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In this powerful teaching from the Same-Sex Connection Conference, Drew Boa breaks down the difference between SSA, SSSA, and sexualized attachment. You'll learn the 4 P's of attraction (preference, pleasure, pull, and power), the 5 types of intimacy, and why unmet attachment needs often get sexualized. This episode provides practical vocabulary and clarifies the truth that same-sex attraction is meant to lead you into healthy same-sex connection.
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Mentioned in this episode:
Healing & Recovery: Perspective For Young Men with Sexualized Attachments by Dr. Floyd Godfrey
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Unprocessed loss is one of the most common drivers of unwanted sexual behavior. When we don't allow ourselves to grieve, pain stays trapped in the body until it comes out sideways, often through unwanted sexual behavior. Mike Murray shares his story of losing his father at age eight, his personal healing process, and why we need to stop invalidating our pain and start giving our younger selves the love they need. You'll hear the 6 needs of the grieving, practical ideas on how to grieve well, and what happens when we invite Jesus into our grief.
Mike Murray is a licensed independent social worker with 10 years of experience specializing in EMDR Therapy and grief work. Trained by grief experts Megan Devine and David Kessler, Mike is passionate about destigmatizing mental health in the church.
Resources mentioned in this episode: 
It's Okay That You're Not Okay by Megan Devine (book)
Gentle and Lowly by Dane Ortlund (book)
The Mystery of Life, Death, and Suffering (podcast episode where Drew tells his story of infant loss)
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Why is anger after sexual betrayal so intense, unpredictable, and heartbreaking? Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck unpacks the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma anger for both the betrayed and the betrayer. You'll learn the S.C.I.P. protocol to manage anger and anxiety, the 7 phases of betrayal trauma anger recovery, and why sexual betrayal is like bullfighting. In the end, you'll leave with hope that grieving sexual betrayal can transform deep pain into even deeper healing.
Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a Christian who believes every person is valuable. She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, a Florida State Supervisor for those seeking a license in Mental Health Counseling or Marriage and Family Therapy, and a Certified Life Coach. Dr. H's approach to counseling and coaching is non-judgmental, caring, and solution focused. Dedicating her life to helping others as a therapist and coach is a result of post traumatic growth from her own personal life experiences. Learn more at crystalhollenbeck.com
Buy Crystal's book:
Betrayal Trauma Anger: You're not Crazy...You're Angry...And You Should Be! How to Process Complex Anger While Healing from the Impact of Sexual Betrayal

Download Crystal’s SCIP Protocol PDF: https://crystalhollenbeck.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/SCIP-Protocol.pdf

Read Crystal’s journal article on betrayal trauma anger: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/0092623X.2024.2306940#d1e130
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When sexual sin and shame are exposed, how does Jesus respond? See how compassion overcomes condemnation in the story of the woman caught in adultery. This sermon was originally preached on Sunday, September 27, 2026 at the Husband Material Fall Retreat in Colorado. 
Previous sermons from HM Retreats:
Promised Land Sexuality (Deuteronomy 11:10-12)
You Are Not Too Much (Mark 6:30-56)
Excluded & Emasculated (Acts 8:26-40)
David's Sexual Story (2 Samuel 11-12)
The Beauty Of Brotherhood (Psalm 133)
How Jesus Reverses The Curse (John 21)
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What is narcissistic personality disorder, and how does it interact with porn and sex addiction? For someone with NPD or narcissistic traits, what does healing and growth look like?
Dr. Alexandra Repke (CSAT, EMDR, C-PD) is a Christian psychologist who typically work with successful professionals facing challenges in their relationships or careers, often stemming from issues related to addiction, personality, or trauma. She is a lifelong learner, committed to understanding the complexities of mental health and advocating for practical, impactful solutions.
Learn more at repkepsychologicalservices.com
Books mentioned (these are paid links):
Thanks for the Feedback, by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen
The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, by Eleanor Payson
A Game Free Life, by Stephen Karpman
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