Beyond the Letter

In this episode, Adam and Ashlee unpack a viral dating idea: “I want my man to be the leader of his friend group.” And they push back hard—because status isn’t the same thing as integrity. They talk about why chasing the “head honcho” can actually be a red flag, and why what you really want to look for is something deeper: initiative, discipline, character, humility, and the ability to lead in a healthy way—not just perform confidence for attention.The conversation goes further into something most people don’t connect to dating: friendships. Adam and Ashlee get real about how unhealthy relationships can spill into your marriage, your peace, and your family—and why maturity sometimes means letting go of friendships you’ve outgrown, setting standards, and refusing to carry someone else’s chaos. They also talk about “surface-level” friendships, one-sided relationships, and what healthy community actually looks like when you’re trying to build something lasting with your spouse and kids.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com

In this episode, Adam sits down with his friend Lester to talk about finances, wise choices, and the systems that help you win with money at any age. They start with Lester’s personal story—how losing his dad young exposed the harsh realities families face when finances aren’t protected—and why that experience sparked a passion for financial education. From there, they break down the difference between having money goals and actually building a repeatable plan that turns goals into real progress.They get practical: high-yield savings, emergency funds, “forced savings,” paying off debt with the snowball method, and how much you’d need to save in your 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond to build a strong retirement foundation. Adam and Lester also talk about common traps—credit cards, lifestyle spending, “get rich quick” hype—and why a steady system often beats a flashy strategy. If you want to reset your financial story, build long-term security, and live with freedom and generosity, this conversation is a solid place to start.--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Lester Baron https://www.instagram.com/globalmoneymaster/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

In this episode, Adam and Ashlee get real about devices, boundaries, and raising kids in a screen-saturated world. They unpack a viral “90s childhood” parenting trend (VCRs, landlines, no streaming, classic consoles) and talk about the difference between intentional family connection vs. parenting that turns into strict rule-based control. If you’ve ever wondered how to keep your home grounded without becoming extreme—or accidentally creating curiosity and rebellion later—this conversation is for you.They also share what’s working in their own house right now: no iPads Monday–Friday, weekend structure, and a focus on building maturity over age-based rules. Adam and Ashlee talk through ADHD, dopamine-chasing, teaching kids why boundaries exist, and how to stay consistent in public settings (especially when other parents’ rules get… complicated). Plus: media discernment, nostalgia vs. your kids’ real interests, and how to shape character through sports, discipline, and everyday decisions.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=en

In this wide-ranging, honest, and hilarious conversation, Adam is joined by Sammy and Jermaine to unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of the Christian life: evangelism. From old-school street preaching and “Way of the Master” style encounters to modern, relational approaches rooted in encouragement and authenticity, this episode explores what it really means to share your faith in today’s culture.
The guys reflect on past experiences — from cold-calling strangers in malls to praying for people at festivals — and wrestle with why so many Christians feel intimidated, awkward, or unqualified when it comes to talking about Jesus. They break down the difference between treating people like projects versus treating them like people, and why relationships, patience, and spiritual discernment matter more than perfect scripts.
Along the way, things get very Beyond the Letter as they roast Jermaine’s beard, debate frosted tips, reminisce about wild evangelism stories, and expose how fear, comfort, and instant-gratification culture have quietly killed bold faith. This episode is both practical and challenging — reminding listeners that sharing the gospel isn’t about pressure or performance, but about being present, available, and willing to take a small risk that could change someone’s eternity.
--Connect with:Adam Mesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/Samuel Rodriguez https://www.instagram.com/samuelmrod/Jermaine Baker https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/--Don't forget to stay connected with us:Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter--Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA--Get to know the team:@amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/@verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/@nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/@alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/@andytakesl https://www.instagram.com/andytakesl/

A viral “Grandma Cam” clip sparks a real conversation: Is it okay for parents to take a vacation with only their biological kids… and leave out the in-laws? Adam and Ashlee react in real time, talk through why this idea blew up, and break down the difference between intentional quality time vs. subtle exclusion. They get into the heart of what makes family dynamics healthy (or toxic), especially when adult children get married and start building families of their own.From navigating different family cultures to setting boundaries that actually protect relationships, this episode gets practical fast. Adam shares what he’s seen through years of counseling and pastoring—how unspoken expectations, poor communication, and “holiday faking” can quietly fracture families over time. If you’re married (or planning to be), this is one of those conversations that helps you think clearly, love well, and build a family culture that lasts.--Join our AFTER I DO community for Exclusive Content & community!www.afterido.app--Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below!https://patria.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo_BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSEhttps://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do--Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesahttps://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA==--Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.idoTik Tok @beyond.ido--We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett.How to get the exclusive discount?SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=enhttps://bybarnett.com