If I Speak

Moya and Ash solve your dilemmas, featuring advice for an eager dater who wants to make the first move; the child of a parent who’s voting for Reform; a young man worried about being single forever; a new relationship overshadowed by sex addiction; an ex-couple who argued over money and chores.

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Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

Moya has been feeling anxious about her social life and wonders if there’s a better way to deepen her connections and friendships. Plus: advice for an international special one who feels directionless and disappointed.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

Ash has a big theory about our growing fear of cringe. How does the internalisation of secondhand embarrassment change our behaviour? Is it possible that to be cringe is to be free? Plus: advice for a listener who’s become scared of sex.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

A weird interaction on the dancefloor gets Ash thinking about ambiguity. How do we balance the need for clear consent with the perks of mystery and uncertainty? Has growing up online increased our need for clarity? Plus: a friend who’s been separated from her besties.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.

After quitting Instagram, Moya wonders if the concept of ‘healthy competition’ is a myth, and Ash explains how to hate with artistry. Plus: Taylor Swift chat (for the first 8 minutes, be warned!) and advice for a couple in a longterm sex drought.

Send us your dilemmas: ifispeak@novaramedia.com

Music by Matt Huxley.