Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care

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Question: How do I delicately share information about my child’s birth parent with my child, when we know their biological parent has a long history of arrest? They are not a safe adult for my child to maintain a relationship with. Our family is struggling with how to balance the message that the adoption plan was made out of love for the child and not wanting to cast a negative message about the child’s birth parent, even though we know there is a history of some very violent acts. We want this child to know and understand why the birth parent is not part of their life.
Resources: 
Talking with Young Children about Adoption and Birth Parents
Using Lifebooks to Explain Complex Issues in Adoption to Kids
Building the Framework for Adopted & Foster Children to Process the Hard Parts of Their Stories
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Join us for this interview with former NFL Running Back and Super Bowl Champion Ricky Watters. He is an adoptee, an adoptive dad, and author of a new children’s book on adoption, A Gift Called Shane.
In this episode, we discuss:
How old were you when you learned you were adopted and how did you find out?
When you discovered you were adopted, you mentioned in your NFL movie that it put a big chip on your shoulder. How has that chip served you well as an adoptive dad? 
How has it been a detriment?
Why did you decide to adopt?
Why did you decide to adopt internationally?
Did your experience with finding out late that you were adopted affect the way you discussed adoption with your son?
Do you see any signs of a similar “chip” in your son that you had when you found out you were adopted? How do you help him navigate it for his own success?
How did you prepare your biological son for the adoption of his brother? 
How do you support your adopted son in his questions about identity, birth family, etc.?
Are you in reunion with your biological family?
How has your adoptive family handled your reunion with your birth family?
How excited were you for fellow hometown boy Shady McCoy to get into the Eagles Hall of Fame?
What was your experience with playing at Notre Dame? 
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Question: I’m an intern therapist working with kids involved in DHS and the foster system. Could you guys talk about what a kid in the system needs from therapy? Or like what helped them, what didn’t, what they needed in that space that their therapist didn’t provide?
Resources:
Trauma-Informed Therapy: Finding the Right Fit for Your Family
Therapists: Parents Should Be With Their Kids for Adoptive or Foster Therapy Sessions
Finding an Adoption Competent Therapist
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Could you use a few new strategies to help your child improve misbehavior? Listen to this conversation with Dr. Casey Call, the Associate Director of Education at the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development at TCU and Associate Professor of Professional Practice in the TCU Department of Psychology. She will help us understand how to maintain connection while correcting challenging behaviors.
In this episode, we discuss:
Why and how should parents and caregivers work toward secure attachment with kids impacted by trauma? 
What does it mean when we say we are rewiring the child’s brain for connection?
What is the purpose of discipline? 
How can parents and caregivers set a firm foundation of secure attachment if they also need to correct misbehavior or inappropriate behavior?
Why do traditional or punishment-based disciplinary approaches not work for children impacted by trauma? 
Why do kids impacted by trauma tend to respond better (meaning an improvement in behavior) to discipline that guides them to think about their choices and consequences?
How can parents and caregivers maintain a safe, loving connection with firmness and kindness while still holding the goal of retraining a behavior?
In this process, what does it mean to share our power?
What is the “IDEAL” approach?
What is a re-do? Why is it so powerful for re-training?
What are a few practical ways that parents and caregivers can maintain attachment during these disciplinary or re-teaching processes?
What are some of the common behaviors that drive parents crazy? 
How can parents and caregivers maintain the intensity and pace of disciplining a child who has been impacted by trauma, without burning out?
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Question: My 2nd grader, adopted domestically, has some pretty big, hard behaviors, like tantrums, clingy whining, and difficulty cooperating or sharing. We know there was prenatal substance exposure. I feel stuck to help them with their big feelings and big behaviors — what do I do to help them day to day?
Resources:
5 Tips to Save Your Sanity While Raising Kids with Prenatal Substance Exposure
Prenatal Exposure, Part 1: Parenting Babies Through Elementary Ages
Tantrums, Meltdowns, Whining, Oh My! How to Parent Challenging Behaviors
Free E-Guide: Navigating Challenging Behaviors - Practical Strategies for Families
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Please leave us a rating or review.  This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
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