I Love You, Too

• (Rebroadcast) How pacing can help you find love that lasts

  Do your relationships tend to develop at a romantic comedy pace, only to get messy fast and fall apart dramatically? If you’ve struggled to find sustainable, lasting love, then this episode is for you. Learn about common pacing pitfalls that prevent couples from building stable partnerships, including red flags such as love bombing, how pacing can help you work skillfully with the “addiction” of love, and what to do when your pacing doesn’t match your partner’s.Key Takeaways00:00 - Intro02:38 - What is pacing in dating? And why should we care?19:23 - How can we pace the development of a new relationship for long-term success?36:43 - What are signs that pacing is off in a new relationship?50:11 - What if your pacing doesn’t match your partner’s pacing?Resources and linksFor full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcastEp. 1 - You Aren’t Crazy, Dating is Hard (Especially for Anxious Folx)Ep. 2 - What to look for in a long-term partnerEight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John Gottman Ph.D., Julie Schwartz Gottman Ph.D., Doug Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams M.D.Natalie Lue’s blog Baggage Reclaim🤓 Prefer to read rather than listen? Check out Ep. 4 - How pacing can help you find love that lasts for a full blog post.Have a question or comment? Email us at [email protected]. We love hearing from you!If you’d like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we’d love it if you would leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts. And be sure to hit subscribe while you’re there so you never miss an episode!

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• (Rebroadcast) What to look for in a long-term partner

  What makes a good long-term partner, according to science? And why is it important to be mindful when we are choosing who to settle down with? In this episode, we dig into the research about what to look for and — equally important — what not to look for in a long-term partner. Plus, how do you clarify what you need in a partner? How can you differentiate between dealbreakers and “nice-to-haves” so that you can more effectively date?Key Takeaways00:00:00 - Intro and episode overview00:02:42 - Why be mindful of who we choose as a long-term partner?00:06:14 - What science says about what makes a good long-term partner00:25:19 - What doesn’t make someone a good partner, according to research00:51:21 - How to clarify what you need in a partner01:04:40 - How to clarify what you want vs. what you needResources MentionedFor full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcastDownloadable Guide: What to look for in a long-term partner (includes the Relationship Inventory and the Ideal Mate Exercise)Warren Buffett says the most important decision you’ll ever make has nothing to do with your money or careerStudy from Tel Aviv: Dissatisfaction with Married Life in Men Is Related to Increased Stroke and All-Cause MortalityHarvard Study of Adult DevelopmentPlays Well with Others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong, By Eric BarkerThe Gottman InstituteHow to Not Die Alone, by Logan UryDeeper Dating, by Ken PagePeople Are Dating All Wrong, According to Data ScienceHave a question or comment? Email us at [email protected]. We love hearing from you!If you’d like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we’d love it if you would leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts. And be sure to hit subscribe while you’re there so you never miss an episode!

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• Dating Skills Series (4 of 4)- Neurodivergent Skills

  Dear Listener, welcome to the final episode of our Dating Skills Series! In this installment, we focus on neurodivergent dating skills, offering insights into how autistics, ADHDers, highly sensitive people, and otherwise neurodivergent people may express affection, flirt, and show romantic interest. Whether you’re neurodivergent and struggling with dating, or a neurotypical crushing on a neurodivergent cutie, this episode is packed with valuable information.Join us as we explore key neurodivergent dating skills, including:1. Story Swapping: Understand how neurodivergent individuals might share stories to connect and show empathy.2. Managing Stimulation: Learn strategies for adjusting the sensory environment on dates to feel more comfortable and present.3. Cooperative Overlap: Discover how some neurodivergent people may interrupt out of enthusiasm, showing they’re engaged in the conversation.4. Info Dumping: Find out why delving into a favorite topic deeply can be a sign of interest and connection.5. Focus on Verbal Communication: Explore why direct language and less emphasis on tone or nonverbal cues might be the norm in neurodivergent communication.We also delve into how autistic people might express romantic love, the role of noncompliance as an adaptive skill, and the importance of creating authentic connections without masking. By the end of this episode, you’ll gain a deeper appreciation of neurodivergent dating skills and practical strategies for building meaningful relationships. Tune in and learn how to connect with your neurodivergent date in ways that honor their unique communication style (and fight ableism, too, yay!).Key Takeaways00:00 - Intro01:33 - Understanding Neurodivergence04:31 - Why learn neurodivergent dating skills?13:24 - #1: Story swapping15:58 - #2: Manage Stimulation on Dates20:17 - #3: Cooperative Overlap24:26 - #4: Info dumping about special interests27:00 - #5: Focus on verbal communication29:23 - #6: Honest and direct language31:02 - #7: Focus on meaning of words34:02 - #8: Skip the small talk35:42 - #9: Ask lots of questions in pursuit of accuracy38:08 - #10: Parallel play40:14 - #11: Non-compliance43:08 - RecapResources and linksFor full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcastEmbrace AutismUnmasking Autism: Discovering the New Faces of Neurodiversity, By Devon Price, PhDNeurowildHave a question or comment? Email us at [email protected]. We love hearing from you!If you’d like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we’d love it if you would leave us a rating and...

