The Confidence Chronicles

🇺🇸 We’re taking the podcast on the road!
We’re travelling around America as a family for the next two months and trying a whole new format while we’re away.
Tell us in the comments: what do you want to see from us while we’re travelling? Behind the scenes, business, marriage, family, travel chaos? Let us know.
Now, about this episode...
Last year was one of our biggest years in business.
It was also fucking exhausting.
The business was growing, the opportunities were coming, but the way we were operating was no longer sustainable. So Hamish and I made a decision that felt completely counterintuitive:
We slowed everything down.
And it changed the way we run our business.
In this episode, you'll learn:
• How to spot the bottlenecks keeping your business dependent on YOU
• Why slowing down can actually help you scale faster
• How better systems can give you back your time and energy
• What I had to change as a leader to trust my team and let go
If your business is growing but you’re exhausted, doing too much or constantly thinking “it’s just easier if I do it myself”, this one is for you.
Sometimes the next level isn’t doing more. It’s building a better way to do it.
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audio book app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7 figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ The Queen’s Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
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👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
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Chapters

00:00:00 The Business Was Growing. We Were Dying. What we changed before it broke us.
00:05:33 48 Speaking Events and Total Exhaustion
00:07:07 How Do We Scale Without Dying
00:09:05 Finding the Bottlenecks: ME
00:11:20 Slowing Down to Speed Up
00:17:09 Investigating Every Process: Why Do We Do It This Way?
00:21:17 The Breakthrough: From Overwhelmed to Calm and Organized
00:23:17 What Really Changed in the Business
00:23:37 Why We Chose Team Over Agencies
00:25:38 When Everything Started Working Again
00:44:04 Confidence Is Trusting Yourself When Everything Feels Wrong

Have you ever looked around at the women in your life and wondered why you feel like you have to make yourself smaller to belong?
My gorgeous friend Neda Hovaizi knows that feeling.
Before she created Fab Fierce Females, Neda was an ambitious woman with huge ideas who found herself feeling misunderstood by the women around her. She started questioning herself. Then the invitations stopped coming.
Eventually, she realised something:
She wasn't the problem. She was in the wrong circle.
Instead of waiting for the women she admired to invite her to their table, Neda decided to invite them to hers.
That decision eventually grew into Fab Fierce Females, FFFCon and a community of women who don't feel threatened by another woman's ambition, they fan each other's flames.
🎟️ JOIN ME AT FFFCON 2026 IN BOSTON
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Come spend two incredible days with us surrounded by ambitious women, powerful conversations, leadership, connection and community.
SAVE $100 on GA or VIP tickets with code: ERIKAFFF
👉🏽 Get your tickets here:
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In this episode:
• what it feels like to outgrow friendships and realise you need a different circle
• how Neda built three businesses by following the ideas she couldn't ignore
• why being surrounded by women who aren't intimidated by your greatness matters
• the deeper story of family, grief and legacy behind the work Neda is building
We also get into something I LOVE about Neda: she doesn't wait until she has the entire roadmap before she moves.
From opening her own dental practice just one year after dental school, to launching a med spa, building Fab Fierce Females and confronting her fear of public speaking, Neda's story is such a beautiful example of what can happen when you trust the vision enough to figure the rest out along the way.
If you’ve been questioning whether you’re too ambitious, too driven or simply too much for the people around you, maybe the answer isn’t to become less of yourself.
Maybe you need a different fucking room.
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audio book app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7 figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ The Queen’s Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
→ All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/
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I am so fucking excited about my life right now.
And I don’t say that because everything is perfect.
I say it because I know what it feels like to experience loss, grief, trauma and moments where you genuinely don’t know how you’re going to find your way through.
Those experiences taught me something I wish I could somehow transfer directly to you:
Your life is precious, and it is happening right now.
Not when you have more money. Not when your business grows. Not when you find the relationship. Not when the kids get older. Not when you finally feel confident enough.
Right now.
In this episode, I want to talk about the areas of our lives where we’ve accepted stagnation, unhappiness or “this is just how it is”, and what happens when you decide you’re no longer willing to live that way.
In this episode:
• what feeling stagnant can reveal about what you actually want
• why your hardest seasons can become the beginning of an expansion
• how I’ve learned to turn fear into excitement when I’m doing scary things
• why creating a life you love ultimately becomes your responsibility
Maybe you’ve outgrown the person you used to be.
Maybe the relationship, career, business, friendship or life that once fit you doesn’t anymore.
That doesn’t necessarily mean something has gone wrong.
Maybe you’re expanding.
You are here. You are breathing. There are still things you want to experience, people you want to love, places you want to go and dreams you want to chase.
Go fucking live.
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audio book app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7 figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ The Queen’s Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
→ All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/
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You can be brilliant, hardworking and incredibly capable, and still find yourself being overlooked.
But what if the problem isn't only what's happening around you?
After speaking at a women in tech event, I left thinking about how many incredible women are frustrated that they're not being heard, recognised or given the opportunities they deserve, while also struggling to speak up, set boundaries, advocate for themselves and communicate what they actually want.
There are absolutely barriers women face in workplaces and leadership.
But this episode is about the part we have the power to change.
I'm talking about radical responsibility, the stories we carry about ourselves and how those beliefs can quietly influence the way we show up, lead and allow other people to treat us.
In this episode:
• why working harder isn't always what gets you recognised
• how your internal narrative can follow you into every room
• what changes when you start advocating for yourself and your career
• why confidence and self-trust are essential for women who want to lead
If you're waiting for someone else to notice how capable you are, recognise your contribution or finally give you the opportunity you've been hoping for, this episode might challenge you to look somewhere different.
At yourself.
Because when you stop outsourcing your power, everything changes.
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7 figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ The Queen’s Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
→ All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/
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When Bad Bunny announced his Australian tour, we thought we were just going to a concert.
We had no idea it would change everything.
What started as two Puerto Rican women trying to find their people became a growing community of Puerto Ricans and Dominicans across Australia. From WhatsApp groups and concerts to parties, new friendships and families finally finding each other, this episode is about creating community instead of waiting for it.
This isn't just a concert recap.
It's a conversation about belonging, identity, culture, courage, and finally finding home on the other side of the world.
In this episode, we talk about:
• how Bad Bunny's tour unexpectedly united Puerto Ricans across Australia
• what happened when we realised there were far more of us than we imagined
• why community doesn't happen by accident
• what this experience taught us about belonging and connection
Whether you're Puerto Rican, Latino, living overseas, or searching for your people, this is a reminder that sometimes one person willing to bring people together can change everything.
🎥 WATCH THE FIRST EPISODE
Before this community came together, Yadi and I sat down to talk about Puerto Rican identity, diaspora, cultural grief, and what it means to carry your roots while building a life in Australia:
https://youtu.be/2Z3D36sK4fI?si=f8QHupwyGE2g2N57
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ The Queen's Table
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ The Next Level
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
→ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
→ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
→ Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
→ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
→ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
→ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
→ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
→ All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/
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Chapters

