418. Undoing Your "Goodness" Programming: A Conversation with Elise Loehnen
Ever feel like you’re constantly trying to be the perfect friend, partner, coworker, or mom? That pressure to live up to everyone else’s expectations is a trap—and it’s keeping you stuck in self-sacrifice and people-pleasing. In this episode, I’m chatting with Elise Loehnen, author of On Our Best Behavior, about how we can stop chasing the impossible standard of “goodness” and start embracing our whole, authentic selves. We break down how society programs women to seek external approval—and why that’s keeping us disconnected from our real power. If you’re ready to stop living a performance and start showing up as your true self, let's go.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/418Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach.
This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start.
To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach
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417. Coaching Hotline: Codependency & Anger
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I answer two relationship questions—one about wanting more time with your partner, the other about lingering anger when your needs feel unmet. Both reveal the same underlying problem: telling yourself you should feel differently. You’ll learn how to explore your anger and anxiety without adding guilt or shame. Plus, I show you how thought work can be used to get out of cycles of self-blame and to make choices about relationships from a place of insight rather than reaction. Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/417Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach.
This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start.
To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach
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416. Expertise Perfectionism is Sabotaging Your Success
Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t be giving advice, leading a project, or stepping into your own expertise because you’re not perfect—or not perfect enough? That’s expertise perfectionism—the constant self-doubt that tells you your knowledge isn’t enough and that every mistake means you’re failing.In this episode, I break down how to spot and release expertise perfectionism, why perfection isn’t the baseline for impact, and how to measure your effectiveness by the help you provide rather than the mistakes you fear. I show you how even beginners in any field can act with authority, grow their expertise, and make a meaningful difference—without waiting to feel “ready” or perfect.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/416Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach.
This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start.
To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach
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415. Coaching Hotline: Confusion About Purpose & Accepting v Giving Up
In this Coaching Hotline episode, I tackle two powerful questions about self-acceptance and purpose. The first caller is a mom grappling with balancing acceptance of her son's autism and advocating for his needs. The second is struggling with perfectionism, confusion about her work, and quitting projects before they gain traction.Tune in to hear how to stop tying your identity to external outcomes and why emotional resistance isn’t helping you. I break down how to navigate self-doubt and frustration, and why your true work is learning to love and accept yourself first—no matter what’s going on around you.Submit your own question here and it might get answered on a future episode: unfuckyourbrain.com/coachinghotlineGet full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/415Mentioned in this episode:Have you been secretly dreaming of becoming a coach?I've got something for you. It's absolutely free and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach.
This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start.
To download it, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/threeClick here to download: 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach
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My Top 3 Wins, Lessons & Regrets About Becoming A Coach
If you love thought work and you've been toying with the idea of getting certified as a coach, I've got something for you. It's the hottest read of the summer, it's absolutely free, and it's called The 3 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Becoming a Life Coach. This is the exact resource I wish I'd had a decade ago when I got my start, and I'm sharing it because I want you to know more than I did when I was contemplating that transition.To download it for yourself, go to: https://the-school-of-new-feminist-thought.captivate.fm/three
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UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone breaks down the centuries of sexist socialization that causes us to struggle with self-doubt, burnout, and anxiety.
Hosted by Master Feminist Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., founder of The School of New Feminist Thought and author of Take Back Your Brain (Penguin 2024), each episode teaches you how to turn down the noise of societal expectations, turn up the volume on what YOU really want in life, and change your thinking to make sure you go get it.
This podcast is an essential resource for anyone eager to embrace a life free from limiting beliefs and societal constraints.
If you ever find yourself asking questions like…
*Why am I so anxious about stuff that isn’t a big deal?
*How can I stop overthinking everything?
*Am I selfish for wanting my life to look different?
*Will I ever feel comfortable in my body?
*Am I a bad parent?
*How can I ask for more money at work?
*Can I stop people-pleasing?
*How can my partner and I communicate better?
… then you won’t want to miss an episode.
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