How to Declutter Clothes, Pantries, and Memories :: Tara Bremmer [Ep 537]
Do you ever feel like clutter is taking over your home? In this episode, Tara Bremmer, professional organizer is here to dive into the heart of decluttering. We will talk about where to start if your home feels out of control, and how to tackle overwhelming projects in small, manageable steps instead of turning your whole house upside down. You’ll also hear tips for pantry organization, dealing with “rage areas,” and how to maintain chaos resilience by scheduling time to keep things in order. We also cover:
Practical tips for decluttering books, laundry, and pantries
The emotional side of clutter and why we hold on to things in stressful times
Decluttering with kids: teaching them to let go, manage clothes, and organize their space
Tips for closet organization: including deciding what sizes of clothes to hang onto
Connect with Tara Bremmer:
Website: House Peace
Instagram: Therapy for your house. (@house.peace)
Related Episodes:
Declutter Like a Mother :: Allie Casazza [Ep268]
From Chaos to Calm: Practical Tools to Manage Anger and Overwhelm in Motherhood :: Elizabeth Andreyevskiy [Ep 513]
Choose What Matters to YOU :: Kendra Adachi [Ep 293]
House Rules and Learning to Love your Home :: Myquillyn Smith [Ep 462]
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How to Stop Shame Spirals :: Dr. Curt Thompson [Summer of Mentorship Wk 6]
Our kids begin to feel and respond to shame as early as 15 to 18 months of age. Those early moments can begin a lifelong struggle with feeling unworthy, inadequate and unlovable. Shame also disintegrates us (separating our thinking brain from our feeling brain) and isolates us from others.
My guest is Dr. Curt Thompson, a psychiatrist and expert on the effects of shame and how to find freedom from the lifelong negative messages that come after us and our family.
“One of the things that we notice about shame is that because we are immobilized and we are hiding, shame does not actually ever allow us to move toward God. This is why we have to have someone come and find us. This is why when our children are experiencing shame, we have to go and find them. This is why it's important for us as parents to have others who are coming to find us.”
YES! Moms don’t let moms sit in shame. We can choose to seek out others when they are stuck in the shame cycle. Who are your 2 or 3 moms that will help you tell your story more truly?
Dr. Thompson walks us through some practical ways to build in memories and physical reminders to work against shame in the future for both ourselves and others. And throughout our conversation he points back to how God doesn’t leave us to deal with shame alone.
“The beautiful thing is Jesus isn’t worried about our kids. He's not worried about your mothering. He's delighted. He knows how hard this work is and he knows that we will do it imperfectly. Even when we have our worst moments in which we foist to shame upon our kids or when our kids experience shame against everything that we're doing to try to combat it, God is saying: ‘I'm not worried. I never run out of options.’”
Summer of Mentorship Discussion questions PDF
Connect with Dr. Thompson:
Website: https://curtthompsonmd.com
Facebook: https://curtthompsonmd.com/
Instagram: @curt_thompson_md
Links Mentioned:
BOOK: The Soul of Shame
BOOK: Anatomy of the Soul
BOOK: The Soul of Desire: Discovering the Neuroscience of Longing, Beauty, and Community
BOOK: The Deepest Place: Suffering and the Formation of Hope
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Group Discussion Questions:
Have you studied shame before? Were you familiar with what it does to our bodies?
What was the last thing you felt shame about? How did it isolate you or disrupt a creative process?
Talk through how a friend or spouse could help you walk out of a shame cycle (whether minor or major).
Who are 2 or 3 women that could help you feel loved or speak truth back to you that “Jesus isn’t surprised”?
Discuss meeting your children in their shame and how we can rely on God in those moments.
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A Pep Talk for Reading the Whole Bible :: Tara-Leigh Cobble [Summer of Mentorship wk 5]
Have you read the whole Bible? That was the question my guest Tara-Leigh Cobble struggled to answer while talking to a pastor friend. As she thought back through her life growing up in a Christian home, being involved in church and now working in full-time ministry, she couldn’t say for sure that she’d really read ALL of the Bible.
So she started a chronological reading plan to read it all, even the genealogies. But as she read, Tara had to wrestle with stories she’d never heard from the pulpit.
“I was questioning the Bible because I was reading the Bible and I was questioning not is this true, but is he good? Yeah. Do I like him? My mentor said the places where you have difficulty with God lean in because the good stuff is on the other side of this. The good stuff is on the other side of this struggle.”
After completing her own journey of reading the full Bible and seeing scripture and God in a new way, Tara-Leigh created The Bible Recap podcast and book to help others encounter God through his Word. And she’s here to give us a pep talk for reading the full Bible too.
