Beyond the Letter

Sometimes the quickest way to drain the joy out of marriage is turning your relationship into a strict routine, a running scoreboard, or a daily critique session. In this episode, Adam and Ashlee talk about keeping marriage fun—not by ignoring real issues, but by refusing to nitpick each other to death. They react to a viral “just let them be” video and unpack what it looks like to have a relationship where you support each other’s hobbies, rhythms, naps, and personality quirks… without making everything a fight. Because not every annoyance deserves a confrontation—and not every preference deserves a rule.They also get real about what does need a conversation: when stress, exhaustion, or overwork starts changing who you are. From folded laundry sitting on the table to Disney passes, date nights, and learning to enjoy what your spouse enjoys, this episode is all about grace, teamwork, and healthy communication. Adam and Ashlee also share a serious warning about how “punishment patterns” (like withholding affection or constantly creating tension) can quickly spiral into bigger damage. The goal isn’t perfection—it’s building a marriage that feels safe, light, and full of joy again.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode, Sammy hosts with Haron and Fuego as they react to Druski’s viral “megachurch” skit—and talk about why it hit such a nerve. They unpack the difference between mocking faith vs. mocking the performance of faith, and why so many people take a painful experience and turn it into a blanket statement: “this is why I don’t do church.” From there, the conversation turns into a real look inward: hypocrisy, accountability, and how leaders can invite trusted voices in, “watch the film,” and stay centered on God instead of image.They also zoom out to what people don’t always see behind the curtain: the impact, resourcing, missions, and restoration work that healthy churches are doing quietly. Plus, Andy jumps in with Gen Z perspective—why young people are spiritually curious but often lack biblical foundation, and why a skit shouldn’t become someone’s whole theology. The big takeaway: don’t let viral moments push you away from Jesus or the local church—let it spark honest reflection, deeper discipleship, and a return to the Word.--Connect with:Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Haron Kaisa https://www.instagram.com/kaisaclan/Fuego Padilla https://www.instagram.com/iamfuegopadilla/--Check out Adam's website!https://www.adammesa.org/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In this episode, Adam and Ashlee unpack a viral dating idea: “I want my man to be the leader of his friend group.” And they push back hard—because status isn’t the same thing as integrity. They talk about why chasing the “head honcho” can actually be a red flag, and why what you really want to look for is something deeper: initiative, discipline, character, humility, and the ability to lead in a healthy way—not just perform confidence for attention.The conversation goes further into something most people don’t connect to dating: friendships. Adam and Ashlee get real about how unhealthy relationships can spill into your marriage, your peace, and your family—and why maturity sometimes means letting go of friendships you’ve outgrown, setting standards, and refusing to carry someone else’s chaos. They also talk about “surface-level” friendships, one-sided relationships, and what healthy community actually looks like when you’re trying to build something lasting with your spouse and kids.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode, Adam sits down with his friend Lester to talk about finances, wise choices, and the systems that help you win with money at any age. They start with Lester’s personal story—how losing his dad young exposed the harsh realities families face when finances aren’t protected—and why that experience sparked a passion for financial education. From there, they break down the difference between having money goals and actually building a repeatable plan that turns goals into real progress.They get practical: high-yield savings, emergency funds, “forced savings,” paying off debt with the snowball method, and how much you’d need to save in your 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond to build a strong retirement foundation. Adam and Lester also talk about common traps—credit cards, lifestyle spending, “get rich quick” hype—and why a steady system often beats a flashy strategy. If you want to reset your financial story, build long-term security, and live with freedom and generosity, this conversation is a solid place to start.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Lester Baron https://www.instagram.com/globalmoneymaster/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In this episode, Adam and Ashlee get real about devices, boundaries, and raising kids in a screen-saturated world. They unpack a viral “90s childhood” parenting trend (VCRs, landlines, no streaming, classic consoles) and talk about the difference between intentional family connection vs. parenting that turns into strict rule-based control. If you’ve ever wondered how to keep your home grounded without becoming extreme—or accidentally creating curiosity and rebellion later—this conversation is for you.They also share what’s working in their own house right now: no iPads Monday–Friday, weekend structure, and a focus on building maturity over age-based rules. Adam and Ashlee talk through ADHD, dopamine-chasing, teaching kids why boundaries exist, and how to stay consistent in public settings (especially when other parents’ rules get… complicated). Plus: media discernment, nostalgia vs. your kids’ real interests, and how to shape character through sports, discipline, and everyday decisions.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=en