202. How To Be Empathetic Without Being Taken Advantage Of (A Word On Self-Trust and Not Tolerating Poor Behavior)
In this episode, Alissa unpacks the hidden reasons why highly sensitive people (HSPs) often struggle with self-trust, and how that lack of trust leads to people-pleasing, being overly tolerant, and losing connection with their own worth. Through personal stories and client breakthroughs, she explores how being overly empathetic can actually lead to self-abandonment, why being “too understanding” hurts more than it helps, and how to finally rebuild your self-trust from the inside out. If you’ve ever felt like you “know” something in your gut but still second-guess yourself, this episode will hit home.You’ll learn:Why self-trust is essential for highly sensitive people and how to rebuild itHow being “too understanding” can lead to self-abandonment and low self-worthThe difference between empathy and over-tolerating poor behaviorHow to hold your own standards and teach others how to treat youUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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201. The Sacred Silence: Trusting Life When You’re in the In-Between
In this episode, Alissa explores what it means to rest, surrender, and find steadiness in the silence. Whether it’s waiting on a job, a text, or clarity in a relationship, these “in-between” moments can stir up anxiety and self-doubt...most especially for highly sensitive people. Alissa opens up about hitting a wall, listening to her energy as a Manifestor, and embracing the sacred invitation of stillness. She also offers practical, compassionate tools to shift how you relate to waiting, rest, and the need for external validation. In this episode, you’ll learn:How to handle silence without spiraling into shame or overthinkingThe power of choosing rest and honoring your energy cyclesWhy stillness can be an invitation for deep inner healing and growthMindset shifts and practices to anchor into self-trust and peaceUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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200. Healing Abandonment Wounds, Raising Self-Worth, & the Rebirth of Building a New Identity
In this episode, Alissa explores the raw, emotional process of moving through self-abandonment and into a fuller, more authentic sense of self-worth. Speaking candidly from her car post-Pilates (in true real-life mom mode), Alissa reflects on her personal journey and what she’s seeing come up for her clients, especially highly sensitive people (HSPs) navigating the discomfort of change. She unpacks the emotional layers of guilt, fear of rejection, and identity shifts that emerge when we stop people-pleasing and start living in alignment. From regulating your nervous system to honoring your light, this episode is a loving call back to self.You’ll learn:What self-abandonment looks like in everyday life (and how to spot it)Why choosing yourself can trigger deep guilt—and how to move through itHow HSPs can navigate the fear of judgment or rejectionTools for regulating your nervous system in moments of discomfortWhy shifting your identity is often a painful—but necessary—rebirthThe surprising connection between self-worth and chronic health issuesHow dimming your light to avoid triggering others is actually abandoning yourselfWays to reclaim internal validation and shed the “good girl” identityHow to manage the emotional backlash from setting boundaries with familyThe empowering message behind Alissa’s trio of transformational coursesUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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199. Creating Your Own "Cool Table" (How I Helped My Client Heal Her Sisterhood Wounds)
In today's episode, Alissa shares the powerful story of a private client who transformed her self-worth and friendships by healing sisterhood wounds and learning to break free from overgiving tendencies. Alissa offers deeply relatable insights for HSPs who struggle to feel truly accepted in friendships—and gives you the exact mindset shift to start creating friendships that feel soul nourishing and aligned.What you’ll learn:How past relational wounds (especially with your mother) can affect your adult friendshipsWhy overgiving is a symptom of low self-worth—and how to shift out of itThe “do the opposite” method to rewire old relational patternsWhat it really means to create your own “cool table” and attract aligned friendsHow radical self-acceptance leads to magnetic friendshipsWhy healing self-worth is foundational for HSPs to thrive sociallyQuestions answered in this episode:Why do I feel like I always give more than I receive in friendships?What does it mean to have a sisterhood wound?How do I stop people-pleasing in my relationships?Can I build new, better friendships after outgrowing old ones?What steps can I take to feel more confident and grounded socially?Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
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198. How To Stop Taking Things Personally In Your Friendships
If you’re someone who spirals when a friend doesn’t text back or seems distant, this episode is a powerful reminder: it might feel personal...but it probably isn’t. Alissa explores why highly sensitive people often take things personally in friendships and how past wounds may be showing up in the present. You’ll learn how to identify your triggers, assume the most generous, and support yourself with compassion—so you can experience more peace in your relationships.What You’ll Learn:Why HSPs often take things personally in friendships—and how to stopThe connection between overreacting and unresolved past hurtHow your nervous system goes into “threat mode” over neutral situationsThe difference between assuming the worst and assuming the most generousHow to check in with your triggers instead of blaming yourself or othersWhy personal growth means not projecting past pain onto present peopleWhat it looks like to show yourself compassion in emotionally activated momentsTools to ground yourself before jumping to conclusionsHow to gracefully approach honest conversations when neededWhy real friendships can survive seasons of less communicationQuestions Answered in This Episode:Why do I always take things personally with my friends?How can I stop overanalyzing texts or slow replies?What if I’m triggered by a friend pulling away—how do I manage it?Why does silence or distance from someone I care about feel so threatening?How do I know if it’s a real issue or an old wound being activated?What does it mean to “assume the most generous” in friendships?When is it time to bring up concerns—and how do I do that with care?How do I stop letting other people’s actions define my worth?What’s the link between friendship struggles and abandonment wounds?Can I really feel safe in my relationships, even when things aren’t perfect?Join Confident & Content Relationships: The Friendship Edition https://www.sensitiveandsoulful.com/CCRfriendshipsUncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOWLearn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!The Sensitive & Soulful Self-Worth Course: Go from second-guessing & self-doubt to YOU’VE got YOU. Your journey to unwavering self-trust & radical self-acceptance starts HERE. Use code PODL at checkout for a secret discount!🦋🦋🦋Follow along on Instagram: @lifebyalissaThe Sensitive & Soulful Show is managed by Moms Who Podcast
Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "too emotional"? Do you often feel drained by other people? Are you moved to tears easily? If so... you just may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).
Join host and HSP Mentor, Alissa Boyer, as she breaks the stigma of sensitivity and teaches you how to embrace your sensitivity as a gift. Here, you'll always be welcomed exactly as you are.
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