Chris Stefanick Catholic Show

Happy Pentecost Sunday! ️

Filming this one on the road in beautiful Stillwater, Minnesota — stopped by the river to talk about the Holy Spirit before heading to a REBOOT event in Wisconsin. And I have to say... it felt fitting.

In this reflection, I share about a friend and mentor, Fr. Dave Pivonka — now President of Franciscan University of Steubenville — and the one word that has always described him, even as his responsibilities have grown: chill. Not because he's checked out. Because he's constantly calling on the Holy Spirit.

That's what living in the Holy Spirit looks like. Not a shallow stream making a lot of noise. A deep river — powerful, moving, peaceful.

We also look at St. Bede the Venerable, whose feast falls the day after Pentecost, and what he said about the dove as the perfect symbol for the Holy Spirit — and for us.

Here's the challenge I give in this video: Look up the fruits of the Holy Spirit in Galatians 5 — love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, kindness, goodness, self-control — and honestly ask yourself: Do those words describe me? Not in the big battlefield moments. In the everyday ones. When you walk through the front door after work. When someone annoys you. When life is hard.

Two simple steps to get there:

- Pray constantly — "Come, Holy Spirit."
- Get intentional about cooperating with that grace.

Simple? Yes. Easy? No. But if you live that way, you will become a river of peace flowing through everyone you touch.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

1. Chris describes a life in the Holy Spirit as a "deep river" — powerful but peaceful — as opposed to a shallow stream making a lot of noise. Where in your life do you feel more like a shallow stream than a deep river, and what do you think is driving that?

2. Fr. Dave prays "Come, Holy Spirit" hundreds of times a day as a simple, constant prayer throughout his work. Is there a short prayer you already return to during the day — or could you adopt one? What gets in the way of praying constantly?

3. St. Paul lists the fruits of the Holy Spirit as love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, kindness, goodness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22–23). Which of these fruits do you think is most visible in your life right now? Which one do you most need to grow in?

4. Chris distinguishes between stoicism (muscling up virtue by willpower alone) and quietism (passively waiting for God to do everything) — both extremes to avoid. How do you personally tend to lean? Do you rely too much on your own effort, or do you sometimes use "waiting on God" as an excuse for inaction?

5. The reflection ends with a very practical image: the way you walk through the front door after work, and what your face and body language communicate to your family. Where is one concrete, everyday situation — at home, at work, or in your community — where you could be more intentional about letting the fruits of the Holy Spirit show?

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - Stillwater, Minnesota
(00:00:37) - A Moment of Honor for Father Dave Pavanka
(00:05:33) - Fruits of the Holy Spirit
(00:09:56) - One Christian's Conversion Story

What if the reason you keep struggling with the same sins, the same patterns, and the same emotional reactivity has nothing to do with a lack of willpower—and everything to do with a lack of interior integration?

In this episode of The Chris Stefanick Show, Chris sits down with Catholic psychologist Dr. Peter Malinoski to unpack one of the most powerful—and underexplored—concepts in both psychology and Catholic tradition: interior integration. Dr. Malinoski explains what it means to be integrated, why St. Thomas Aquinas and the Desert Fathers were already talking about this centuries ago, and why modern Catholics have largely lost touch with it. He introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS)—a psychology framework rooted in the idea that we each have an "innermost self" and a multiplicity of inner "parts"—and shows how this maps beautifully onto Catholic anthropology and even the Trinity itself.

This conversation will shake up the way you see yourself, your struggles, and your spiritual life.

HIGHLIGHTS
1:50 — What is interior integration? Dr. Malinoski defines it—and traces it from Socrates to St. Thomas Aquinas to modern neurobiology
22:40 — St. Paul, Romans 7:15, and why willpower alone can't beat persistent sin
26:50 — What personality did Jesus have? Dr. Malinoski's surprising answer reveals the power of full interior integration
41:19 — The origin of Internal Family Systems therapy—and how it maps onto Catholic tradition
44:07 — "Love yourself as your neighbor": what the Second Great Commandment actually means through the lens of IFS
51:56 — Dr. Malinoski reveals his own 12 inner parts—including one named "Petrus"—and what each one was trying to protect
1:08:20 — Why fragmentation makes us spiritually vulnerable: how demons target our most rejected, isolated inner parts

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - Dr. Peter Malinowski on How to Live More Fully With
(00:00:38) - Missionary Joy
(00:01:32) - What is psychological well-being? (Inside Integration)
(00:04:09) - How to Heal from Trauma
(00:08:08) - Mission of Joy
(00:13:42) - Essays on the Integrative Person
(00:17:14) - The 10 Reasons Why Catholic Men Masturbate
(00:20:51) - The Sense of Multiplicity in the Trinity
(00:23:46) - How to Tell When You're Distracted or Incomplete
(00:29:15) - Tapping into the Natural Plan of Life
(00:35:51) - Part 8: The Real Me
(00:41:08) - Love Your Neighbor as Yourself
(00:46:36) - Immunity of the Soul
(00:51:41) - How to Deal With Your Inner Self
(00:55:39) - 10 of My Parts
(00:59:11) - The Problem of Personal Fragmentation
(01:01:08) - How Many Kids Do You Have?
(01:01:19) - How to Cope With a Split Personality
(01:05:01) - The Innermost Self
(01:09:51) - Richard Schwartz on Trauma and the Parts of a Person
(01:17:14) - Crucified Heart

Ascension Sunday — What does it mean that Jesus ascended into heaven in a human body?

More than you might think.

