This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

Shownotes 
How deep intimacy can be the antidote to widespread low-grade depression

What Kim put in her online dating profile to magnetize her King

How to take the first step toward learning to listen to your body

What it took for Kim to go from numb and disconnected to a Tantric wedding at 50

The exact practices that can help you go from body hatred to body love

What an extraordinary sexual experience actually feels like

Bio
Kimberly Phoenix-Coffin is a trauma-informed intimacy, relationship, and Tantra teacher, speaker, co-author, and coach, co-founder of Phoenix Rising Retreats, and host of the Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples podcast.
After decades of disconnection shaped by trauma, self-doubt, and survival-based relating, Kim devoted the last decade to deep healing. embodiment, and the reclamation of her body, truth, and life through extensive work with Layla Martin, Mama Gena, Ma Ananda Sarita, and other world-renowned teachers.
Her work blends Tantra, nervous system awareness, and somatic, embodiment-based practices, rooted in lived, personal experience. Her story is a journey from numbness to pleasure, from self-doubt to sovereignty, and from disconnection and survival-based relating into a deeply connected, consciously chosen partnership rooted in truth, communication, and erotic aliveness.
She brings this work not as theory, but as something she lives daily… in her body, her relationship, her choices, and her leadership.
Now, at 50 years old, she lives and teaches what she embodies… guiding individuals and couples into deeper intimacy, honest communication, and full-spectrum aliveness.
Together with her partner Roberto, she leads immersive Tantra couples retreats in North Kawartha, Ontario, Canada, designed to reignite the flame that date nights can't… where connection, safety, and erotic aliveness meet. Their work supports couples in rebuilding trust, deepening connection, and awakening erotic intimacy that is both grounded and expansive.
Follow Kim on ⁠Instagram⁠, ⁠Facebook⁠, and ⁠TikTok⁠, and learn more about her work on her ⁠website⁠.
If learning about Tantra, embodiment, and conscious partnership lights you up…
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Timestamps
00:00:48 - Guest introduction
00:04:14 - The email Kim got from Mama Gena that changed everything
00:04:56 - Discover the ⁠VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification⁠
00:06:02 - Why fear always speaks the loudest right before you say yes to what you want
00:11:22 - Layla shares what it was like to lead 900 women in Sex Magic on a Broadway stage
00:14:37 - What started to change after Kim bejeweled her pussy
00:18:06 - The practices that helped Kim go from body hatred to body love
00:24:27 - Why Kim chose to bare it all on her eHarmony dating profile
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00:31:56 - What it actually means to "eat the fear, eat the grief, and eat the rage"
00:36:55 - Why learning to listen to your pussy starts with your clothes
00:45:17 - Asking your pussy or testicles this one question can change everything
00:48:56 - An example of exactly how pleasure practices heal trauma
00:58:58 - The one thing Layla always experiences during an extraordinary pleasure practice 
01:04:55 - Why deep, conscious intimacy is as psychedelic as plant medicine
01:08:09 - Conclusion

Shownotes 
 
The #1 piece of advice for men who want to become multi-orgasmic

What prostate massage can teach men about sex

What happens when men are socialized out of anal pleasure

How slowness retrains patterns while intensity causes shutdown

Why men need as much safety and self-love as women do

The one book Devah says every man should be reading

 
Bio
Devah Curlechéile is a sex, intimacy, and sensual embodiment guide whose journey began in Ireland. 
 
Raised Catholic, he felt from an early age that life held far more than what he had been shown. After graduating with a degree in Neuroscience from Trinity College Dublin, he left Ireland at 25 and began a decades long global quest to explore the deeper mysteries of human potential, consciousness, energy, and healing.
 
Over 20 years of travel and study, Devah immersed himself in a range of practices, including Reiki, Sound Healing, Tantra, meditation, shamanic medicine, conscious intimacy, EFT, and tantra massage. His path was shaped by various initiations, including breaking his back twice, navigating depression, sitting with large doses of the various Entheogen's, integrating suppressed parts of himself through transformative experiences in Tokyo's conscious kink underground, and studying tantra and tantra massage in Bali with Ma Ananda Sarita. 
 
Along the way, he also discovered the extraordinary potential of intimate connection with himself and others to open transcendent states of consciousness, cosmic orgasm, and deep embodied awakening.
 
Now based on Kauai, Devah feels deeply called to help others reconnect with the wisdom of their bodies, awaken their senses, and access greater intimacy, healing, and expansion. Known for his compassionate heart, grounded presence, and nurturing approach, he creates spaces where people can feel safe, seen, and held in reverence as they explore, rediscover, and remember these pleasurable dimensions of embodiment.
 
Follow Devah on Instagram and learn more about his work on his website.
 
Does learning about Tantra, embodiment, and intimate connection light you up?
 
VITA™ Coaching is your next step ✨
 
Doors open soon, join the waitlist to be the first to know when they do!

