Not Too Sensitive - Empowering Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) To Own Their Sensitivity

In this solo episode, Alissa explores the difference between people who tell you what you want to hear and the ones who love you enough to tell you the truth. Because validation feels good, but it can also keep you stuck.
Alissa makes the case for honest, loving challenge as one of the most underrated forms of care, and reflects on what changes when you finally have people in your corner who won't let you stay small.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why saying what someone wants to hear isn't kindness. It's just comfort in disguise.
How a blunt comment from her husband stung, landed, and lit a fire that changed everything.
Relating to your struggle and helping you actually move through it are two very different things.
What it looks like to hold space AND hold people to a higher standard at the same time.
The relationship audit: do you actually have people in your life who will lovingly call you out?

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Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

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In this solo episode, Alissa unpacks what's actually happening when you measure yourself against someone else, and how to use those moments as information rather than evidence of your own inadequacy.
The reflex most of us have when comparison hits is either self-diminishment or quiet resentment. What Alissa offers instead is a way to get curious.
Alissa shares personal examples and client stories to show what it looks like to catch the comparison mid-spiral and redirect it. The more grounded you are in who you are and what you actually care about, the less comparison has to take you out.
In this episode:
Why the first instinct is often self-criticism or justifying why the other person "doesn't count,"and how that keeps you stuck
How to read what you're comparing yourself to as data pointing toward your desires and values
A simple question to ask when comparison hits:"Do I actually care about this?", and how it can dissolve the charge almost instantly
Why staying in frustration or victim energy doesn't just feel bad. It follows you into every conversation and relationship
How knowing yourself deeply changes the way comparison lands, and how fast you can move through it

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this solo episode, Alissa takes an honest look at why validating your feelings too much can be a problem. Your feelings can be completely valid and still not be an excuse to stay stuck.
Alissa shares examples from her own life like the overstimulation of motherhood, the chaos of a busy household, the moments where snapping feels like the only option; and gets real about what it actually looks like to validate your experience without letting it run the show.
She also opens up about writing her entire 70,000-word book while postpartum, not because she felt inspired and ready, but because she showed up anyway.
This episode isn't about pushing through or toxic positivity. It's about the difference between having your feelings witnessed… and hiding behind them.
You will learn:
Why emotional validation is essential, and where it starts working against you
The "growth gap": the space between who you've been and who you're becoming, and why your biggest triggers live there
What it means to hold a higher vision for yourself, even on the hard days
How sensitive people can get stuck in awareness without action (and what to do about it)
Why waiting until you "feel ready" is quietly keeping you from the life you say you want
The relationship between self-trust and follow-through, and how your actions either build or erode it

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Alissa is joined by poet and author Bri, whose work speaks directly to the experience of being deeply sensitive in a world that often doesn’t understand it.
They talk about what it actually feels like to grow up highly sensitive, and how that shapes your identity, your relationships, and your sense of belonging.
Bri shares her experience navigating intense emotions from a young age, the pressure to suppress them, and the journey of reclaiming sensitivity as something meaningful rather than something “wrong.”
This conversation goes into:
The difference between feeling something and carrying it
Why sensitivity isn’t caused by trauma (even if trauma exists)
The healing power of creativity and self-expression
Navigating social media as a deeply sensitive person
Letting go of the need to be perceived a certain way
Learning to trust your own way of doing things

Connect with Brianna:
https://briannapastor.com/ https://www.instagram.com/briannapastor/?hl=en https://www.threads.com/@briannapastor https://www.tiktok.com/@briannapastorpoetry
Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, Alissa explores how highly sensitive people can keep their “channel clear” so they can access their intuition, creativity, and natural gifts.
While sensitivity comes with powerful strengths—like empathy, intuition, and emotional intelligence—many HSPs feel disconnected from those gifts because their inner channel is cluttered by outside noise, old conditioning, and self-doubt.
Alissa shares three ways to clear that channel so you can trust yourself more deeply, connect with your authentic perspective, and stop letting insecurity or comparison block your natural strengths.
What You’ll Learn:
Why consuming too much outside input can disconnect you from your intuition
How shadow patterns like overthinking, perfectionism, and people-pleasing block sensitive strengths
Why doing deeper inner work helps highly sensitive people access their gifts
How to develop your own perspective instead of constantly outsourcing answers
What it means to “keep your channel clear” so your authenticity and wisdom can come through

Uncover your sneaky internal belief that’s stopping you from being your most confident self TAKE The FREE Shadow Archetype Quiz NOW
Learn my 6-step process for managing & neutralizing your triggers as an HSP in our FREE UN-Botherable Workshop!
Join the Not Too Sensitive Club 🦋 My group coaching container for highly sensitive women where self-doubt becomes certainty, second-guessing turns into self-trust, and overthinking transforms into rock-solid intuition. CLICK HERE to learn more!
Follow Alissa on Substack: https://substack.com/@lifebyalissa
As a special bonus, I want to give you FREE access to my workshop for HSPs called Not "Too Sensitive" (usually $35)!
All you have to do is:
Leave a written review of this podcast on Apple Podcasts
Email a screenshot of your review to [email protected]

That's it! 😊
🦋🦋🦋
Follow along on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@lifebyalissa⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