In this week's Sunday Gospel reflection, Chris shares a deeply personal story about a miscarriage 17 years ago — and the surprising consolation that came with it: the realization that a part of his flesh was already on the other side, already with the Lord.

That's not just his story. Because of the Ascension of our Lord, it's your story too.

Jesus didn't just ascend as God. He ascended as fully God and fully man — which means our humanity, our full humanity, is now inserted into the very life of the Trinity. Not absorbed. Not dissolved. But there — a human being in the midst of heavenly glory.

And here's what that means for you: wherever you are today — in grief, in longing, in a midlife crisis wondering why nothing ever fully satisfies — part of you has already made it. The head of the Body of Christ is already in glory, and where the head is, the body will follow.

Watch this reflection and let the Ascension do what it was meant to do: change how you see absolutely everything.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

1. Chris says the Ascension means "a part of our humanity is already in glory." How does understanding that Jesus ascended as fully human — not just divine — change the way you think about your own destiny?

2. Chris shares that the miscarriage, as painful as it was, gave him a consolation that made death "less scary." Have you ever experienced a moment of grief or loss that unexpectedly deepened your hope in heaven? What did that feel like?

3. Chris talks about the deep longing that no amount of success, adventure, or achievement can satisfy — and how this longing often leads to a "midlife crisis." Where do you feel that longing most in your own life? How does the Ascension speak to it?

4. The Church is the Body of Christ — and where the head goes, the body follows. What difference would it make in your daily life if you woke up each morning truly believing you are being pulled toward glory right now?

5. At the end of the video, Chris meets a woman who simply started a young adult group (now 30 people) and another who launched a women's Bible study with 110 attendees — just by doing it. Is there something in your parish or community that needs to be done, where maybe God is calling you to be the one to do it?

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - The Ascension of Our Lord Into Heaven

In this powerful new episode of The Chris Stefanick Show, I sit down with New York Times bestselling author Tommy Spaulding to talk about his book The Heart-Led Leader—and why the path to real success runs through your heart, not your ego.

Tommy's story floored me.

He was a severely dyslexic kid who was openly mocked by his classmates. He graduated at the bottom of his class. His own guidance counselor told him college wasn't for him.

Today, he's one of the most sought-after leadership voices in the country, training CEOs of some of the biggest companies in the world. How did he get here? One word: love.

Tommy shares jaw-dropping stories in this episode—like the bank CEO who walked out into 100-degree Georgia heat and personally delivered a truckload of seafood so a stranger wouldn't lose his job. That same CEO grew his bank from $220 million to $2.6 billion…by leading with love.

We also talk about the daily practice Tommy calls his "influence audit"—a habit so powerful that I'm going to try it immediately.

And if you're a parent, don't miss the part where he explains why his kids actually want to hang out with him as adults. (Hint: it's not an accident.)

This one's packed with wisdom you can start applying tomorrow morning—whether you're running a company, raising kids, or just trying to be a better human.

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - Tommy Spalding
(00:01:16) - On Being a Heart Led Leader
(00:06:06) - In Touch With Up With People's Ken Blanchard
(00:09:25) - Mission at Joy
(00:10:49) - A message from the Oscars
(00:11:47) - The Love of the Workplace
(00:15:29) - The Secret to Success: Jackson McConnell's Story
(00:21:50) - Chris Rock: I Run Towards Pain
(00:25:28) - Tom France on Heart-Led Leadership
(00:30:48) - The Life of Leadership
(00:32:42) - Marriage Is More Important Than Family
(00:36:24) - It's not about you
(00:38:57) - Tom Cruise on The Gift of Influence
(00:40:26) - Chris Farley in Prayer

Jesus says something extraordinary in John 14: "If you love me, keep my commands. I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Paraclete to be with you forever." Most of us have heard that word — Paraclete — without ever really sitting with what it means. I guarantee that if you've been Catholic for 20, 40, even 90 years, you may have never heard it talked about quite this way. The word doesn't translate neatly into English. It can mean Advocate, Counselor, Comforter — but none of those words alone capture it. It's the one who comes alongside you. The one who coaches you, defends you, encourages you, and stirs you forward. Jesus isn't just sending a force or a feeling. He's sending a Person — the Holy Spirit — to be with you and in you. And then Jesus says this: "I will not leave you orphans." That's the promise. You are not navigating this life alone. The same Spirit that hovered over the waters at creation, the same Spirit that raised Jesus from the dead — that Spirit is available to you, right now, in the middle of your ordinary life.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

1. Jesus says, "I will not leave you orphans." Where in your life right now do you most need to hear that promise — and believe it?

2. The word "Paraclete" means advocate, counselor, and one who comes alongside. How have you experienced the Holy Spirit in one of these roles, even if you didn't recognize it at the time?

3. Chris points out that most Catholics have never really heard the Holy Spirit talked about this way. Why do you think the Holy Spirit is so often the "forgotten" Person of the Trinity — and what would it look like to change that in your own life?

4. Jesus says the world "neither sees nor knows" the Spirit, but his followers do. What does it mean to you to be someone who knows the Holy Spirit? How does that change how you approach daily life?

5. The Holy Spirit advocates for us, encourages us, and stirs us forward — even when life is hard and exhausting. Can you think of a moment in your life when, looking back, you can see the Holy Spirit was doing exactly that?

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - The Renewal of the Holy Spirit
(00:00:28) - John 14: Paraclete
(00:02:27) - Advocates in the Gospel
(00:03:21) - What is the Paraclete?
(00:06:18) - How to Encourage Your Wife and Father
(00:12:02) - The Holy Spirit