Doug explains how forgiveness is an act of the intellect and will regardless of how you may feel. He shares how boundaries are a vital part of forgiveness and aid in the healing process. Forgiveness is like cleaning a wound and establishing boundaries is like keeping infection away. Doug also gives advice on a number of topics including disproportionate anger, loving an angry husband who is a disabled veteran, and helping a husband who has left the faith. Listener questions and comments: Alfredo – Sometimes my mother is emotionally inept, and I struggle with forgiveness and talking to her. What should I do? (46:00) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ International Forgiveness Institute https://internationalforgiveness.com/
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Practicing Forgiveness
Doug takes a deep dive into practicing forgiveness. He outlines the process for forgiveness sharing that forgiveness is not optional but a command from God in the Our Father. Listener question Al - I disagree with you. If someone breaks into my house, I forgive you. If it comes to murder, I think its delusional to think you can forgive a murder. (20:14) Sebastian - I am struggling to forgive someone. I have been renting from close family members and they have decided not to have kids but judge us for having 5 children. (24:38) Judy - My daughter was murdered by her boyfriend. I forgave him right away. I am not going to let his actions send me to hell because I couldn’t forgive him. (40:13) John - How do you forgive someone who hasn’t asked for it or who doesn’t think they need to be forgiven. (44:19) Mike - Comment for Sebastian: Something you could do is to think about the only way they could get to heaven was by your actions would you do it? (47:19) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ The process of forgiveness Identify who you need to forgive. Examine your anger. Make the decision to forgive, weighing the pros and cons. Pray deeply about forgiveness.
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Emotional affairs & avoiding divorce
Doug goes to the Mailbag. Is it considered an emotional affair if you haven't had contact with the person and it is more of a fantasy? Should you tell your spouse about it? Should you marry someone who does not want to have children? Doug gives advice on these questions and more. PLUS: The Friday Rant! Listener questions and comments: Jamie - Is it considered an emotional affair if you haven't had contact with the person and it is more of a fantasy? Should you tell your spouse about it? (3:55) Jessica - Do you have any ideas for how I can motivate my spouse? (10:15) Kerry - I have a son who is married and has a young child. He and his wife are on the verge of a divorce. Is there anything I can do? (35:05) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/
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Show them you love them
Monica Hinderer joins Doug sharing more ways to show your children that you love them. Listener questions and comments: Norma - I have a 2-year-old grandson who kicks me a lot. What should I do to stop this? Time outs don't work. (19:18) Michelle - I don't agree with them on authoritative parents. My dad was a battalion fire chief (25:40) Thomas - In 1 Timothy it elaborates that parents should not antagonize their kids. (31:55) Thomas - How do you know you are ready to date after a breakup? (35:32) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Showing your children that you love them Enforce rules to guide children. Expect them to be responsible. Invest time in your child to show you enjoy togetherness. Create routine.
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Is my husband a narcissist?
Doug goes to the mail bag to answer questions regarding a clearly narcissistic husband. Can he demand intimacy? Also, Doug addresses how to navigate intimacy for older couples. Listener questions and comments: Mary - I was in a narcissistic marriage and to me this email gives me the impression that there is abuse and it is not a good marriage. (18:15) Sandy - My first marriage was a civil marriage. My second marriage is to a Catholic, but his first marriage was in the Church. I have applied for an annulment but my husband refuses. What should I do? (39:16) Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/ Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/ Making Sense Out of Suffering https://www.amazon.com/Making-Sense-Suffering-Peter-Kreeft/dp/0892832193 When you Suffer https://www.amazon.com/When-You-Suffer-Biblical-Understanding/dp/1616368705 Lovemaking https://www.amazon.com/Lovemaking-Talk-about-Your-Spouse/dp/164680371X Holy Sex https://www.amazon.com/Holy-Sex-Toe-Curling-Mind-Blowing-Infallible/dp/0824524713
Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air every Saturday from 11am – 12pm CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.
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