Follow Layla!
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💌 Weekly Email


🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts
🎶 Listen on Spotify
💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements
🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery
🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women
 
Timestamps
 
00:00:47 - Guest introduction
00:03:48 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification
00:07:19 - Why Devah recommends starting with a prostate massage before yoni dearmoring
00:11:13 - What Layla experienced when she saw Devah receive a prostate massage
00:15:00 - How to practice the microcosmic orbit to circulate your sexual energy
00:17:17 - Why grounding matters just as much as transcendence in Taoist Tantra
00:20:06 - Men are being socialized out of anal pleasure
00:26:17 - What self-pleasure on psychedelics can teach you about circulating energy
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00:28:35 - What helps men to open up when their bodies are shut down from shame
00:37:52 - What a deeply intentional self-pleasure practice for men looks like
00:43:29 - The shift from dopamine sex to oxytocin sex
00:49:14 - The #1 piece of advice for men learning to become multi-orgasmic
00:57:31 - Why learning things while playing makes you 9x more likely to retain them
01:01:43 - How to worship the entire body before approaching the yoni
01:05:19 - Encouraging consent creates the safety needed for deeper pleasure
01:13:36 - How to hold space for a partner having an emotional experience
01:20:33 - An explanation of the "clock technique" to learn the inside of the yoni
01:25:56 - How Devah's queer sexual experiences made him a better lover to women
01:29:13 - What polarity really means and how to use it energetically
01:31:09 - Conclusion

Shownotes 
 
Why men have been led to misunderstand what the masculine actually is

What the first stage, second stage, and third stage of relationship look like

Why a deeply safe person can activate an unsafe nervous system

The 3 things men need to address to heal the pain between genders

Why love and relationships are in an evolutionary moment right now

A simple embodied practice to drop into your masculine or feminine

 
Bio
John Wineland is a world renowned author, teacher, and speaker. For nearly two decades, he has guided thousands of men and women in the realms of masculine and feminine embodiment, sexual polarity, and sacred intimacy.
 
His best selling book, From The Core: A New Masculine Paradigm for Leading with Love, Living Your Truth & Healing the World, has been translated into five languages and continues to support men around the world.
 
His next book, Evolutionary Love, releases in late 2026 and lays out the four pillars of a new approach to romantic partnership, sexual artistry, and the practice of love itself. John is the host of The Embodied Relationship Experience, the #1 podcast on relationships and sacred intimacy.
His teachings blend energetic and practical approaches, offering profound insights into leadership, polarity, and conscious relationships.
 
Follow John's work on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook and learn about his new women's program The Body of Love and membership platform The Embodied Relationship Experience.
 
Does learning about Tantra, conscious partnership, and sacred sexuality light you up?
 
VITA™ Coaching is your next step ✨
 
Doors open soon, join the waitlist to be the first to know when they do!

Follow Layla!
🌸 Instagram
🌐 Website
💌 Weekly Email


🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts
🎶 Listen on Spotify
💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements
🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery
🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women
 
Timestamps
 
00:00:47 - Guest introduction
00:03:00 - What Layla and John learned from dating each other
00:04:57 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification
00:05:56 - Why men have been led to misunderstand what the masculine actually is
00:09:30 - What true nervous system regulation really requires
00:11:47 - The polarity practice John does with men in the desert
00:15:25 - What Achilles, Gilgamesh, and Beowulf taught John about masculinity
00:20:06 - How men with active feminines change relationships
00:24:04 - What polarity truly is and how it connects with consciousness and energy
00:28:55 - Almost everything between men and women is a call for love
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00:34:29 - Why the greatest masculine practice is simply being a yes to what is
00:40:28 - Why the concept of polarity has gotten a bad reputation
00:46:23 - Breaking down first stage, second stage, and third stage of relationship
00:58:12 - How to carry consciousness into sex
01:07:50 - Why a deeply safe person can activate an unsafe nervous system
01:09:07 - Layla's realization that men are not okay
01:17:22 - 3 things men must address to in order to heal their collective wound
01:27:12 - What it will take to finally heal the pain between men and women
01:28:56 - John guides a simple embodiment practice to drop into your masculine or feminine
01:33:59 - Conclusion

Shownotes 
 
How to go from sexual shame to cosmic, multi-orgasmic sex

Why orgasm should be non-negotiable in your relationship

How fear of sexuality impacts a developing nervous system

The most common relationship problem women face

What it looks like to leave religion and embrace spirituality

How to become multi-orgasmic after years of shutdown, no matter your age

 
Bio
Talaina is a sexual liberation guide and relationship coach who helps individuals and couples move beyond shame and shutdown into their deepest capacity for pleasure, intimacy, and authentic connection.
 
She transformed her own loving, but nearly sexless, marriage into a deeply connected, thriving relationship that is now a powerhouse of intimacy, emotional depth, erotic vitality, and orgasmic bliss. 
 
By unraveling layers of repression shaped by religious conditioning, family dynamics, and societal messaging, she reclaimed her body, her desire, her voice – and ultimately, her life.
 
Now, she guides others into intimacy that is fully expressed, deeply connected, and truly alive. Talaina's work integrates nervous system regulation, advanced biofeedback technology, erotic awakening, and spiritual growth to create profound, lasting transformation.
 
