Beyond the Letter

What do happily married women say their husbands are doing differently?In this episode of Beyond I Do, Adam and Ashlee react to answers from married women about the qualities that make their husbands stand out—from apologizing when they’re wrong and showing patience, to communicating with kindness, providing for the family, and making their marriage a real priority.The conversation also gets into what healthy support actually looks like in marriage and parenting. Adam and Ashlee talk about how different couples divide responsibilities, why helping your spouse doesn’t always look the same in every marriage, and the importance of finding a rhythm that genuinely works for both people instead of comparing your relationship to someone else’s.They also unpack trust, social media boundaries, friendship influences, stay-at-home parenting, and what it really means for a husband to make his family a priority. At the center of it all is a simple question: what does it actually look like to be a great spouse over the long haul?----Get the Acts Study Guide at adammesa.org----Join our study on the book of Acts on our Bible Club Podcast!https://www.youtube.com/@bibleclubpodcast----Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo--_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do----Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/----Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido

Adam and Ashlee are finally back at the table after a two-month summer break—and they have plenty to catch up on.They share what happened during their time away, reveal the major upgrades made to the Beyond I Do studio, and discuss how the new setup will open the door for more guests, remote interviews, and honest conversations about real relationships.Then the conversation turns toward marriage: What happens when one spouse always brings an opinion but rarely offers a solution? Can a husband truly lead if he remains passive? And are we expecting our spouses to change while refusing to examine our own selfishness?With their usual humor, banter, and honesty, Adam and Ashlee talk about communication, leadership, impossible expectations, deciding what to eat for dinner, and why a healthy marriage requires both people to move beyond simply identifying what is wrong.Beyond I Do is officially back—and this is only the beginning of what is coming next.----Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo--_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do----Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/----Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido

In today’s episode, Adam and Ashlee keep it light and hilarious as they wrap up the final Beyond I Do before the summer break. They share why the podcast is taking a short pause (hint: a big tech refresh is coming, including a 4K upgrade), and they talk about how routine-loving listeners might feel about it. Then Andy hits them with a surprise clip that instantly turns into one of the funniest moments of the season: Adam’s ongoing battle with curbs… and the now-legendary golf cart incident.They also end the episode with some real-life marriage talk in the middle of the laughs: Ashlee admits she’s been feeling a little more “needy” lately (her words), and Adam gives a practical take on why that shift might be happening. From texting during Bible Club to sharing drinks (and the boys’ backwash chaos), it’s one of those episodes that feels exactly like hanging out with them in real life.--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Connect with Andy Lopezhttps://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

This week on Beyond the Letter, Adam and Sammy react to a clip of Theo Von reading John 5 and getting hit with one haunting question: “Do you want to be healed?” They unpack how it’s possible to want change… but still cling to the patterns that keep us stuck.They also break down what Jesus’ command to “pick up your mat and walk” actually costs—identity, comfort, excuses, and sometimes even the “benefits” we’ve learned to live off of. If you’ve ever felt like healing sounds good in theory, but terrifying in practice, this conversation will challenge you in the best way.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Sammy Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

Ever look back and realize you don’t have enough videos of the people you love? In this episode, Adam and Ashlee get real (and hilarious) about “capturing the moment,” why Ashlee wishes Adam recorded more of her day-to-day life, and how quickly a simple ask can turn into a full-on marriage debate.Along the way, they call out excuses, talk about why small moments matter more than perfectly edited ones, and challenge couples to take ownership of what they say they value—because one day, you’ll wish you had more than just memories. Plus: Andy catches strays for finally going public with his girlfriend (and gets put on the spot to post the video).--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://www.instagram.com/amesa/https://www.instagram.com/ashleemesa/--Connect with Andy Lopezhttps://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com