Midlife Muse: Things Your Mother Never Told You

There is a woman in your life...or perhaps you are still searching for her. The one who picks up the phone when no one else does. The one who holds your vision before it has a name, your heart before you have a plan. The one who does not shrink in the presence of your intensity, but instead reflects it back to you as the very thing that makes you extraordinary.
Female friendship, when it is built on the right foundation, becomes the infrastructure of who you are allowed to become.
In this episode, Dr. Amanda sits down with her very best friend of 20 years, Judith Nowlin, her co-founder on the groundbreaking iBirth app and now COO of Midlife Muse. Together, they unpack what has made their friendship not only endure, but deepen with every season, and what they believe every woman deserves to know about building the kind of sisterhood that lasts a lifetime.
In this episode, we explore:
Why true Safe Sisterhood begins with a rising tide mentality and how Judith's refusal to compete changed the entire trajectory of Dr. Amanda's life

The mic drop moments that rewired both women's relationship to themselves and how one reframe can alter the course of an entire life

Self-leadership as the quiet force behind thriving homes, lasting marriages, and friendships that grow rather than stagnate

How Amanda and Judith co-founded iBirth, one of the very first pregnancy and postpartum apps, and what it taught them about saying yes before you know how

Navigating a business transition with grace and how that moment became the foundation of even greater trust

The promises made, the rituals kept, and the invisible agreements that make love feel like safety

Why celebrating yourself out loud is one of the most generous things you can do for the women around you

Some women walk into your life and stay long enough to build an empire beside you. Long enough to sit across from you and say: I was there. I knew who you were before you did.
This conversation is for the woman who has always known, somewhere deep inside, that she was made for more than surface-level connection. The woman who wants to be truly known, genuinely celebrated, and held accountable to the fullest version of herself.
That kind of sisterhood is not luck. It is a practice. And it is available to you.
The Muses Community was built on this exact premise. That expansion is not the exception, it is the baseline. That women from around the world, at every stage of their becoming, can walk alongside one another with radical generosity and zero competition. That the rising of one woman lifts every woman in her orbit.
If you are ready to be surrounded by women who have your back, who reflect your greatness back to you, and who are committed to going further together, your people are waiting for you inside the Muses Community. 
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Most women believe they are struggling in relationships because they are choosing the wrong people. But what if the pattern began long before them?
What if the way you learned to seek love, hold love, or even lose yourself in love…was formed in the very first relationships you ever experienced?
Attachment has a way of shaping everything. Not just how you love, but how you trust, how you express your needs, how safe you feel being seen, and how you respond when connection feels uncertain.
In this conversation with Eli Harwood, we explore what it means to understand those patterns, not from a place of blame, but from a place of awareness and responsibility.
Because when you can see the pattern…you can begin to change it.
In this episode, we explore:
Why attachment patterns formed in childhood continue to show up in adult relationships.

The difference between seeking a partner and unconsciously seeking a parent.

How self-abandonment becomes a strategy for staying connected.

The grief of not receiving what you needed, and why it must be faced to move forward.

Why one secure relationship can shift your sense of self and your capacity for connection.

How the mother wound can influence sisterhood, trust, and connection with other women.

The importance of emotional maturity in leadership, healing, and relationships.

What many women discover is that the ache they feel in relationships isn't about this moment. It lives deeper than that…in something that was never fully seen or safely held.
And while you cannot go back and change where you came from, you can begin to meet your life differently now. In the way you choose. In the way you love. In the way you stay with yourself.
This conversation is for the woman who is ready to stop repeating the same cycles…
and start creating relationships that feel safe, steady, and real.
If this episode resonates, share it with a woman who is learning to love without losing herself.
Because this is work we were never meant to do alone.
And if you feel called to go deeper into reclaiming your sense of self and emotional safety, my book Muse is available now. It is a guide for women returning to themselves.
Order your copy of Muse
https://amandahanson.com/muse/?utm_source=attachment&utm_medium=podcast&utm_content=eli&utm_campaign=podcast
Connect with Dr. Amanda on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/midlife.muse/
Connect with Eli Harwood:
https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/

As a woman, when everything you built stops working, it feels like failure. 
But it doesn't mean that your dream was wrong. It just means that the way you learned to push, prove, and perform can no longer carry what you're trying to build. 
Entrepreneurship has a way of bringing those moments to the surface. 
The moments where ambition collides with exhaustion. Where discipline stops feeling empowering and starts feeling like punishment. When a woman begins to realize that the rules she followed to get here may not be the ones that will carry her forward.
What many women discover is that entrepreneurship is not just a business journey.
It becomes a spiritual one. 
Because building something of your own has a way of surfacing every belief you carry about worth, safety, success…and love.
In this conversation with Mayssa Chehata, founder of Behave Candy, we speak honestly about what happens when building a company becomes a mirror. 
In this episode, we explore:
Why what we often call discipline can actually be a lack of self-trust

