The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Podcast

• How to Stop Letting Fear Control Your Life (ft. Dr. Julie Smith)

  You know that voice in your head that loves to tell you that you suck? Yeah, that one. The one that compares you to everyone on Instagram, tells you you’re a failure for eating cereal at 11 p.m., and insists you’ll never get your life together. Well, today, we’re calling in a professional to deal with that assh*le. Dr. Julie Smith is a clinical psychologist and viral mental health educator who’s built a massive following by actually making psychology make sense. In this episode, she breaks down how to quiet that inner critic, stop getting crushed by comparison, and reframe your self-loathing into something a little more useful—like self-respect.We also dig into what it’s like to become internet famous when you’re an introvert, why emotions are not facts (even though they feel like they are), and how to stop letting social media, your parents, and your own bullsh*t beliefs define your worth. Whether you’re stuck in a shame spiral, wondering why life feels pointless, or just trying to figure out how to not hate yourself so much, this episode is for you.Get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/idgafUse code IDGAF to get 10% your health services at https://marekhealth.com/idgafDr. Julie’s new book, Open When: A Companion for Life's Twists & Turns: https://www.amazon.com/Open-When-Companion-Lifes-Twists-ebook/dp/B0D3CB1XX6Dr. Julie’s first book, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: https://www.amazon.com/Why-Nobody-Told-This-Before-ebook/dp/B0983L6T32Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow Dr. Julie:https://www.youtube.com/@DrJuliehttps://www.instagram.com/drjuliehttps://www.tiktok.com/@drjuliehttps://x.com/drjuliesmithhttps://www.facebook.com/DrJulieSmith/Follow Me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonChapters:0:00 Introduction'01:21 Using social media to improve mental health?04:50 How Dr. Julie stays sane07:01 When Dr. Julie has to take her own advice14:01 How to deal with comparing yourself to others too much24:21 The human capacity for resilience32:56 How to be less lonely36:57 How to know if therapy is working43:19 What about nihilism?52:13 Where do most parents get it wrong?56:46 What about when you hate yourself?Theme Music: Icarus Lives by Periphery, used with permission from Periphery.

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• How to Fear Less, Spark More Creativity, and Choose Better Problems in Life

  Fear of failure isn’t really about failure—it’s about what failure means to us. We’re not scared of messing up; we’re scared of being judged, embarrassed, or proving our worst insecurities right. But the people who actually succeed at anything are the ones willing to suck at it long enough to get good. Today, we break down why failure feels so terrifying, how social comparison messes with our heads, and why the loudest critics are usually the ones who’ve never done a damn thing themselves. Tune in for some practical tips on overcoming all of this.We also dig into the science of why boredom can spark better ideas, why our addiction to content might be making us less creative, and whether we should all do a digital detox before our brains turn into overstimulated mush. Finally, we wrap things up with a simple but profound question: If life is just an endless series of trade-offs, what are the best problems to have? Because problems never go away—you just get to level up to better ones.Get one month free at htttps://brain.fm/idgafSign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughThe Creative Benefits of Boredom: https://hbr.org/2014/09/the-creative-benefits-of-boredomFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonTheme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.

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• The Unexpected Truth About Sex, Drugs, and Rock & Roll (ft. Randy Blythe)

  Life in a rock band isn’t all sold-out shows and backstage parties—it’s a high-pressure, all-consuming commitment that tests friendships, sanity, and survival. In this episode, I sit down with Randy Blythe, legendary frontman of Lamb of God, to pull back the curtain on what it really takes to last in the music industry. From the brutal realities of band relationships to the myths of the rockstar lifestyle, Randy shares unfiltered insights on creativity, addiction, and personal transformation.We also dig into his journey to sobriety, the impact of punk rock’s DIY ethos, and the surprising ways today’s generation is redefining rebellion. Whether you’re a musician, a fan, or just someone navigating your own challenges, this conversation is a raw and inspiring look at resilience, reinvention, and the power of staying true to yourself.Randy’s books:Just Beyond the Light: https://www.amazon.com/Just-Beyond-Light-Making-Inside-ebook/dp/B0DJHMN7C1Dark Days: https://www.amazon.com/Dark-Days-D-Randall-Blythe/dp/0306825090Get 30 days of Shopify for just $1 at https://shopify.com/idgafUse code idgaf50off to get 50% off your first box plus free shipping at https://factormeals.com/idgaf50offSign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonTheme music: "Icarus Lives" by Periphery, used with permission from periphery.