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• Dating Skills Series (3 of 4)- Building Intimacy

  Dear Listener, welcome to the third episode of our Dating Skills Series! In this installment, we dive deep into the art of building intimacy, a crucial aspect of creating chemistry and emotional connections on your dates. This episode is for you if you are frequently “friend-zoned” or struggle to get past first or second dates.Join us as we explore five key skills for building intimacy on a date:Self-Affirm: Learn how to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion, allowing you to show up confidently and authentically.Play: Discover how to bring lightness and joy into your interactions, making your dates more fun and engaging.Assert: Master the art of clearly and respectfully communicating your desires while giving your date space to express theirs.Reveal: Enhance emotional closeness by sharing your feelings and encouraging your date to do the same.Touch: Understand how to move from friendly to flirty touch, using your intuition and your date’s cues to gauge comfort and interest.“Paul” and “Petunia” return, so don’t miss their silly, touching examples of how to get playful, flirtatious, and deep. Tune in to learn how to emotionally connect with your date, create intimate moments, and understand the role of physical touch in building chemistry. By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical strategies to help you build connections that might blossom into joyful, lifelong love.Key Takeaways00:00 - Intro03:84 - #1: Self-Affirm06:26 - #2: Play16:28 - #3: Assert22:25 - #4: Reveal27:43 - #5: Touch34:04 - RecapResources and linksFor full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcastFree Dating Skills InfographicsEp. 3 - How to flirt like a feministNon-Creepy Flirting: Signs, Confidence, & Respectful TacticsHave a question or comment? Email us at [email protected]. We love hearing from you!If you’d like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we’d love it if you would leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts. And be sure to hit subscribe while you’re there so you never miss an episode!

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• Dating Skills Series (2 of 4) - Juicy Conversations

  Are you struggling to keep conversations flowing on dates, Dear Listener? Rest assured, you're not alone – one of the most common questions we receive is, What should I talk about on a date? Join us for part two of our four-part dating skills series, where we are here to guide you in improving your conversation skills.In this episode, we delve into 'juicy conversations' and explore how to keep a conversation going and build rapport effectively. Learn five key skills to enhance your dating conversations:Tapping into Your Senses: Engage your senses to stay present and responsive.Asking Open-Ended and Deep Questions: Learn what deep questions to ask to foster connection.Active Listening: Show genuine interest and understanding in your date's responses.Lingering in Conversations and Silences: Embrace pauses to allow deeper connections to form.Using 'Yes, And': Build connections by affirming and expanding on your date’s ideas.Practical demos highlight what to do and what not to do on dates, giving you actionable insights and equipping you with the necessary tools for creating and sustaining meaningful relationships. By the end of this episode, you’ll walk away prepared and confident, with practical strategies to improve your conversation skills, ensuring your dates are engaging, meaningful, and successful. Tune in and transform your dating conversations into deeper, more rewarding connections.Key Takeaways00:00 - Intro02:20 - #1: Sense06:26 - #2: Open18:09 - #3: Listen27:16 - #4: Linger36:41 - #5: Yes, And45:02 - Summary and ConclusionResources and linksFor full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcastFree Dating Skills InfographicsEp. 3 - How to flirt like a feministNon-Creepy Flirting: Signs, Confidence, & Respectful TacticsHave a question or comment? Email us at [email protected]. We love hearing from you!If you’d like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we’d love it if you would leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts. And be sure to hit subscribe while you’re there so you never miss an episode!

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