This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

• How to Create Secure, Lasting Love in a Long-Term Relationship with Dr. Stan Tatkin | 60

  Shownotes The difference between secure attachment and secure functioning Why a deep desire for love is underneath all attachment styles How shared purpose in your relationship brings you closer Why you have to become a whisperer for your partner One of Dr. Tatkin’s top ways to create safety for your partner The biggest mistake people make in modern dating Bio Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT is a clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, co-founder of the PACT Institute and an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He also teaches and supervises family medicine residents at Kaiser Permanente, Woodland Hills, CA. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. Dr Tatkin is the author of In Each Other’s Care, We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships and co-author of Baby Bomb. Dr. Tatkin received his early training in developmental self and object relations (Masterson Institute), Gestalt, psychodrama, and family systems theory. His private practice specialized for some time in treating adolescents and adults with personality disorders. More recently, his interests turned to psycho-neurobiological theories of human relationship and applying principles of early mother-infant attachment to adult romantic relationships. Dr. Tatkin was clinical director of Charter Hospital’s intensive outpatient drug and alcohol program and is a former president of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, Ventura County chapter.  He is a veteran member of Allan N. Schore’s study group. He also trained in the Adult Attachment Interview by way of Mary Main and Erik Hesse’s program through UC Berkeley. Timestamps 00:00:43 - Guest introduction 00:03:58 - The difference between secure attachment and secure functioning 00:06:00 - How to find compassion for an anxious or avoidant 00:09:59 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at ⁠LaylaMartin.com⁠ 00:11:49 - Layla describes an avoidant’s experience as a baby 00:13:19 - Why a deep desire for love is underneath all attachment styles 00:16:17 - Attachment isn’t personality, it’s memory 00:21:49 - Plan for your devils, not your angels 00:25:43 - How shared purpose in your relationship brings you closer 00:26:54 - Discover the ⁠VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification⁠  00:33:32 - Dr. Tatkin’s advice for the moments you see your partner as an enemy 00:37:27 - Discover ⁠MOOD™ Sex Magic⁠ 00:38:20 - What do you secretly put in front of your relationship? 00:45:48 - Why you have to become a whisperer for your partner 00:46:53 - How to learn to take care of your partner’s nervous system 00:49:14 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with ⁠Obliss⁠ 00:50:50 - One of Dr. Tatkin’s top ways to create safety for your partner 00:54:05 - Why apologizing can subconsciously feel like weakness 00:57:11 - Dr. Tatkin explains the details of “The Couple Bubble” 01:00:34 - What Dr. Tatkin sees that the happiest long term couples do 01:03:50 - Insecures don’t believe there’s such a thing as fairness and justice 01:05:44 - The biggest mistake people make in modern dating 01:08:07 - Dr. Tatkin celebrates his wife and his relationship 01:11:55 - Secure functioning is very hard but it’s worth it 01:12:00 - Conclusion

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• My Most Powerful Sex Magic Ritual 59

  Free Guide Shownotes   Layla’s most powerful manifestation ritual Why you have to grieve to step onto a new timeline The key to digesting a negative or heavy experience How to do Sex Magic in 10-15 minutes   Bio   Layla Martin is a visionary and thought leader who teaches on sexuality, relationships and self-love to people across the globe.    Her devoted study of Tantra for 20+ years along with her sexuality, neuroscience and human biology studies at Stanford University have informed her unique teaching process and the creation of her proprietary VITA™ Methodology.    Layla’s programs have taught over 12,500 women, men and non-binary people her method of using breath, sound, movement, meditation and energy awareness to awaken their sexuality and reclaim their power and worthiness.   Layla has shared her work with over 150 million people and 500,000+ subscribers through her YouTube channel and has a weekly email audience of 375,000+ people. Her top-rated podcast, This Tantric Life, has reached over 1.6 million downloads.    Timestamps   00:00:36 - Introduction 00:01:39 - Why Layla created this manifestation ritual 00:02:44 - What you can use this manifestation ritual for 00:04:39 - Why you have to grieve to step onto a new timeline 00:06:00 - What supercharges this manifestation 00:06:07 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:07:25 - To create a new timeline, you have to shift your nervous system 00:10:02 - The grieving ritual 00:12:34 - The key to digesting a negative or heavy experience 00:12:56 - Layla drinks MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:13:24 - The grieving ritual recap 00:13:38 - Layla’s grief ritual music playlist 00:14:40 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:15:39 - The Sex Magic ritual 00:17:19 - Make your Sex Magic as sensorial as possible 00:19:21 - How to do Sex Magic in 10-15 minutes 00:22:45 - Sex Magic is not just magic, it’s working with your erotic power 00:24:22 - Conclusion  

