One of the greatest gifts we can embrace in times like this is the power of humor and how it can physically and mentally calm and soothe us. Laughter has always been a huge part of Danielle and Adam's lives, and while everyone is navigating these unchartered times, the connection we can all still make through comedy and relatability is invaluable. In this episode, Danielle and Adam also talk about how the current situation has impacted them personally. What has changed in the past week even since their last episode, and what they are attempting to keep consistent even with this storm swirling all around. Don't forget to sign up for the Marriage and Martinis "Friday Five" emails for the supplemental Date Night Questions. Episode Sponsors:
111. Maternal Mental Health with The Motherhood Center
Paige and Catherine are founders and directors of the incredible Motherhood Center in New York City. They are ensuring that pregnant women, new moms, and their partners have plenty of support, therapy and guidance while facing difficult times with anxiety and all mood disorders. Together with Danielle and Adam, they discuss why moms should not feel guilty about not feeling a "motherly instinct," how much more common anxiety is in new dads than is oftentimes discussed, Danielle's story with PPD and how everything might have been different if The Motherhood Center had existed back when she was a new mom. Right now, so many of us are feeling anxious, and just hearing Paige and Catherine's voices and gentle, knowledgable stories will make anyone feel better and more understood. If you are pregnant, a new mom, went through postpartum, or are the partner of anyone going through any of those stages, this is definitely an episode to which you should listen. Send it to friends who might be going through a rough time with anxiety, are new parents, or just want to hear more about what is being done to help women get the attention and professional help they all deserve without shame or embarrassment. Sign up for our "Friday Five" on marriageandmartinis.com to receive the supplemental "Date Night Questions" for this email.
110. BONUS: Making The Most Of An Uncertain Situation
It's tough to concentrate on anything else right now when the Coronavirus seems to have overtaken every realm of our being, including work, home life, and the media. While there's tons of coverage concerning the physical symptoms and effects, we need to remember to figure out how we can best get through the next few weeks while staying sane and keeping our family as comfortable and mentally stable as possible. We may be stuck in limited settings with a great deal of uncertainty swirling around us, but there are still some things we can control and handle in the most positive and beneficial way possible. Life Coach Amy and Danielle discuss so many of these topics in this episode, including: - How to deal with disappointment for ourselves and our kids (cancelled sporting events, parties, celebrations, etc.) - Setting a family meeting to plan and prepare for the weeks to come. - Figure out ways to focus on things other than the excessive coverage that might be detrimental to our well-being. - Transitioning from work to working from home (especially with kids around). - Being more forgiving of ourselves about things like allowing more screen time, cereal for dinner, and allowance on perks/luxuries we might not usually allow for ourselves. - Turning negative thinking into more positive circumstances. For more and our famous supplemental "Date Night Questions," make sure you're signed up for our "Friday Five" emails at
109. Discipline and Punishment
Trigger warning: this episode discusses different types of discipline. Please take care if this is a topic which is sensitive to you. This might be the most sensitive topic in Danielle and Adam's current relationship. Having a high schooler, middle schooler, and elementary schooler is tricky in terms of navigating the subject of discipline, and Danielle and Adam are hoping to improve their current strategies. Exploring discipline in the households in which they grew up, in the schools they attended, and their overall current practices, they are attempting to get to the bottom of this issue before it becomes even more of a problem between them. While Danielle and Adam both know they are raising empathetic, compassionate humans, they worry that they're not doing enough to really emphasize the importance of responsibility. Don't forget to head to marriageandmartinis.com and sign up for the "Friday Five" emails to get this episode's supplementary "Date Night Questions."
108. "How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids," author Jancee Dunn
New York Times' Bestselling author, Jancee Dunn, joins Danielle and Adam to discuss her ideas about "The Mental Load" and how her marriage almost ended after the birth of her first child. Using "escapism" to deal with an overwhelming and stressful situation, Jancee's husband left her with the bulk of the parenting responsibilities from day one, causing an enormous amount of friction to occur within their otherwise strong and wonderful marriage. Determined to resolve the issue and figure out a more balanced set of parenting tasks, Jancee went full force into research mode, talking to experts, therapists, and even a hostage negotiator to figure out how to overcome this enormous hurdle. How could they communicate their needs more effectively? How could they stop fighting in front of their child? How could they get back to being the loving, connected couple they once were? Jancee is both hilarious and relatable while telling all about her experience with what so many couples go through after kids. Her honesty is refreshing, and fits in perfectly on Marriage and Martinis. MARRIAGE for $10 Off