She believes a liberated life is what happens the moment you stop abandoning your truth… and start living it fully and freely.
 
Follow Talaina on YouTube and Instagram, and if you want to connect with her directly, you can email her at talainataff@gmail.com.

Follow Layla!
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🌐 Website
💌 Weekly Email


🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts
🎶 Listen on Spotify
💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements
🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery
🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women
 
Timestamps
 
00:00:50 - Guest introduction
00:03:48 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification
00:05:56 - Being taught that sex was something to be ashamed of
00:09:20 - How fear can become embedded in your nervous system
00:11:00 - What led to Christianity becoming a system of social control
00:13:08 - How fear of sexuality impacts a developing nervous system
00:15:25 - How long it took for Talaina to unravel the religious conditioning she received
00:18:02 - The moment Talaina realized she needed to address her sexual repression
00:24:05 - How Talaina became multi-orgasmic after years of shutdown
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00:28:35 - What shifted in Talaina's marriage after 25 years of sexual struggle
00:31:30 - How to begin creating a shared language around sex
00:34:40 - Why VITA™ Coaching changed everything for Talaina
00:38:35 - How sex can naturally unlock deeper spiritual states
00:43:20 - The most common relationship problem women face
00:48:15 - What happens when you discover your body's orgasmic potential
00:52:40 - Why the spiritual component of VITA™ Coaching matters so much
00:54:01 - Conclusion

Shownotes 
 
How spiritual growth can translate directly into better sex

The #1 thing every man should do when he wakes up in the morning

Why sports pressure was easier for Brenden than being in conflict with his partner

A simple daily practice that can change everything for men

How to bring out the best in a man as a woman

Why you need to be whole in yourself to experience true masculinity and femininity

 
Bio
Brenden Durell is a breathwork and somatic facilitator, intimacy guide, author, and co-founder of Oríkao, a ceremonial grade heirloom cacao brand sourced from indigenous communities in the Amazon. He has spent over 14 years working at the intersection of embodied practice, plant medicine traditions, traditional Tantra, and sacred sexuality. Known for his ability to bridge ancient wisdom with modern life, Brenden guides individuals and couples into a more intimate relationship with themselves and the people they love.
 
His work lives in the body: in the breath, in presence, in the places we've learned to armor ourselves against feeling. Rooted in the principles of traditional Tantra and sacred sexuality, he helps people dissolve the walls that keep them from experiencing life and love more fully, reclaiming their body as a place of power, pleasure, and presence.
 
Brenden has been featured in Forbes, Men's Health, and has appeared on multiple seasons of Netflix's Too Hot to Handle. He is the founder of The Golden Room, a global community for those committed to deeper nervous system health, conscious living, and authentic connection. He is also a devoted father and partner currently raising his daughter between Peru and the United States.
 
You can follow Brenden's work on Instagram and on his website.
 
@brendendurell (IG), brenden.durell (YouTube)

Follow Layla!
🌸 Instagram
🌐 Website
💌 Weekly Email


🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts
🎶 Listen on Spotify
💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements
🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery
🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women
 
Timestamps
 
00:00:45 - Guest introduction
00:02:16 - How Layla and Brenden first met
00:04:09 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification
00:06:28 - What Brenden learned from teaching on a reality TV show
00:07:32 - Our society is sex forward but intimacy terrified
00:08:26 - How an invitation into intimacy can still impact people who are far from that world
00:10:44 - The part of reality TV that takes advantage of people for entertainment
00:15:56 - Layla shares her experience teaching on Netflix's Too Hot to Handle
00:17:07 - How Brenden showed up as the divine masculine for Layla during filming
00:17:27 - What the divine masculine truly is to Brenden
00:19:43 - Brenden describes what presence feels like in his body and mind
00:22:27 - Layla shares one of the great feminine arts she learned from Alison Armstrong
00:25:14 - What Brenden's partner does to make him feel more loved than he ever has
00:25:58 - This is one of the greatest acts of love a woman can offer in partnership
00:27:25 - Why sports pressure was easier for Brenden than being in conflict with his partner
00:28:36 - More men would thrive in relationship if they weren't afraid of this one thing
00:29:35 - A lot of Brenden's partner's requests that help her come out of her spirals are simple
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00:32:18 - Why Brenden's relationship has been the greatest lesson for him in intentional living
00:35:15 - How Brenden translates all his personal growth and spiritual work into lovemaking
00:39:40 - Why men need to stay big, not get smaller, to serve
00:41:08 - This is the moment a man decides to come into spiritual work
00:43:12 - What Brenden sees as the reason men have changed so drastically
00:51:02 - What makes Brenden's flavor of divine masculine different than most men's
00:51:27 - You need to be whole in yourself to finally experience true masculinity and femininity
00:53:01 - The #1 thing Brenden would have every man do when he wakes up in the morning
00:55:03 - A simple practice that can change everything for men
00:56:14 - How to bring out the best in a man as a woman
01:00:47 - Brenden shares about his experience inside Layla's program, Men's Sexual Mastery
01:05:01 - The cycle Layla has observed of High Priestesses, Kings, and Queens
01:05:34 - Conclusion