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If the apps aren't working for you, don't stress – there’s a different way to date.

Dating apps have quickly become a fixture of modern dating. They do work for a lot of people – but many are also dissatisfied with the endless swiping and paywalled features. With the apps so ubiquitous, is it still possible to date offline? Or have dating apps made some people too scared of face-to-face rejection?

Brittany is joined by Manuela López-Restrepo, All Things Considered producer and writer, to get into her offline dating journey – and what she’s learned along the way.

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Who gets to be "hot" in America? And, at what cost?

Some young men are pushing beauty boundaries with guidance from an online trend that's been making headlines: looksmaxxing. Looksmaxxing celebrates intense fitness & skincare routines, extreme body modification, and notably Eurocentric features as the holy grail of modern beauty, but who gets locked out of looksmaxxing when "Chad" is the gold standard? And how painful is it to pursue perfection that's skin deep?

Brittany is joined by Jason Parham, senior writer at WIRED covering internet culture, online dating, and the future of sex.

(0:00) What is "Looksmaxxing" and why it went mainstream
(2:15) How politics influence who gets to be "attractive"
(7:10) Eugenics and the backlash to Black looksmaxxers
(13:28) Why pursuing beauty standards leaves you feeling lonely
(18:43) How to redefine beauty and feel more confident in your body

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The privilege of being "skinny"

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Why is the culture so obsessed with men on the down low?

To some, they're a secret, sexy symbol. To others, they're carriers of diseases and lies. What is the truth about men who live their sexual lives 'on the DL', and what does our culture's recurring fascination with them say about how society treats men whose sexualities don't fit into neat boxes? Brittany is joined by Dr. Jeffrey McCune, author of Sexual Discretion: Black Masculinity and the Politics of Passing, and Kai Wright - a journalist and host for the Guardian who has been writing about sexual politics for the last 30 years.

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Is it time to rethink our food delivery habits?

According to data from the National Restaurant Association, around 60% of both millennials and Gen Z say food delivery is an essential part of their lifestyles. But are the steep prices — and occasional guilt — worth the convenience? Brittany is joined by NPR Life Kit producer Margaret Cirino, who recently scaled her food delivery habits way back, to discuss why so many have come to rely on it and what a different path could look like.

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Social media could fundamentally shift our understanding of what is and isn't "addictive."

Tech companies are back in court...and likely will be for a while. A wave of lawsuits allege that platforms - like Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, TikTok and Snapchat - are addictive and harmful, especially to children. These cases could change platform regulations and this country's interpretation of what counts as "addiction."

Brittany is joined by NPR correspondent Shannon Bond, and Dr. Carl Erik Fisher, addiction psychiatrist and author of The Urge: Our History of Addiction, to find out what these court cases mean for our relationships with social media - and how social algorithms are fundamentally reshaping our understanding of "addiction."

(0:00) Is social media bad for your mental health?
(1:54) What people are taking social media platforms to court
(7:27) How social media is changing what counts as "addiction"
(15:01) Behavioral vs. Substance addiction
(18:11) How to change your relationship to social media
(23:21) Systemic interventions for social media use

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