When therapy helps… and when it doesn’t 25:49 – Coaching vs. therapy: what’s right for your goals? 29:44 – Watch out: unqualified “coaches” are everywhere 33:34 – The honest truth about what will actually help you 34:21 – Finding clarity, confidence, and direction 36:38 – Questions to ask before hiring a therapist or coach 45:02 – Feeling stuck in therapy? Say this to your therapist 48:05 – It’s not you, you just need the right support
If you’ve been nodding along while listening to this and thinking, "YES. I need a plan. I need movement. I need someone who gets it", I created Clarity and Confidence Coaching just for you. To meet you where you are right now, help you find clarity for your path forward, and to guide you step-by-step through transformation.
Right now, you can work with a brilliant therapist trained in coaching psychology for a fraction of what coaching usually costs. You’ll get expert support and a solid framework to actually create meaningful change in your life. And these spots go fast.
👉 Come visit growingself.com/clarity and snag your spot before the cohort fills up.
And hey, if this conversation resonated with you? Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube. I share interviews with experts, evidence-based tools that actually work, and lots of free resources to help you create love, happiness and success in your life. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
P.S. Know someone who’s been stuck in therapy wondering where the heck to go from here? Share this episode with them and support them on their journey.
Acerca de Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Ready to work on yourself, supercharge your life and create the love, happiness, and success you truly deserve? Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, your trusty guide on this transformative journey! I'm here every week to help you develop yourself, do the work, and grow into the person you want to be. In every episode, you'll discover the secrets to incredible relationships, authentic happiness, life-changing personal growth, the dream career you've been longing for, and how to create all the good stuff life has to offer. As a psychologist, marriage and family therapist, board-certified coach, and the visionary behind GrowingSelf.com, I'm on a mission to light up your path to greatness. Every single week, we dive deep into your burning questions, chat with inspiring experts, and serve up fresh, actionable ideas for you to put into practice. Don't miss out on your chance to level up your life! Tune in and let's co-create the love, happiness, and success story you've always dreamed of. It's time to unleash your potential! 💫🎙️
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