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• How to Stop Chasing Unavailable Men and Magnetize a Devoted Husband with Mel Wells | 58

  Shownotes   Why the archetype of successful women is often unsuccessful in love The hardest thing about keeping things sexy as a mother Why rewiring ourselves for healthy love means being available to be chosen How the feminine archetypes impact dating and relationships Why we choose the love that feels comfortable to us, even if it hurts us Mel’s best advice for anyone who is worried about dying alone   Bio   Mel Wells is a world-renowned 7-figure love and leadership mentor for successful female entrepreneurs. She empowers women to create the love lives and intimacy they deeply crave by fully understanding and embodying their feminine power, unlocking their wild magnetism and irresistible energy. Mel also mentors ambitious, spiritually driven women to scale their businesses by harnessing the power of their feminine energy and unique superpowers. Through her work, Mel helps women thrive in both love and leadership, embodying their most authentic and radiant selves.   Timestamps   00:01:33 - Guest introduction 00:04:29 - The archetype of successful women is often unsuccessful in love 00:07:34 - Why we think of feminine energy as less powerful 00:08:04 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:09:56 - Mel shares about the relationship that sent her into a deep portal of reflection 00:13:22 - If his energy isn’t pursuing you, he’s disqualified 00:16:32 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic 00:17:16 - Mel and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:20:25 - Men go after what they want 00:21:38 - If he’s not moving towards you, it’s not your job to figure it out 00:25:47 - Rewiring ourselves for healthy love means being available to be chosen 00:26:02 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples 00:28:34 - We choose the love that feels comfortable to us, even if it hurts us 00:31:40 - Mel explains the feminine archetypes and how they impact dating 00:35:33 - Why it’s important to listen deeply to your universal path 00:39:23 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with Obliss 00:43:04 - Finding delight in wherever you are on your dating journey 00:46:40 - Never discount the possibility of being fully chosen at every stage in your life 00:48:19 - You can be a female entrepreneur AND be filled with life and magic 00:51:10 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:54:18 - When you mother your partner, he will show up as a child 00:54:54 - The hardest thing about keeping things sexy as a mother 00:57:46 - Mel’s advice for anyone who is worried about dying alone 01:00:47 - A practice for switching from the Huntress archetype to the Queen 01:02:01 - A practice for shifting from the Mother archetype to the Lover 01:03:27 - Conclusion  

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• Meet My First Boyfriend and All the Ways I F**cked It Up | 57