“You behold the living God in scripture, and all of a sudden, instead of feeling burdened by your to-do list, you're going to be buoyed and carried along by the love of the God of the universe and by the person of who he is. And that's what I want you to take away from scripture every day, a vision of the God who loves you and who has already accomplished all that he requires of you.”
Summer of Mentorship Discussion questions PDF
Connect with Tara-Leigh:
Website: www.taraleighcobble.com
The Bible Recap: www.thebiblerecap.com
Instagram: @taraleighcobble
Links Mentioned:
The Bible Recap: A One-Year Guide to Reading and Understanding the Entire Bible
Listen to the Bible on YouVersion
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Healing Past Wounds for More Freedom :: Jennifer Barnett [Summer of Mentorship wk 4]
There is often a disconnect from what we read in scripture and how we experience life. God says, “I have not given you a spirit of fear,” but we keenly feel fear and anxiety. We know that God has saved our souls through Christ's death and resurrection, but we still feel like past wounds/choices/lies come between us and hearing His voice.
One powerful way to work towards freedom in these areas is through a biblically-based program of inner healing prayer. My guest Jennifer Barnett of Freedom Prayer joins me to talk about inner healing prayer or freedom prayer, a powerful process that helps restore individuals to a more fruitful and fulfilling walk with God.
“Inner healing prayer is its own sort of type of prayer. If you're not familiar with it, we would say it's some really intentional time devoted to allowing God to remove anything that would hinder someone from a full abiding relationship with him. That could look like sin, wounding, ungodly beliefs, or lies that we believe about ourselves, God or other people.”
My experience with inner healing prayer has been so powerful and I believe it can be for you too. For more information on Freedom Prayer visit their website at https://freedomprayer.org.
Summer of Mentorship 2025 Discussion questions PDF
Connect with Freedom Prayer:
Website: freedomprayer.org
Facebook: facebook.com/freedomresources
Group Discussion Questions:
Is there something in your life you need freedom from to connect more with God?
Can you find an inner healing prayer ministry near you to pray?
How has prayer impacted your walk with Christ? Is it something you do regularly?
Is there someone else you need to share inner healing prayer with?
Other Episodes on the topic:
True Intimacy with God :: Mo Isom Aiken [Ep 318]
Soul Freedom :: Francie Winslow (Encore)
For Freedom Be Set Free with Francie Winslow {Ep. 4}
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Learning to Listen to God's Voice :: Kelsey Phillips [Summer of Mentorship wk 3]
A few years ago, my friend Kelsey Philips hit a crisis in her life. She felt physically unwell, depressed and desperate for healing. She connected with a missionary couple from her church who prayed with her and over her for two hours. It was in that prayer time that Kelsey recognized God’s voice for the first time.
“He had been speaking to me for a long time. I just didn't know it was him. When you have an encounter like that, he speaks to these places that are so deep. He is healing wounds that are so far back and he is breaking you free of chains that are so heavy and hard and real. You don't ever want to go back to a place where you don't have that.”
I believe we can hear God’s voice and that he is still speaking today. As Kelsey reminds us, there’s no better time than now to practice listening to the Lord.
“It does require solitude and quiet and that is not our nature. But here we are in a season where we are in worldwide rest. We are forced into this place of quiet. We've all had to come off of the hamster wheel and this has been an incredible time to allow space to listen to him about what he's doing on so many levels.”
*this episode originally aired in March of 2020
Summer of Mentorship Discussion questions PDF
Links Mentioned:
Novo Missions [WEBSITE]
Listening Prayer [ARTICLE]
Where to Start in Listening Prayer–Friendship Questions [PDF]
Hello Mornings [WEBSITE]
Additional Resources:
Hearing God: Developing a Conversational Relationship with God by Dallas Willard
The Joy of Listening to God: Hearing the Many Ways God Speaks to Us by Joyce Huggett
Whispers: How to Hear the Voice of God by Mark Batterson
Group Discussion Questions:
Take a few moments to check in with your group. How is everyone feeling? Give space for members to share how they are dealing with the uncertainty and stress. Practice listening to one another without judgement or advice.
What has been your experience with “listening to the Lord”? Is that a familiar or unfamiliar concept?
Have you ever had a moment like Kelsey’s when you recognized God’s voice for the first time? Share!
How could asking God for a vision for your kids change your perspective on parenting them?
What is one step you can take to make space to hear God this week? Brainstorm with one another.
Is there someone you can encourage by sharing this episode with them? Take a moment to share it right now!
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Heather MacFadyen, mother of four boys, connects you the listener with people and resources to help you feel less alone. Consider it an invitation to "withness".