The Gender Knot

Last week we talked about the importance of men being allies even if they haven’t been perfect in their behaviour towards women, but is there a line to this? Today’s guest tells us of a time he was called out and ended up having to question his role as an ally to women, and we hear from author and educator Jackson Katz on this dilemma. . . . . Guests: Omar Aziz, co-host of The Samovar Network podcast http://www.thesamovarnetwork.com/podcast/ . . . . . Jackson Katz, author and educator . . . . Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far . . . . . . Co-host: Daniel Carroll . . . . . Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell . . . . . Additional links: Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee! https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot . . . . . Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com . . . . . The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group https://www.thegenderknot.com/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ . . . . . Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

We brainstorm a list of things men can do to be allies to women, and how women can best encourage men trying to be allies. And we want to hear from you on what has or hasn’t worked in your own lives. . . . . Sponsor: Blinkist - key takeaways from the world’s best nonfiction in audio or text. Get your free 7-day trial by heading over to: www.blinkist.com/thegenderknot . . . . . Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far . . . . . Co-host: Daniel Carroll . . . . . Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell . . . . . Additional links: Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee! https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot . . . . . Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com . . . . . Gender Knot merch available at TeePublic https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot . . . . . White Fragility: Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism https://robindiangelo.com/ and New Yorker essay https://bit.ly/2JNOEdj . . . . . The Gender Knot podcast and Facebook Group https://www.thegenderknot.com/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/ . . . . . Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Why are meltdowns gendered? Do we ever talk of men having meltdowns? If not then why not, and what does this mean about our expectations of how women and men can express themselves? We get some help from our friends at the hit podcast A Gay and a NonGay to figure this out. . . . . We’re off to rest over the festive season and will be back on 7th January 2019 – speak to you then. . . . . Guests: A Gay and a NonGay podcast hosts James Barr and Dan Hudson http://www.gaynongay.com/ . . . . . Host and producer: Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far . . . . . Co-host: Daniel Carroll . . . . . Co-producers: Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell . . . . . Additional links: Patreon page – support the podcast for the cost of a latte! https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot . . . . . The Gender Knot podcast https://www.thegenderknot.com/ . . . . . Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

Nas often feels like she’s walking on eggshells on this show; she has to be honest with men but also keep them engaged and not annoy them so much that they tune out of the show, and these conversations, altogether. Dan and Nas try to figure out this delicate balance. . . . . We also hear more from Kasia Urbaniak, the former Taoist Nun, former Dominatrix and women’s power coach who told us how women can ask for what they want a few weeks ago. Kasia fills us in on the ways in which women silence each other in a bid to survive and how telling a man the truth is an act of love. . . . . **Guest:** [Kasia Urbaniak](https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/), women’s power and influence coach and founder of [The Academy](https://www.kasiaurbaniak.com/the-academy/) . . . . . **Host and producer:** Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far . . . . . **Co-host:** Daniel Carroll . . . . . **Co-producers:** Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell . . . . . **Additional links:** Patreon page – [support the podcast for the cost of a latte!](https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot) . . . . . Former Gender Knot episode: [How can men best help feminism?](https://radiopublic.com/the-gender-knot-Wk23py/ep/s1!b623b) . . . . . White Fragility: Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism https://robindiangelo.com/ and New Yorker essay https://bit.ly/2JNOEdj . . . . . Gender Knot merch (https://www.teepublic.com/stores/the-gender-knot) available at TeePublic . . . . . [The Gender Knot podcast](https://www.thegenderknot.com/) and [Facebook Group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/182851532302085/) . . . . . Music: Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)

You’ll have noticed we’ve been changing the direction of the podcast over the past few weeks, with there being fewer abstract explorations of ideas and more delving into the nitty gritty of how men and women can actually better relate in these confusing times . . . . . As such we’ll have having more audience participation, so send us your thoughts. . . . . Men’s coach David Lion helps us to help an audience member with a dilemma, and tells us about his [online summit called Evolving Men](https://summit.evolving-men.com/), which is all about helping men figure out how to live more wholeheartedly. The summit features exclusive talks from 25 expert men and runs until 8th December. . . . . And we also delve back into the topic that keeps on coming up: disenfranchised men. . . . . **Guest:** David Lion (http://evolving-men.com/about/), men’s coach and founder of the Evolving Men online summit (https://summit.evolving-men.com/), running until 8th Dec 2018. . . . . **Host and producer:** Nas aka Nastaran Tavakoli-Far . . . . . **Co-host:** Daniel Carroll. . . . . **Co-producers:** Sam Baker and Jonathan Blackwell. . . . . **Additional links:** Patreon page https://www.patreon.com/thegenderknot – support the podcast for the cost of a coffee!. . . . . Write to us at: thegenderknot@gmail.com. . . . . **Music:** Government Funded Weed by Black Ant (used under Creative Commons)