Beyond the Letter

Counseling has changed a lot in the last 15 years—and not just because people are more open to it. In this episode, Adam and Sammy sit down with Kenny Perdue to talk about what’s different now: the rise of self-diagnosis, internet “expert” advice, buzzwords like narcissism and gaslighting, and how those filters can shape someone’s expectations before they ever walk into a session. They also unpack why some people don’t want help—they want validation—and how that impacts growth in relationships, communication, and personal healing.Kenny shares what’s helped him stay steady after decades of ministry and thousands of counseling conversations: learning to “leave it here,” finding healthy outlets, and most importantly—always chasing the why underneath behavior. They talk about listening as an art, how vulnerability builds trust, why context changes everything, and what helps people actually make progress (especially couples). If you’ve ever felt stuck in patterns you can’t explain—or you’ve wanted help but didn’t know how to start—this conversation will give you clarity, language, and hope.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Sammy Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In this all-guys episode of Beyond I Do, Adam is joined by Sammy and Aaron for a real conversation about what it actually looks like to celebrate your wife well—and why most men miss it. They talk anniversaries, milestone birthdays, and the behind-the-scenes sacrifices wives make that are easy to overlook (especially in busy seasons with work, church, and kids).The guys also get practical: don’t just give what you would want—learn what she wants. That means paying attention, asking better questions, and understanding how your wife’s past (and even trauma) can shape what feels loving vs. overwhelming. The goal isn’t “big gestures” for show—it’s thoughtful pursuit, consistent honor, and building a home where your wife feels seen, celebrated, and safe to be herself.--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Connect with Sammy & Chandler Rodriguezhttps://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/https://www.instagram.com/chandlerbrod/--Connect with Aaron & Erica Levyhttps://www.instagram.com/_aaronlevy/https://www.instagram.com/erica.levy_np/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

What if the “decline of Christianity” narrative isn’t the full story? In this episode, Sammy, Gabe, Sanaz, and Joseph unpack the surprising rise in spiritual openness—especially among Gen Z and younger—and why Jesus is showing up in conversations, culture, and curiosity again.They talk about what’s driving this moment (identity, meaning, boundaries, and a hunger for something real), why young men are increasingly drawn toward faith, and how the church can respond with more than hype—through discipleship, mentorship, and real-life examples worth following. Plus: practical encouragement for sharing your faith without fear, overthinking, or needing the “perfect moment.”--Connect with:Sammy Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Gabriel Guzman https://www.instagram.com/salinascyy/Sanaz Mesa https://www.instagram.com/sanazmesa/Joseph Valcarcel https://www.instagram.com/joseph_aaron_valcarcel/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

Remarrying after the death of a spouse can feel complicated—especially when it’s your parent. In today’s episode, Adam and Ashlee talk honestly about widowhood, grief, and what happens when a widowed parent starts considering dating again. Ashlee shares why the idea of her mom remarrying feels uncomfortable and emotional, and Adam offers a different perspective on companionship, healing, and what it can look like to move forward without “replacing” what was lost.This conversation is real, funny at times, and also deeply human. If you’ve ever wrestled with loyalty, family dynamics, fear of change, or what honoring the past while embracing the future can look like, this episode is for you. Whether you’re the one grieving, the one dating again, or the family member trying to process it all—there’s grace for the tension, and wisdom for the next step.--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

Gossip doesn’t usually show up yelling—it shows up “helpful.” Just letting you know… Keep this between us… and before you realize it, a whole story has been built off assumptions, half-truths, and someone else’s “version.” In this episode, Adam and Aaron talk about how gossip spreads, why it’s so tempting, and how quickly it can damage trust, relationships, and even a person’s reputation.They also unpack the deeper issue underneath gossip—offense, insecurity, and the desire to feel in control—and share practical wisdom for shutting it down with integrity. If you’ve ever been burned by rumors, felt the pull to “join the conversation,” or realized you were unintentionally part of the chain, this episode will help you build discernment, protect unity, and choose honesty over noise.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Aaron Levy https://www.instagram.com/_aaronlevy/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/