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• Snake Oil or Self-Help?, Minimalism’s Real Value, and Atheists Who Go to Church

  Self-help is supposed to, you know, help. But what if, sometimes, it actually makes things worse? In this episode, we take a hard look at the self-improvement industry that promises transformation but often sells little more than feel-good illusions. From outdated advice that preys on your insecurities to the dopamine hit of "life-changing" content that changes nothing, we break down why self-help often fails the people who need it most.Along with unpacking the biggest traps of self-improvement, Drew and I also tackle whether or not minimalism was just an aesthetic rebellion against our parents’ McMansion dreams. We were both once staunch minimalists and we look back on what we learned and what principles still apply to our lives today. We wrap up with a listener question about the ethics of going to church if you’re an atheist. It’s another grab bag episode full of rabbit holes. Check it out.Get one month free at https://brain.fm/idgafGet a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/idgafSign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person:https://markmanson.net/breakthroughFollow me:https://instagram.com/markmanson/https://twitter.com/IAmMarkMansonhttps://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmansonChapters00:00 Drew's legs are too short for his chair00:40 The F*ck of the Week: Self-Help that doesn't help26:23 Brilliant or Bullshit: Minimalism43:05 Q&A: Is it ok for atheists/agnostics to go to church?Theme song: Icarus Lives byPeriphery, used with permission from Periphery.

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• Ask Mark Anything: Live from Australia

  Australia, you absolute legends. Back in November, I did a speaking tour across seven cities, talking to thousands of you about life, purpose, relationships, and why giving fewer fucks is the key to actually living a life you don’t hate. We recorded some of the best Q&A moments to share with you here on the podcast. We diving into the big existential stuff—how to stop procrastinating, how to know if a relationship is right for you, and whether Australia’s ban on social media for kids is actually a good thing or not. We’ll also talk about the brutal truth behind imposter syndrome, how to stop caring so much about what other people think, and one thing that actually helps you figure out what the hell you should be doing with your life. Plus, I’ll share some hard-earned wisdom on drinking, quitting, and why people stay in bad relationships way too long. So if you’ve ever felt stuck, lost, or just overwhelmed by the sheer absurdity of life, this one’s for you. Hit play and let’s get into it. Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: https://markmanson.net/breakthrough Follow me https://instagram.com/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson https://facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson Chapters 00:00 Mark goes down under 02:10 How do you discover what truly matters to you? 03:45 How can I stop procrastinating so much? 07:26 How do you deal with negative thoughts and feelings after a trauma? 09:39 How long should I wait on my "experiments" before I move on? 13:18 How do you deal with people who want you to tell you how to live your life? 14:36 What are some of the hardest things to give up? 16:43 What's your best advice on marriage? 19:40 Do you think we'll get back together? 22:12 Is society rewarding more and more bad behavior? 26:10 What are some tradeoffs that more people should do? 28:55 What can your books and content teach children? 31:57 How do you overcome imposter syndrome? 34:00 How to know if your relationship is good enough for you? 35:28 How can I deal with being overly empathetic and letting people walk all over me? 38:58 What do you think of the ban on kids using social media in Australia? 40:47 What's your advice for teenagers? 42:44 How do you overcome analysis paralysis? 44:38 How can you stop caring about other people's opinions so much? 46:56 How can we be more relevant in the AI future? 49:20 Why are so many good people not happy? 51:46 How do you go about finding your purpose in life? 54:38 What should I do if I'm focused too much on other people's problems instead of my own (codependency)? 57:42 How do continue to overcome failure after failure? 1:00:32 How can I find motivation to do anything when the world is so f*cked? 1:04:15 How can we more fully face death, grief, and loss? Theme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery , used with permission from Periphery.

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