00:00:00 How Bad Bunny Brought Puerto Ricans Together in Australia
00:00:27 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:24 From Eight Puerto Ricans to Eighty: The WhatsApp Explosion
00:04:18 The Bad Bunny Super Bowl Moment That Changed Everything
00:05:34 We Tried to Get Bad Bunny to Our Party: Shooting Your Shot
00:07:58 The Pre-Concert Gathering: Finding Each Other Before the Show
00:08:45 Concert Night: Collecting Puerto Ricans Like Pokemon
00:09:26 Cultural Appropriation or Appreciation: The Puerto Rican Flag Everywhere
00:10:25 Exchanging Phone Numbers With Strangers: Instant Family
00:11:31 The Magic of Finding Your People: Serendipity at the Stadium
00:15:26 Bad Bunny's Team: Coffee, Culture, and Community on Tour
00:16:39 General Admission Chaos: Too Old for This But Here We Are
00:18:49 Meeting Erica Peña: When Your Favorite Designer Flies From Bali
00:20:09 Surprise Guests From America: Friends Flying In for the Experience
00:20:37 The Tears, The Tequila, The Pure Joy: Concert Emotions
00:20:58 The Spontaneous Street Party: When the Concert Ends But We Don't
00:21:58 Australia Wakes Up to Puerto Rico: The Cultural Impact
00:23:43 From Concert to Community: Planning the Christmas in July Parranda
00:24:46 Erica Invites 80 Strangers to Her House: What Could Go Wrong?
00:25:20 The Parranda: Puerto Rican Christmas Party Down Under
00:26:07 Six Pernils and Endless Rice: When Puerto Ricans Bring Food
00:28:31 The Kids Dancing With Flags: Passing Down Culture to the Next Generation
00:32:52 PR and Media Coverage: Telling the Puerto Rican Australia Story
00:34:19 The Mangrove Effect: How Community Creates Ecosystem
00:37:20 Supporting Each Other: From Opera to Personal Training
00:35:00 The Courage to Take Up Space and Make Noise
00:38:54 We're Not Alone Anymore: The Gift of Finding Your People
00:40:33 Stay Curious: Finding Similarities in Different Cultures
00:39:53 We Invited Puerto Rico to Australia: Final Reflections