  Shownotes   The story behind the quasi-cheating incident that ended the relationship Why Ryan and Layla’s first kiss went horribly wrong How to take full responsibility for your actions and impact on others Why Ryan showed up at the Stanford campus in a full-on chicken costume How radical love is different than self-sacrificing What Ryan and Layla learned from opening their relationship   Bio   Ryan Cheney is a therapist, seeker, and guide devoted to the process of inner transformation. Based in Austin, TX, he works with individuals and couples to uncover what stands in the way of lasting change – and how to meet those blocks with presence, compassion, and courage. His work is deeply rooted in Internal Family Systems and a profound curiosity about how people evolve.   Before turning his focus inward, Ryan was the founder of Raaka Chocolate, a Brooklyn-based bean-to-bar company built on transparency and ethical sourcing. But his truest calling lies in the inner landscapes: the quiet, tender spaces where real healing happens. His path has been shaped by deep inquiry, spiritual practice, and a love for the moments when people reconnect with the truth of who they are.   Ryan believes transformation doesn’t have to be a battle – it can be a remembering. He’s most alive when exploring the alchemy of change, the courage it requires, and the unexpected grace that can come when we stop striving and start listening.   Timestamps   00:01:16 - Guest introduction 00:06:02 - Ryan shares how he and Layla met 00:07:35 - Going from small and scared to big and free 00:07:59 - Where Layla was at in her life when she met Ryan 00:11:48 - Where Ryan was at in his life when he met Layla 00:12:31 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:13:11 - Friendship turns into strong attraction 00:13:47 - Ryan describes he and Layla’s first kiss 00:16:20 - Why the sex didn’t initially work for Ryan 00:19:33 - Ryan learned to hold all parts of Layla 00:21:11 - Layla’s first experience with somatic therapy 00:23:00 - Layla credits Ryan for being deeply present for her healing journey 00:24:33 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples 00:26:00 - Layla’s desire to find the real Tantra 00:27:19 - Ryan and Layla gave each other spiritual names 00:34:05 - Layla and Ryan discuss their experience with sexual healing 00:39:01 - Why we have to take full responsibility for our actions and impact on others 00:41:48 - How to be present with intensity and pain 00:41:57 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic 00:42:55 - Ryan and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:45:57 - The feedback Layla gave Ryan as their relationship ended 00:48:17 - Layla healed and opened her sexuality before healing and opening her heart 00:51:15 - Ryan shares what he learned from the end of the relationship 00:54:55 - Layla shares one of her favorite stories about Ryan 00:56:08 - How radical love is different than self-sacrificing 01:02:18 - Discover your most masculine confidence and presence with Men’s Sexual Mastery 01:03:59 - Layla and Ryan share their experience with an open relationship 01:09:10 - Ryan shares what signaled the end for him 01:17:38 - What Layla learned from the end of the relationship 01:19:20 - What Ryan learned from the relationship 01:21:08 - One of the saddest parts of trauma 01:24:32 - Ryan’s favorite parts of Layla from their relationship 01:27:41 - Conclusion  

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• Hot Flashes to Hot Sex: The Power of Pleasure in Menopause with Eva Clay | 56

  Shownotes   What Eva learned through menopause that she wishes she had known The science behind body changes in perimenopause and menopause Some of the key practices Eva recommends for midlife How meditation supports perimenopause and menopause How Eva’s needs with men and relationships changed through menopause Why Eva calls Kali the Patron Goddess of Menopause   Bio   Eva Clay is an acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and professional troublemaker whose mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex and science.  She's helped thousands of people unlock their innate potential for pleasure, and as a former professor of neuroscience, she bodaciously reminds us that smart is sexy.  As a practitioner of sexual tantra for 13 years, her work is an elegant marriage of the profound and the playful - and she has a particular passion for elevating women in their midlife portal to enjoy the most wildly succulent phase of their lives.   See www.EvaClay.com  Timestamps   00:01:00 - Guest introduction 00:04:02 - Eva shares the story of her first hot flash 00:06:20 - The medical model around perimenopause and menopause 00:07:59 - What Eva learned through menopause that she wishes she had known 00:09:19 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:11:00 - What we offer the world when we’re in menopause fundamentally shifts 00:14:49 - The science behind body changes in perimenopause and menopause 00:17:38 - Why women who prioritize pleasure have a more easeful menopausal process 00:19:44 - The mindset that allowed Eva to have lovers in perimenopause 00:21:47 - Some of the key practices Eva recommends for midlife 00:24:46 - How meditation supports perimenopause and menopause 00:25:56 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic 00:26:39 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples 00:29:03 - Eva shares her love story 00:32:21 - Eva and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:33:52 - How ketamine helped Eva move into a deeper state of body acceptance 00:35:38 - How Eva’s needs with men and relationships changed through menopause 00:38:23 - Eva’s experience with hormones 00:39:34 - Why Eva calls Kali the Patron Goddess of Menopause 00:40:31 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with Obliss 00:42:15 - Why it’s never too late to start these practices 00:46:00 - Menopause isn’t about how you look, it’s about how you feel 00:47:28 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 00:50:16 - Menopause: you are in full bloom 00:51:03 - Conclusion  

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