The hidden conditioning holding female entrepreneurs back

The subconscious limits from childhood that show up in entrepreneurship

The real emotions behind financial fear, burnout, and staying in the game 

Why reconnecting to purpose is often the turning point

How creativity and fun can unlock growth that force never will 

What rock bottom in business is really trying to teach you

Sometimes the breakthrough you need isn't found in working harder. It is found in working differently. 
It's the willingness to slow down, reconnect with your purpose, and begin creating from joy instead of pressure. 
This conversation is for the woman who is building something brave and feeling the weight of it. For the woman who wonders if she is cut out for this. For the woman who senses that the next level won't require more effort, but more self-trust.
If this episode resonates, consider sharing it with a woman who is creating something of her own. Because no woman building something brave should feel like she has to do it alone. 
And if you feel called to go deeper into reclaiming your inner authority and self-trust, my book Muse is available now. It's a guide for women who are returning to themselves. 
Order your copy of Muse
https://amandahanson.com/muse/?utm_source=entrepreneurship&utm_medium=podcast&utm_content=maysa&utm_campaign=podcast
Connect with Dr. Amanda on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/midlife.muse/

Connect with Mayssa Chehata:
https://www.instagram.com/mayssa/

There is a moment in a woman's life when something quiet but irreversible happens.
It isn't loud.
It isn't dramatic.
And it isn't the breakdown we've been taught to expect.
Menopause is often framed as something to manage, fix, or endure. A list of symptoms to brace for. A season to survive. What I was never offered, and what so few women are, is the deeper truth of this passage.
Menopause is not the loss of self. It is the reorganization of self around truth.
There is a spirituality to this experience that our culture rarely names. Ancient societies understood this threshold. They prepared women for it. They listened to the women who emerged from it. Today, we tend to rush her, medicate her, and ask her to return to normal even though there is no normal on the other side of transformation.
This reflection names what becomes possible when menopause is honored as a rite of passage rather than treated as a hormonal inconvenience. I speak to meeting physical changes with curiosity instead of fear, allowing ritual to replace resistance, and listening for the deeper intelligence inside each shift.
In this episode, I explore:
Why menopause is not a breakdown, but a profound internal shift

How fear-based narratives disconnect women from their bodies

What happens when a woman stops bending, explaining, and bleeding energy

Why discernment sharpens and tolerance drops in this season of life

The difference between patriarchal and matriarchal stories of aging

How choosing a different narrative can change the experience entirely

Here, I share my experience…not from a medical or prescriptive lens, but from a lived, embodied one. I offer this for the women walking that path now. And for the younger women who deserve a different imprint than fear.
Because menopause does not diminish a woman. It reveals her.
If this conversation resonates, consider sharing it with a daughter, a friend, or a woman you love.
To continue this work of reclaiming inner authority across every season of womanhood, my book Muse is available now…a guide for women returning to themselves.
Connect with me on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/midlife.muse/
Order your copy of Muse
https://amandahanson.com/muse/?utm_source=menopause&utm_medium=podcast&utm_content=episode64&utm_campaign=podcast

There is a quiet abandonment built into motherhood.

After the baby arrives, the world gently but decisively turns its gaze. Questions shift. Attention moves outward. The mother is expected to hold the rest privately…recovering offstage, adapting without pause, needing little, asking less.
Within that quiet expectation, something internal begins to form. Women start to minimize their own truths. They tell themselves it's not that bad. They learn to translate exhaustion into gratitude, confusion into shame, grief into something to be endured rather than spoken. What cannot be neatly named is often swallowed whole.
Women don't stay silent because they want to.
They stay silent because our culture tells them there is no room for the truth.
In this episode, I sit down with Kate Hernandez, founder of Postparty, a company built on a radical premise: that the recovery of mothers is essential, not optional. Together, we name the truths that are often minimized or ignored: the fear and guilt new mothers carry, the physical realities of postpartum healing, the emotional rupture many women experience, and the permission to hold gratitude and struggle at the same time.

In this conversation, we explore:
Why birth is celebrated while mothers are quietly abandoned afterward.

How shame keeps mothers from asking for help when they need it most.

The cultural obsession with bouncing back and who it actually serves.

Why "being cleared" is not the same as being cared for.

How virtual and in-home care can close dangerous access gaps.

The cost of ignoring maternal wellbeing on families, children, and future generations.

What becomes possible when mothers are finally centered and supported.

Why postpartum never really "ends", it simply evolves.

Because birth is not the finish line.
It's the handoff into a years-long transformation and the way we show up for mothers in the weeks, months, and years after birth reverberates through families, communities, and generations.
If you're pregnant, newly postpartum, supporting a new mother, or holding your own birth story in silence…this conversation is for you.
Because when the mother is well, the family is well.
And when the mother suffers, we all suffer.
If you want to continue this work of honoring the mother, not just the birth, my book Muse is available now. A guide for women reclaiming their identity, restoring inner authority, and returning to themselves in every season.

Connect with Dr. Amanda on Instagram
https://www.instagram.com/midlife.muse/

Connect with Kate Hernandez:
https://www.instagram.com/yourpostparty/

Order your copy of Muse
https://amandahanson.com/muse/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=kate_hernandez