111. The 8 parenting lessons I learned from my dad (eulogy)
In this podcast episode, I’m sharing the eulogy I gave at my father’s funeral this past weekend. It was 8 lessons I learned from him over the years that I want to anchor my parenting as I move through this world without him. 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting is HERE!!!🎉 You will never need to frantically reach for another script, tool, or strategy again! With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you’ll ever need as a parent. From a screaming toddler who can’t seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again. With REWIRE you will have access to my 30 day nervous system regulation program FAST WAY TO REGULATE. This 4 week program is a masterclass in neural reprogramming. Fancy words for saying - you’ll change your brain to do what you want vs. what it always does that causes ruptures and guilt! Once you know how to regulate your body under stress - you’ll move onto S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. Inside you'll learn how to adjust the gentle scripts you’ve heard to actually match the intensity of your child. This program unlocks the communication tools that have felt so out of reach for so long. Throughout the program you’ll learn how to create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! And for those who crave personalized feedback and want to hyperspeed their results - join REWIRE Level Up. Here you’ll get 6 months of weekly coaching calls and a private support page where you get my hands on support to speed up your results even more! I’ll get to know your individual challenges and be able to dial in specific strategies that are tailored to meet your needs. Don’t miss out: Check out the complete REWIRE program & Level Up today! Plus get an exclusive free training! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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110. The sneaky primal emotion that could get you out of a power struggle
How many times do you hear a sassy response from your kid and it launches you into full reaction mode? After you think “why couldn’t I have done that differently?” And the next thought is “But HOW do I do that differently?” This is the episode for you. I walk you through a new way of using a primal emotion to your benefit so that you can actually engage in better communication and find a smoother outcome! Also don’t forget to watch the replay of the Rewire Your Reactions Free Workshop! It will give you an even more in depth breakdown of how to rewire these negative patterns to come out more grounded and connected! 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting is HERE!!!🎉 You will never need to frantically reach for another script, tool, or strategy again! With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you’ll ever need as a parent. From a screaming toddler who can’t seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again. With REWIRE you will have access to my 30 day nervous system regulation program FAST WAY TO REGULATE. This 4 week program is a masterclass in neural reprogramming. Fancy words for saying - you’ll change your brain to do what you want vs. what it always does that causes ruptures and guilt! Once you know how to regulate your body under stress - you’ll move onto S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. Inside you'll learn how to adjust the gentle scripts you’ve heard to actually match the intensity of your child. This program unlocks the communication tools that have felt so out of reach for so long. Throughout the program you’ll learn how to create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! And for those who crave personalized feedback and want to hyperspeed their results - join REWIRE Level Up. Here you’ll get 6 months of weekly coaching calls and a private support page where you get my hands on support to speed up your results even more! I’ll get to know your individual challenges and be able to dial in specific strategies that are tailored to meet your needs. Don’t miss out: Check out the complete REWIRE program & Level Up today! Plus get an exclusive free training! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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109. What to do when your kid refuses to do what they said they would!
I don’t need to tell you how aggravating this moment in parenting is. You’ve made the agreement, your kid got a win, all you’re asking for is for them to follow through and now they’re NOT🤬 We’ve all been there and usually that creates quite a power struggle. In this episode I’m breaking it ALLLLLL down. I’m giving you not only telling you how to set yourself up for success but I’m also giving you the exact steps to handle their pushback effectively. This is a MUST LISTEN! Also don’t forget to watch the replay of the Rewire Your Reactions Free Workshop! It will give you an even more in depth breakdown of how to rewire these negative patterns to come out more grounded and connected! 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting is HERE!!!🎉 You will never need to frantically reach for another script, tool, or strategy again! With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you’ll ever need as a parent. From a screaming toddler who can’t seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again. With REWIRE you will have access to my 30 day nervous system regulation program FAST WAY TO REGULATE. This 4 week program is a masterclass in neural reprogramming. Fancy words for saying - you’ll change your brain to do what you want vs. what it always does that causes ruptures and guilt! Once you know how to regulate your body under stress - you’ll move onto S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. Inside you'll learn how to adjust the gentle scripts you’ve heard to actually match the intensity of your child. This program unlocks the communication tools that have felt so out of reach for so long. Throughout the program you’ll learn how to create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! And for those who crave personalized feedback and want to hyperspeed their results - join REWIRE Level Up. Here you’ll get 6 months of weekly coaching calls and a private support page where you get my hands on support to speed up your results even more! I’ll get to know your individual challenges and be able to dial in specific strategies that are tailored to meet your needs. Don’t miss out: Check out the complete REWIRE program & Level Up today! Plus get an exclusive free training! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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108. The Wild Robot wisdom we didn’t expect but need to hear!
I know this movie is from last year but I will watch it over and over again. It's so good! If you haven’t seen it, The Wild Robot will validate all of your parenting feelings! :) In this week’s episode I break down a scene where the main robot shares how she’s reprogrammed herself in order to show up for the child she needs to care for. It’s an incredible validation that we are globally stepping into a new knowledge of how this relationship thrives. We are no longer doing things because "that's the way they’ve always been done.” We are now consciously aware that this relationship takes work…but the work starts internally for us as the parent. Make sure you join my free workshop coming up on 8/26: Rewire Your Reactions!If you can’t join live, sign up for the replay and learn how to do this exact process yourself! Sign up here! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/rewire GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES!Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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107. Shift Happens when we look for the "try"
It is so easy to correct our kids over and over. Especially when it’s the same repetitive behavior that is beyond annoying. However this is RESULTS focused correction. And when we don’t get the results we want, we get angry, we get annoyed, and OUR default pattern of reaction comes pouring out. *And lets be honest, probably with greater intensity than it deserves because of our emotional trigger. In this week’s shift happens episode I talk about shifting away from the results and looking more towards the TRY. When we notice our kids trying we can see that they are in fact shifting in the direction of the results we’re after. But we’re giving it time and we’re not loading on the shame. This is a quick mental reframe and I hope it serves you as much as it served me! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
We come to parenting with all the patterns we learned in our own childhood. Together in this podcast, we uncover the roots of our reactivity and grow in education, capacity, awareness, and skills so we will be able to respond vs. react to our strong-willed children. The beauty of this process is as you become a ResponseAble Parent, the “misbehavior” of your children will lessen, the yelling will fall away and a new level of companionship and cooperation will take its place. Welcome to the journey of ResponseAble Parenting. Take a deep breath in, slow exhale out, and let’s get to work.
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