Stop Shrinking, Start Living with Christina Aaliyah

If you hate your job but have absolutely no idea what to do next, this video is for you.I spent £87,000 and five years in medical school for what I thought was my dream career, only to realise about 18 months into working as a doctor that I could not see myself doing it long term. That was a very expensive identity crisis.And honestly, I think a lot of people know they want to leave their job before they actually understand why.So in this video, I break it down into four things: pay, pressure, people, and purpose.Because sometimes you do not need to completely change your life. Maybe you need to negotiate your salary. Maybe you need a side hustle. Maybe your job is fine, but your boundaries are terrible. Maybe your coworkers are draining you. Or maybe you keep expecting your career to give you all the meaning that is missing from the rest of your life.Lowkey, I think that distinction matters.I also talk about what actually helped me leave medicine: building skills outside my job, becoming more visible on LinkedIn, creating financial independence, and slowly getting to a point where I had options instead of feeling trapped.Real talk, quitting is not always the answer.But neither is staying somewhere that is making you miserable just because you have no plan.
TIMESTAMPS:
02:13 — You’re Not Paid Enough
08:20 — You’re Burnt Out
14:56 — The People Are the Problem
19:54 — Your Job Feels Meaningless.
So if you are trying to figure out what to do with your life, what career to choose, whether to quit your job, how to find purpose in your career, or how to make more money without starting over completely, hopefully this gives you a clearer place to start.What if the problem is not that you chose the wrong career… but that you have not figured out which part of it is actually making you unhappy?
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If you’re constantly choosing between disappointing other people and disappointing yourself, honestly, this video is for you. I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently because I’m 25, I’m planning to move to London, five hours away from my mum, and for probably the first time in my life, I’ve really felt that tug between what I want and what the people I love might prefer for me. And lowkey, I think learning how to disappoint people might be one of the most important parts of growing up. I’ve done it with my career too. I went to medical school because I wanted to. Then I eventually quit being a doctor, even though I knew my dad didn’t necessarily understand the decision. I spent so long weighing the pros and cons, and I genuinely reached the point where I knew my life would be worse if I stayed in medicine. That sounds dramatic, but it was true for me. This isn’t about becoming selfish or ignoring everyone’s advice. Real talk, sometimes your parents are right. Sometimes you genuinely do not know as much as you think you do. But there’s a difference between listening to people who love you and building your entire life around the fear of disappointing them. Especially if you’re trying to figure out how to stop people pleasing, how to set boundaries with family, how to stop caring what your parents think about your career, or how to choose yourself without feeling guilty. Working in healthcare also changed how I see all of this. Seeing young people suddenly become seriously unwell made me realise how unbelievably short and unpredictable life can be. It made me question why I was playing small just to keep everyone comfortable. Now I keep coming back to one question: Can I keep living like this? I asked it when I wanted to leave medicine. I’m asking it again while moving out of my small hometown and starting a new chapter. Honestly, every time I answer it truthfully, my life moves a little closer to something that actually feels like mine. So maybe the question isn’t, “Who will I disappoint if I choose myself?”Maybe it’s: How long are you willing to disappoint yourself instead?
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i spent years chasing this concept called ikigai.

that concept where the four circles that overlap
- something that pays you
- something you're good at
- something the world needs
- something you love.

i was convinced that if i could just find where all four circles met, my life would be perfect.

so naturally as a type A, overahieving girlie i became a doctor.

i checked all the boxes. i had my ikigai.

but i very quickly realised, this was NOT my life's purpose because finding your purpose doesn't actually fix everything like everyone says it does.

just because you do what you love doesn't mean the rest of your life is going to be perfect.

you can be good at your job, get paid well, help people who need you, and still hate it.

because there's always going to be deadlines you don't like, colleagues that drain you, pressure that weighs you down, and sacrifice that costs more than you expected.

this video is about how we're thinking about purpose completely wrong.

we're told to find our ikigai and everything will fall into place.

i think what we actually need is meaning.

purpose is what so manny people chase but meaning is the small moments that give you a real sense of fulfillment.
a conversation with someone that actually mattered.
helping someone when they needed it.
connecting with a friend.

those tiny ingredients that make life feel worth living.

that's what gave me the idea for The Kitchen Theory

i didn't realize until i quit: life is always going to be stressful.

there's always going to be something to worry about.

you're always going to have ups and downs.

so instead of waiting for the stress to end, instead of waiting for the perfect job to fix everything, maybe the answer is learning how to find joy in the midst of the chaos.

i spent so many years counting down. counting down to sixth form, to university, to graduation, to becoming a doctor, to quitting my job.

always waiting for the next thing to finally make me feel relieved.

and it took me quitting to realize i was missing my actual life while i was waiting for it to start.but what do you think

do you have a purpose?or are you just finding ways to make life feel more meaningful?

0:00 Intro
2:08 Your Job =/= Ikigai
7:22 The Kitchen Theory
11:07 My Purpose

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0:00 intro
3:14 work life balance
4:43 social life
8:24 earnings
13:12 purpose
21:20 what’s next

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